Anyone else feel like this?

XarcherX

hi All, this is basically just a rant so bare with me please. I've been in 3 long term relationships in my life, i ended the first 2 and the 3rd one ended very badly, he cheated on me. that was almost a year ago.
Since then i seem to have lost the ability to tell when men are serious about me or not... seriously, if i'm being chatted up or even one circumstance where a good friend of mine sort of poured his heart out while drunk and told me he has feelings for me but i convinced myself that he wasn't serious.
i think i've actually convinced myself that men are just out for one thing and in the last year i can't accept the fact that someone might want something more and i keep pushing everyone away.
i'd really like to stop thinking like this but it seems to be getting worse as time goes on..
any advice how i can get out of this rut, i hate having this attitude!

seenitall

Nothing to be too concerned about. I think most of us have been in your shoes one way or another - I know I have.

What is happening here is that you are still healing from being cheated on. Finding out that your trust has been betrayed is no small thing, and in the matters of the heart a year is not such a long time, not if you really loved someone.

Don't worry about it too much, the worst thing you can do is to be somehow putting pressure on yourself to feel differently. You will not succeed because we feel what we feel and our feelings are not susceptible to pressurising. Just try to relax a bit more, leave time to do its bit, and before you know it you will meet the right guy (or even A right guy ) who will make you feel fabulous about yourself and confident about falling in love again.