Think I was ripped off with my engagement ring :(

Noz

Hey there,

I was just looking on the Blue Nile website for wedding rings, if only I had found the site earlier, I think I've been majorly ripped off with my engagement ring and I feel sick now We bought it in Dublin city centre in a very small jewellers, we were a bit hasty now that I think of it, should have done more research. Please if anyone could let me know whether I have or not been ripped off, it is a lovely ring but I feel like it's been tarnished now.

It is a five-stone (round) platinum ring, total diamond weight approx. 1 carat, E colour, VVSI, ideal cut. Or so the guy said.... I might get it valued and see if there's anything I can do.

On Blue Nile the same ring costs €1700 and we paid €4000 (down from €4750). I think I'm actually going to throw up... thanks for any help and am sorry for warbling on.

RentDayBlues

Your engagement ring is something you will have for life, why does it matter if you paid over the odds or not?

Also, sorry but there is no point in crying over spilled milk!

If you want to find out the true value of the ring, then pay to get it valued but is that really going to help you?

BC

RentDayBlues wrote: »

Your engagement ring is something you will have for life, why does it matter if you paid over the odds or not?

Totally agree, what does it matter.
Also you'll always pay more in a shop that on a website.

Ickle Magoo

You feel like your engagement ring has been tarnished because you could have gotten it cheaper somewhere else? Seriously? :eek:

Over the course of married life together I would hope that a couple of grand is neither here nor there and that the symbolism and initial reasons for choosing the ring should outweigh any price tag...

Noz

If it was my own money I wouldn't feel so bad, it was my boyfriends money and I feel sick for paying €2,500 extra on something if it wasn't worth it. I don't think that makes me a bad person.

Lesson learned = shop around

07734

I had a look on blue Nile, the one for 1770 is only H colour and VS clarity, so it's very much worse than yours!!

And don't forget that blue Nile quote prices excluding VAT.

Whispered

Ah don't be so harsh on the OP. You know yourself. You don't want to be taken for a fool no matter what the circumstances.

A couple of grand over the course of a marrige is nothing, but thats not the point is it? The OP is worried that her and her fiance were charged over double what she should have been. If you honestly think you would not be a little upset over that then you're a better person than I am.

Fighting Irish

RentDayBlues wrote: »

Your engagement ring is something you will have for life, why does it matter if you paid over the odds or not?

:rolleyes:

BC wrote: »

Also you'll always pay more in a shop that on a website.

dawt

How Strange

It is a five-stone (round) platinum ring, total diamond weight approx. 1 carat, E colour, VVSI, ideal cut. Or so the guy said....

OP, the one on bluenile is a H, VS2 so they aren't the same ring even if they look very similar.

VVS1 Very Very Slightly Included #1 Inclusions that are extremely difficult to locate at 10x

VS2 Very Slightly Included #2 Minor inclusions that are somewhat difficult to locate at 10x.

You weren't ripped off and you haven't wasted your money. You saw a ring you liked/loved and you bought it. End of. Now stop wrecking your own head by looking at websites.

Of course you'll find something similar and cheaper on the internet if you go looking for it. Honestly, that's like saying you bought a coat in BT's for €400 and saw an identical one in Pennys for €10 and now you feel ripped off.

I just remembered that when I got my ring first I went on the internet to look up the cut and read that it was quite a good cut for those on a budget as you got a lot of sparkle for your money. I also read that it's very easy to detect flaws in the diamond due to the cut. I was obsessed for weeks about the obvious flaw in my diamond. Then I found something else to worry about and I forgot all about it. Until now!

I think it's quite normal to be a bit freaked out about your ring when you get it first as it's a big purchase both financially and because you'll be wearing it for the rest of your life but just leave well enough alone and enjoy your new ring and your engagement.

Kooli

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

You feel like your engagement ring has been tarnished because you could have gotten it cheaper somewhere else? Seriously? :eek:

Over the course of married life together I would hope that a couple of grand is neither here nor there and that the symbolism and initial reasons for choosing the ring should outweigh any price tag...

That makes no sense to me!!

If someone feels they paid over twice what they should for something, then they have every right to be peed off about it. What difference does it make just cos it's an engagement ring??

If someone just spent 7000 euro on their first car, and then saw the same car on sale for 3000, and felt that this tarnished their excitement at owning their first car, wouldn't you feel they were entitled to be annoyed?

Intothesea

2 or 3 grand is quite the sum of cash to add to a mortgage down payment or any other deadly serious endeavour encountered by a couple starting out, I would think. If the return period has passed there's most likely no comeback, though you could always try your luck OP Apart from that, all you can do is say that the job was done once and done well. Enjoy your engagement

Ickle Magoo

Kooli wrote: »

That makes no sense to me!!

If someone feels they paid over twice what they should for something, then they have every right to be peed off about it. What difference does it make just cos it's an engagement ring??

If someone just spent 7000 euro on their first car, and then saw the same car on sale for 3000, and felt that this tarnished their excitement at owning their first car, wouldn't you feel they were entitled to be annoyed?

They're entitled to feel whatever they want, obviously. I think it's a shame that the OP thinks it will "tarnish" her view of the ring given when her other half asked her to marry him - I'm just a sentimental auld fool and it's the item not it's price tag that makes the ring important/special and by the same token, that can't be sullied by looking up lookee-likees in other jewellery shops that are cheaper.

Wedding jewellery is nothing like a first car, to me at least...I have no sentimental attachment to my first car, it wasn't given to me as a token of my other-half's love when he declared he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and nor did I intend on driving it for the rest of my life...

Noz

How Strange wrote: »

You weren't ripped off and you haven't wasted your money.

Thank you so much! I don't know a lot about diamonds (!) so I wasn't sure so thanks for the reassurance, I feel much better now. It is so beautiful, and why I have it is very beautiful (that was never in dispute).

I wasn't looking at websites for "lookee-likees" rings, I was looking to see what wedding ring would be nice with it, jeepers what a low opinion you must have of me Ickle Magoo. Thanks for the comments guys.

Ickle Magoo

I don't know you from Adam, why would I have a low opinion of you?

My point was your ring may have cost more but it's the one with all the sentimental value and probably better quality as well and there is no way that looking at a cheaper ring that costs less should have a negative effect on your opinion of the ring you have - added to the fact that in 25yrs, the price difference would be neither here nor there, either. My advice was just to enjoy the ring you have, take it or leave it.

FrancisF

I would love to see the ring that you are comparing it to on Blue Nile. But from your description you are not looking at the same thing at all. If you want to compare prices you must compare oranges with oranges. I have not found a particular saving with Blue Nile, generally prices are about similar to the market over here. It all looks cheap when you first look at it, but when you add on the setting the stones the transport etc. The price comes to a similar area give or take.

The purchase of diamond rings is one area that I think it is best if you are able to look the people you are dong business with in the face. Do you trust that person or not.

Clive Rice

I gave this issue a lot of research when I bought my ring. I think you did not miss much by not going the bluenile route - after all what about jewellery care and having a jeweller to clean the ring or fix it if it is damaged etc etc. Not to mention that it is probably made in china and would arrive in an envelope. Anyway ... I went half way with mine and bought from www.diamond.ie. I met Fraser, the owner, and we actually discussed bluenile prices before I bought it. His price was close enough for me to be happy that I was dealing with a person rather than buying it online like a ryanair ticket! I hope this helps.

Heineken Helen

How Strange wrote: »

You weren't ripped off and you haven't wasted your money. You saw a ring you liked/loved and you bought it. End of. Now stop wrecking your own head by looking at websites.

Of course you'll find something similar and cheaper on the internet if you go looking for it. Honestly, that's like saying you bought a coat in BT's for €400 and saw an identical one in Pennys for €10 and now you feel ripped off.

I just remembered that when I got my ring first I went on the internet to look up the cut and read that it was quite a good cut for those on a budget as you got a lot of sparkle for your money. I also read that it's very easy to detect flaws in the diamond due to the cut. I was obsessed for weeks about the obvious flaw in my diamond. Then I found something else to worry about and I forgot all about it. Until now!

I think it's quite normal to be a bit freaked out about your ring when you get it first as it's a big purchase both financially and because you'll be wearing it for the rest of your life but just leave well enough alone and enjoy your new ring and your engagement.

But is a flaw not something that makes the ring unique and one of a kind? Who the hell wants a 'perfect' ring with no flaws? Surely there's loads of them? Besides, the more flaws the better surely?

I've no idea anything about my ring and I'm happy with that... couldn't tell you if it cost 500 or 5,000 and I don't care. It could be full of flaws and completely ****. I'd nothing to do with the shopping of it and it's not what I personally would have chosen but it's gorgeous and I love it and it's a ring and a diamond that was chosen FOR me, not by me... and that makes it pretty special IMO

Heineken Helen

Clive Rice wrote: »

I gave this issue a lot of research when I bought my ring. I think you did not miss much by not going the bluenile route - after all what about jewellery care and having a jeweller to clean the ring or fix it if it is damaged etc etc. Not to mention that it is probably made in china and would arrive in an envelope. Anyway ... I went half way with mine and bought from www.diamond.ie. I met Fraser, the owner, and we actually discussed bluenile prices before I bought it. His price was close enough for me to be happy that I was dealing with a person rather than buying it online like a ryanair ticket! I hope this helps.

I'd kinda agree with that... the blue nile prices look great... but I want the whole experience of going wedding ring shopping together... and then ordering it online for a fraction of the price j/k