Startin to feel unattractive!

LLcoolJ27

Hey everyone,
I'm a girl (who's with another girl) and everytime we go out for the night to a nightclub, she always gets chatted up by guys. I guess it hasn't really happened before with me, but I'm starting to feel a bit threatened. I know I shouldn't because I do trust her but I'm starting to feel a bit unattractive and **** in general, following these. This guy was hassling her on Saturday night, she told him we were together and he proceeded to try and kiss her several times. I felt very annoyed and disrespected with the whole ordeal and it would put me off going to a straight nightclub again. What is going on with these people?! I guess what Im feeling is a bit of dissapointment, perhaps jealously because she's getting more attention than me but very much disrespected. This guy even said 'How did you end up with her?' I kind of felt like **** after that because people have told me I was attractive but now I'm starting to think I'm not.
I don't know how I should handle this kind of situation again (where the guy doesn't just leave!). I don't want to come across as someone who's very jealous or possessive because it's not me and it never was.
I guess there's just alot coming out on this but I just wanted to clear it off my chest and get a bit of advice or comments on the whole thing.
Ah me confidence was a bit bashed after this wkend. :S Guess it was bound to happen at some stage! :S

CptMackey

As long as you feel attractive to your girlfriend I wouldnt worry about those guys.

Some times when us guys are drunk we take a while to comprehend no.

Also ever think the reason they are trying it on with your girlfriend is because they are scared to try it on with you (ie they think they wouldnt have a chance = your too good looking)

LoanShark

I wouldn't worry about some dunk guy in a club..
Generally when drink goes in, brains go out!

To Quote Sonny from the film 'A Bronx Tale'

"When you're alone,
late at night in bed...

just you and her
under the covers...

that's all that matters."


As Capt said maybe you're too good looking ..

LegacyUser

Hey guys

I know what you mean and thanks Maybe you're right. I just felt a little unattractive as she wouldn't even tell this guy to go away. She's a big flirt too with girls and that doesn't help with my insecurities! I don't want to play games with her and do it back because I don't like it happening to me, as its unfair and its totally lesbo lol so I wouldn't do that

I think I just need to rethink about alot of things :S

am i bovvered

Hi OP
I think the other replys have been helpful so no too much to add, except that my wife is very beautiful and I have experienced the "how did you end up with her" many times. It does not mean that I am ugly (whatever that means) but just means that looks wise I have got lucky with my wife.

The ironic thing about it is she does not think she is that great looking but as you know, most women think like that

Relax, she loves you... you love her, try and feel some pity for the sad haters.

Danniboo

Hi Op,

As for the flirting with girls thing I can see why that would upset you. Forgive me but I don't see how the guys thing makes you jealous, is your girl bi-sexual do you genuinely believe she would go off with any of these guys or is attracted to them. As a straight girl I know if another girl started flirting with me my boyfriend would not feel jealous or less attractive, because i'm attracted to men, is it not the same thing?

Dark Phoenix

Yeah its frustrating but its not just because you are with another woman - it happens the other way too.

When people are a bit or totally drunk I think subtelty is lost on them and some lads just keep following you around the pub / dancefloor / nightclub annoying you when they think in their own mind its somehow endearing or going to get them somewhere! Your girlfriend might think she is telling them out straight to leave her alone but it might not be getting through!

Unfortunately some lads don't seem to like the 'shes my girlfriend response' and somehow see it as a strange extra challenge. I can understand why you are upset but at the end of the day your girlfriend is with you and wants to be with you. I'd ignore comments that come from a drunk lad trying to score your girlfriend when she has told him she is not interested - I doubt there was much sense behind the comments!

Unfortunately drunk people annoying you is one of the draw backs of nightclubs in general