Can I leave my job?

LegacyUser

I'm 22, did one year of college before i dropped out (hated the course) and since then i've been working full time in dead end retail jobs. 3 years now. I'm not the same person i was before i started working, i'm more stressed, i spend all my time worrying. I hate it. I really want to get away from it.

However, I need money- i've a car that costs me 40euro a week in petrol (and I love my car, could never give it up), obliviously i've the road tax and insurance to pay yearly as well. I still live at home and would love to be out by myself, but if i leave work i won't be able to afford it. My boyfriend of nearly 3 years also works in the company, he doesn't like the job either but he is more reluctant to leave- he sees it as good money with minimum hours- which is true, i decide my own working hours and i'm on a decent wage.

I don't know, would i be shooting myself in the foot if i left? it's a paying job in an Ireland that doesn't have many. I want to go back to college next year (it's a part time mature student course and i won't be elegible until then) but i just want to do something more with my time in the meantime.

I know this seems very trivial against some of the other peoples problems here but it's really getting to me more and more. My boyfriend keeps telling me to stick it out, but i just don't think i can.

minidazzler

It depends, while I would advise people to do what feels right for them, you have to be more pragmatic about this.

What something more would you do? Do you have a plan? Because if you don't you are more likely to end up at home doing nothing and broke wishing you had a job.

Remember now, you can't get the dole if you quit. You did one year of college so IIRC you will have to pay first year fee's.

You say your Boyfriend is reluctant to leave....are you asking him to leave with you?

OP, this is a decision for yourself, noone here can stop your job being any less crap. But you will be broke and have nothing to do for the next year and a bit if you leave.

I would see it as better bored in a job but making money than sitting at home bored doing feck all because of lack of money.

Well, you said yourself you're on good money and don't want to give up your car etc. You can't have it all. I'm not clear on what you plan to do until you go back to college?

You might be unhappy in your job, but you might well be even more unhappy when you can't afford to do anything. I went back to college for a postgrad after a few years working and it was hard to get used to. I got a scholarship and I work part time, and I can only just afford to live. The job enables me to go out to dinner sometimes and go for a few drinks at weekends, but the idea of owning a car is a joke to me, as is going on holiday or buying new clothes. I can't see myself affording a car anytime soon, and I'm 24. I sacrificed a lot of this stuff for my education.

I just don't see the point in quitting now. You're on a decent wage, you can keep your car, start saving for college etc. You even have an end in sight now. I don't think 'I don't like it and it makes me stressed' is a valid reason to leave, well it wouldn't be for me anyway.

Kidchameleon

Stay in the job and before you know it youll be 30, unqualified and miserable. Get out while your still young. If I were you id be using now and the summer to find your course and make sure you get your place, then you can walk out of your crappy job, two fingers held high. Forget about your car, when you have a degree or whatever youll be able to affor a much better one...

Cicero

As another poster has said...get a plan first....whether it's college by night or whatever...once you have a focus, you're job won't seem quite as bad...you'll then concentrate on your plan which will mean that you will be thinking less and less of how bad your job is...at the moment it sounds like it's work for work's sake...if you want a more rewarding career, get a plan first..

mood

whatdoido wrote: »

I'm 22, did one year of college before i dropped out (hated the course) and since then i've been working full time in dead end retail jobs. 3 years now. I'm not the same person i was before i started working, i'm more stressed, i spend all my time worrying. I hate it. I really want to get away from it.

However, I need money- i've a car that costs me 40euro a week in petrol (and I love my car, could never give it up), obliviously i've the road tax and insurance to pay yearly as well. I still live at home and would love to be out by myself, but if i leave work i won't be able to afford it. My boyfriend of nearly 3 years also works in the company, he doesn't like the job either but he is more reluctant to leave- he sees it as good money with minimum hours- which is true, i decide my own working hours and i'm on a decent wage.

I don't know, would i be shooting myself in the foot if i left? it's a paying job in an Ireland that doesn't have many. I want to go back to college next year (it's a part time mature student course and i won't be elegible until then) but i just want to do something more with my time in the meantime.

I know this seems very trivial against some of the other peoples problems here but it's really getting to me more and more. My boyfriend keeps telling me to stick it out, but i just don't think i can.

Maybe there is an evening course you could do but it would be good to keep the job even when doing the college course as it is part time and it will be very difficult to get another job. Your boyfriend has the right attitude, it's just a job to get money. But an evening course or whatever with help you realise there is more you can do in the future.

LegacyUser

OP here, sorry- i should have explained more. In order to get into my course i've to do some work experience prior to it in my own time, i don't know how i'd do this with the full time job.
I'd like to get a part time job, something to keep the money going, i definatly will need an income.
I mentioned my boyfriend because we both dislike the place, but working together makes it bareable- i'm afraid to leave because i know it'll get so much harder for him. I couldn't work there without him.
There is also a huge amount of bullying going on in my workplace, from both people above and below myself and sometimes it came be a horrible atmosphere to work in.

The college course i'll be doing is part time so i won't qualify for any governement aid (as is my understanding) but i will *banks willing* get a loan nearer the date to pay for it. And that's only IF i get into the course

I don't know, this does seem like a silly problem, it's just that work is really upseting me and i'm not sure what to do.

S23

Yep get a plan. There are evening business courses in that place on Kevin St. My friend did one a couple of years back and landed a good job. Something like that seems ideal.

However, if you walk out of a job now then you are asking for trouble. You'd be surprised how many people would kill to have full time employment with things as they are.

I do agree that if its getting to you then you need to make a change. However, you need a plan. If you think you can walk out of your job and abrekadabra everything is going to be super then think again.

As was said you'll end up at home, broke, nothing to do, bored senseless and depressed beyond belief.
You need to stick in there for a while more and get yourself in a position to make your next move on the career ladder

Inari

My advice? Get a good hobby.

Seriously. Work is work. But your time in work can be more bearable when it's not all you do. If you had a good solid hobby, and enjoyed yourself more, that will carry over into work. With a happier mental attitude, and a paying job...there's not much in your way.

That's my advice...do things you enjoy in your free time.