Unreasonable?

wayhey

So.. I live in the general Kildare area and I want to do Medicine after school. I'll be 19 leaving school. Fingers crossed I'll get it and I've applied to the Dublin universities followed by Galway and Cork.

My parents want me to commute. I've researched the college day, 8am-5pm?! It'd take me roughly 1hr-2hrs to get in the door. My older brother moved out and got a place a few years ago when he did an Arts degree. We're not rich or anything but am I being as selfish as some of those "back in my day" relatives say that I'm being do you think? I've no problemo working weekends to help pay for it. I really don't want to not have a social life at college. I figure I'll become a nervous wreck by Xmas if it's like this and I've suggested working for a year if needs be to scrape the money together. Will also be working this summer to help with fees.

The main argument is that people commute to work every day to Dublin. To which I say there's time enough for that. So yeah...opinions? Am I being unreasonable or are they? T

Sir Ophiuchus

It would be unreasonable if you didn't offer to help with the money. The way you're putting it, and especially due to the ludicrous time-requirements of medicine, you probably have a point.

Get specific. Work out a budget. Start applying for summer work (around your exam study - that's still the priority!). Sit down with your parents, and go through it with them. Showing them you've actually thought through this properly and have realistic expectations and goals may make the difference.

I currently live in Wicklow (the country, not the town), and the commute is *this* close to being entirely unsustainable. If I were doing something with hours anything like medicine it simply just would not work. I agree with you on this one.

Good luck.

wayhey

How much of a pain the arse is it for you Ophiucus with regards to going out with mates in town/ clubs or socs?

experiMental

It takes me 1.5 hours to go from Dublin to Dundalk in one direction. My days are pretty long, 9 a.m to 9 pm at least two times a week. I go out, but I don't go overboard with this.

I mean, if there is a will, there is a way.

Sir Ophiuchus

wayhey wrote: »

How much of a pain the arse is it for you Ophiucus with regards to going out with mates in town/ clubs or socs?

Unbelievable. The last train home is at 6.30pm, so either I stay with a friend or I don't go out.

wayhey

Does it make it harder getting to know people then? Cos you could completely understand how hard it is to keep in touch with people when you have to go home so early... I know I'm only looking at the negatives its only cos I know so much about the positives of college already don't worry

blueelephant

firstly ill say i dont commute. im from up north so i have to live in dublin

... ive got alot of friends who commute ( from maynooth, wicklow (county), and dundalk).. and honestly i dont think they loose out on the whole making friends thing, but definetely would miss out with the 'oul going out for students nights n that. but saying that i dont think they mind tbh

im science thrid year and would have a simpler sort of day time workload as medicine ( particularly first year) where you could be in from 8am to 6pm with labs etc. i think it is this part which cripples my mate from kildare. she does sports and i know that some nights due to that she doesnt get home til at least 10.

so overall i think you should really try to explain this to your folks, and i think if you can afford it (without you and your folks having to worry and really stress about money ) live in dublin :cool:

fonpokno

I'm in a course with those hours, in by 8 most mornings, by 7.30 for certain placements. I'm not commuting myself but one girl in my class comes from Navan daily and another comes from Carlow daily. They don't complain about it and they're getting on grand in the course but they were both completely burnt out by the end of the first term.

It's a case where they're on the bus/train by 6.30 at the very latest and not home til 7 or 8 so they just end up falling into bed. It may work for a year or two but I'd say you'll be fairly wrecked if you're doing it for 5 years.