The baby face curse

LegacyUser

Hi, I am a guy about to turn 24 next week and nobody can ever believe I am this old. I have always looked young for my age and have young facial features but I really didn't think I would still look this young going on 24. While my boyish appearance sometimes does go down well with girls and has given me some successes in the past, I think a way higher percentage of women don't like young looks. Its really annoying because I am at the age now where I'm a bit more mature than I was at 21 and when I go out I'm not looking to actually meet girls rather than just been out with the lads for the nite getting wasted and hoping to score.

I don't take myself too seriously at all and have a bubbly personality but I think that when I am trying to talk to girls they just don't take me seriously because of how young I look. Even girls a few years younger than me think I look young. Its not like I get it every where I go but it does happen frequently enough where somebody will comment on it. Its always said pretty playfully and sometimes even as sort of a compliment but its definitely not good for my confidence when right for the get go somebody think you look really young. It also depends a lot of where I am out at night as some places will have older/younger crowds than others. Anyway I'm at the stage now where I almost feel like I should just start telling people I am 21 instead of 24 as at least then I won't have to constantly be told how much younger I look.

Sorry bit of a pointless post and not really a "problem" but it does actually bother me a lot and makes it so much harder to meet a girl.

tenchi-fan

I think it's your negative attitude stopping you from getting a girl! Just take a bit more pride in your appearance and try to be more confident. It would be a lot worse if people thought you were older.

mobilecore

Being babyfaced can be a good thing. No one wants to look old. Half of people dont want to look their own age

Trust me, you will appreciate being babyfaced one day
and yes as tenchi-fan said have more pride in your appearance

Ickle Magoo

I'm not sure why it's such an issue - other than the annoyance of people not believing your age. If you are aiming for a gf aged 19 - 30 then being a baby-faced 24 yr old shouldn't really hinder you, I would guess the issue you have with your baby-face is more off putting than anything else.

Be proud of you boyish good looks, you'll be glad of them before long & just ignore anyone giving you a dig about it, they're just jealous. One of my friends has a real baby-face and he uses his cute boy-band look to great affect with the ladies of all ages, so don't see it as a hindrance and it won't be!

Best of luck.

cafecolour

Being baby-faced is generally an asset.

LegacyUser

Yeah I know I should have more pride in my appearance but it just tends to make me feel inferior when a girl comments on how young I look. And I would usually at this point refrain from any thought of actually pursuing her as I feel it is highly unlikely now. It seems to be a complete perception thing and some people have told me that I look my age in the past. I do think I look younger than my age but like 2-3 years younger, not 6 years! Again though I guess we all have different perceptions. Its really annoying because while it may be uncommon enough in general there are still loads of people out there who look way younger or older than their actual age. Its like there is this conception that everybody has to look exactly the age are and it always seems to be an important theme when meeting strangers of the opposite sex. Meh, I guess at least I won't have to worry about turning it to an old man any time soon, however I am sort of hoping that I will get past the "you look 18" barrier some time soon.

CathyMoran

My gorgeous husband still has his boyish good looks and he is almost 36:eek:now, it is not an issue.

parker kent

cafecolour wrote: »

Being baby-faced is generally an asset.

I'm the same age as the OP and I find myself having very similar issues. I agree there are benefits to being baby faced, but believe me there are many downsides. A lot of girls I meet seem into the rugged look, which just is not me. It is more common to see girls going out with older guys, so it is very easy for people like me or the Op, to feel that girls prefer older looking men. The girls who like me, seem to be 18 (or the odd 35+ who wants a toyboy )

Often when meeting girls out, they simply don't believe I am 24! I'm doing a Masters (after working for a bit after my degree) and I am regularly mistaken for a first year. Which is all well and good if I wanted to date 18 year olds, but the average 18 year old is not what I like these days. Much like the OP, I prefer the company of people my own age. Not that I am a premature Grandad and want sit in with my pipe and slippers, just that I would like someone around my level of maturity.

So basically I am just reassuring the OP that there are other lads like you. Whilst I may have the future benefits of being a young, looking older man, I wouldn't mind some present benefits either

LegacyUser

parker kent wrote: »

I'm the same age as the OP and I find myself having very similar issues. I agree there are benefits to being baby faced, but believe me there are many downsides. A lot of girls I meet seem into the rugged look, which just is not me. It is more common to see girls going out with older guys, so it is very easy for people like me or the Op, to feel that girls prefer older looking men. The girls who like me, seem to be 18 (or the odd 35+ who wants a toyboy )

Often when meeting girls out, they simply don't believe I am 24! I'm doing a Masters (after working for a bit after my degree) and I am regularly mistaken for a first year. Which is all well and good if I wanted to date 18 year olds, but the average 18 year old is not what I like these days. Much like the OP, I prefer the company of people my own age. Not that I am a premature Grandad and want sit in with my pipe and slippers, just that I would like someone around my level of maturity.

So basically I am just reassuring the OP that there are other lads like you. Whilst I may have the future benefits of being a young, looking older man, I wouldn't mind some present benefits either

This is exactly the same for me. Girls generally do go out with older guys because they like the security i.e, more of a man. I have often been told in the past that I am lucky and that I have very boyish looks and the girls must love me yada yada. This of course is always said to me by older girls who would be late 20's or early 30's. The thing is though it just doesn't apply in general to girls my age and younger. Most girls I meet out will not take me seriously because they think I am so young looking. I was in Japan last year visiting a friend and I was doing great with girls. I would constantly get attention when I was out and girls seemed to love my youthful looks. I guess this is just a culture change though but obviously I was loving it while it lasted.

Anyway unfortunately back here things are very different and the mannish look goes a lot further! I am not claiming to be god's gift or anything but I constantly see good looking girls my age dating guys who are not even that good looking. I mean they look older than me for sure but I think I am better looking. Anyway I don't swing that way so who the hell am I to say that I am better looking?? Its just from the perception of what I think are good looks in a man based on the media I guess. Like yourself I prefer girls my own age who are at my maturity level and I think there is actually a nice gap in maturity of say a 20/21 year old and a 24yr old. I guess if I went out to all the student bars I would have much higher chances of meeting girls but much prefer being around people my own age plus I'd feel a bit sad chasing 1st years. Anyway guess I'll just have to let the years age me a bit and hopefully I'll be doing a lot better in my late 20's.

iwannagoonstric

hi, i wouldn't worry about it, i'm 26 now and still get IDed. Just yesterday I was talking to this woman who knew my cousin. She was all, so are you sitting the exams this year. Ah no, that was ten years ago love. Suppose it doesn't help I'm five nothing. Cheer up, there's worse thing in the world.

CathyMoran

First saw my husband in the flesh at 21, first date at 23, was instant attraction, the fact that he looked (and is) slightly younger than me did not come into the picture...you just have to meet the right person like everyone.

BumbleB

I'm the same.I'm aging in reverse.

Its a gene thing cause my sis is 32 and only looks 23. I used to have the same issue and what I did to fix it was go heavy on the weights in the gym .


I was into a few girls and they didn't want to know.I was pretty thin and weedy ,people used to call me beanpole .

A friend of mine convinced me to go training with him on a regular basis and I put on 4 stone of muscle in a very short period of time and as a everything changed for me .I went from being mr "lets just be friends" to mr "I want to **** you" in the space of 9 months.

I personally think your physique makes or breaks you in the eyes of women ,big time.

pepsi1234

Yes, being baby-faced is an asset. You will be perceived as more trustable which will help you in business and eventually when you get into a relationship. There have been studies done on this, for election posters candidates are sometimes photoshopped to have bigger eyes to look more baby faced and all the connotations along with that. Look it up.
Re: finding a girl. Try a different strategy.The one you are using now is not giving you results. First, work on identifying and changing your attitude.
Good luck!!!