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Confused about Ex Boyf

  • 20-03-2010 12:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Any advice welcome please!

    Was going out with a guy for about 7 years, but 'took a break' about 6 months ago. We live in different cities for work reasons & found ourselves drifting apart for a while. The break was my decision but he went along with it.

    We were still in contact & I kissed a few people while on the break. He started seeing someone else but told me he didn't want to & wanted to get back with me.I said I needed more time to figure things out.

    We are now seeing each other almost every weekend, but are not technically going out & are free to see other people - which is where the problem is!
    He is constantly telling me he loves me & wants us to be together but I'm hearing stories of him being with other girls around the town he lives in. He is still in close contact with the girl he was seeing a few months ago, and has been kissing another girl as well I think.

    While I know he is free to do this, it's still upsetting me as he is always telling me that he doesn't want to meet other people etc etc.

    Do I have any right to be upset? I can't see us moving forward as he is still out playing the field, and I can't help thinking that he just wants to be with me as it's a routine he is familiar with..

    Any advice please?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Maybe if you stopped playing him about he might get back with you.
    But now he has probably seen that the grass is greener on the other side he probably wont.

    You wanted the break
    you were with other guys
    you still dont want him

    what more do you want??


  • #3
    Kicks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35 ✭Kicks


    You wanted the break initially right? Well then he can do what he wants.

    You also are seeing each other regularily again but have you told him that you would like to be exclusive again? If not then again he's free to do what he wants. You've kissed other people and so has he, yet you're asking if you can be upset about it?

    He might well want to be with you but hey you were the one who called a halt to it and wanted the break - so maybe he's just decidied that until you say the words that you want to get back together then he's going to enjoy himself and he's fully entitled to do this, would you keep yourself on hold for someone who has already told you they wanted a break away for a while?

    He said he wanted to get back, you said you wanted more time - so what you expect him to just sit with his hands in his pockets while you decide whether you want to be with him or not? Seems to me a little like you wanted the break but because he's not acting now like he's mad after you you're not happy about it.

    Until you tell him you want to get back you've no right getting upset about anything he's doing.


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