The right thing?

LegacyUser

During the summer I got back in contact with a girl who I once had feelings for.
At the start it was just casual email chat etc. Then started getting flirty, we seemed to be getting on ok. and as time progressed I found my self, fancying her.
I wasnt lonely, and was activly meeting other women which I never said because there was'nt anything happening between us so i didnt feel the need to.

So as the winter came in we agreed to go ice skating, during the christmas hoildays.
so after the christmas rush, I sent her text useual folowed bye whens good for you I had a lot on with people being back for the hoildays so I had to get plans togeather.

she never replied... I gave her a few days i didn't want to seem demanding, plus at that time of the year. People are genrally busy... I left it for another week, no contact she was on facebook a few times but didnt really make an attempt, to talk not because i was playing games I just felt that I should be paitent..

So, I made a dession removed her number from my phone delted her from face book, The useual... 3 months larter i find my self thinking about her wondering how she is, I guess i miss talking to her....

I dont really want to because
(a) I fear the rejection.
(b) the insecurity and feelings it can bring.
(c) shes not made any attempt to contact me which really says it all.

In some ways I feel as tho shes played me for the third time in my life, Which is awfull, but at the same time I find forgivness and I don't know why.

Is it because im needy to nice, desperate, or maybe for some crazy reson I really do like her.

Or is she just that girl in every mans life who is the unicorn?

I don't know.

Censorsh!t

Maybe she got scared and took the cowardly way out and decided to stop talking to you?
I know I used to be a bit like this...I feel terrible about it now (and I did then), but with one or two people, once they hinted that they liked me or wanted to meet up, I just got a bit panicky and in stopped talking to them. It was really stupid of me, and I feel like a b**** when I look back at it now.

Chinafoot

confussed. wrote: »

So, I made a dession removed her number from my phone delted her from face book, The useual... 3 months larter i find my self thinking about her wondering how she is, I guess i miss talking to her....

I was initially going to say maybe she never got the text but the fact that when you removed her from your facebook she either didn't notice or didn't care means you should forget about this girl.

confussed. wrote: »

(c) shes not made any attempt to contact me which really says it all.

This is the bit you need to keep in mind. 3 months and nothing from her? I wouldn't waste my time on her again. She probably enjoyed the flirting/attention but had no intention of going anywhere with it.

Its not nice OP, but I wouldn't go back there again if I were you.

LegacyUser

Chinafoot wrote: »

I was initially going to say maybe she never got the text but the fact that when you removed her from your facebook she either didn't notice or didn't care means you should forget about this girl.

This is the bit you need to keep in mind. 3 months and nothing from her? I wouldn't waste my time on her again. She probably enjoyed the flirting/attention but had no intention of going anywhere with it.

Its not nice OP, but I wouldn't go back there again if I were you.

yep its interesting, you say attention and flirting.. So I've been more or les used as a feel good tool.

It's only just dawned how used i feel.... but thank you.

Censorsh!t wrote: »

Maybe she got scared and took the cowardly way out and decided to stop talking to you?
I know I used to be a bit like this...I feel terrible about it now (and I did then), but with one or two people, once they hinted that they liked me or wanted to meet up, I just got a bit panicky and in stopped talking to them. It was really stupid of me, and I feel like a b**** when I look back at it now.