Am I being played?

LegacyUser

Hi,
Will try to keep this as short as possible.

Around Decemeber I kissed a girl I know and we've been seeing each other a lot since. She's just out of along relationship and doesn't want anything serious, neither do I necessarily so it was fine. We just met up a lot, and hung out, and texted a bit. Not too much but fairly regularly I guess.

Anyway, since we've discussed it and we aren't really going out then I guess its fine that we do whatever when not around each other. I admit to liking her a bit but I know nothings going to come of it soon and I'm ok with that, dont need an intesne relationship now either.

Its just getting a little weird, I know she is flirty but we have a lot of mutual friends through where we work and stuff like that so we are out a lot with all of them. Its just that lately she seems to go out of her way to not really give me much attention while I'm out. She's very flirty with the guys, thats her way anyway even when I knew her before us scoring, it doesnt really mean much but I still find it a bit odd.

Same thing is since she is friends with a lot of the guys she spends a lot of time over at their house and stuff. I know she's kissed at least 1 or 2 of them since I've been scoring her and it makes me kind of uneasy. I don't know why, we both made it clear that its not serious between us, I know she's kissed those lads and I've kissed another girl one night, but it was probably more just for my own sanity than anything. I do like her and don't wanna get hurt.

I'm guessing given the situation, we are just friends who kiss, I should just leave her off and not care, if or when she wants to hang then she'll let me know, if she's flirting with other lads then I really dont like those games so I'm not gonna chase her, if thats what she wants, I'm not really sure.

I just hate girls who play games. I know we aren't serious but it was fairly cool that she'd call me up when she's not doing anything or whatever. She says shes never into games or any of that crap but thi really feels like a game. Now shemore hangs out with those lads and whoever else but she kinda has me on the long finger, she hasn't wanted to end it.

Its just odd, I kissed the other girl probably only cos I know she has kissed other guys, I know its open but really if I'm kissing her now and again I'm not bothered with other girls, I dont need to be scoring randomers ever time I go out but I dont want to get hung up on one girl if I know its not going somewhere.

So my question was, Am I being played? Think I just answered myself...

Barracudaincork

questio wrote: »

Hi,


I'm guessing given the situation, we are just friends who kiss, .

So my question was, Am I being played? Think I just answered myself...

Are you having sex? Or is it just kissing? I think any answers you get here will be based on how physical the relationship is.

Hazys

I dont think you are being played. She set out that she didnt want anything serious which would indicate to me, she wants to see other people while seeing you.

I think you know you like her a lot more than she likes you and you are hoping something long term will come out of it, unfortunitly she doesnt feel the same.


Your choices are:

To accept that its just casual and not to expect anything more than what it is

or

If you cant accept that, then break off the casual relationship and tell her you want to be serious, if she doesnt go for it, then you have to leave her go or you'll just torture yourself.