Do women think virgins are losers?

LegacyUser

I hope this question is taken serious. Do women look at men in their 20s as losers if they have no sexual experience? I've only ever snogged girls before, never even went through the 'heavy petting' thing. My problem was always that I was below average looking and extremely sensitive - if a girl rejected me I would usually be completely humiliated and spend the rest of the night inconsolable. So by the time I was 18 I just stopped trying because I assume all girls think that I'm a loser and that even if I do 'succeed', I'll humiliate myself in any sexual encounter because they'd most likely have experience and I wouldn't!

Also, some of my friends genuinely think I'm a wierdo for not having had sex and tend to change the conversation if sex is introduced. It's driving me crazy.

BobbyOLeary

Short answer, some do yes. Some don't. In my experience though what all women want is a confident man, regardless of his sexual experience.

I always wonder at these type of threads, what do you expect to get out of it? Will a bunch of people on a message board telling you what you want to hear suddenly give you the confidence to approach a woman and take her home for the night? Not a hope in hell. You know what you need to do, you mention how you're overly sensitive, work on that. Eventually you'll come to the realisation that a woman who thinks you're a loser for being a virgin in your twenties isn't worth the time of day.

The ability to feel that way however isn't easily gained and no matter how many of us say it's okay to be a virgin in your 20's, it won't get any easier.

unreggd

I agree, its more of a confidence thing

How is a woman gonna know you're a virgin unless you tell her?

Noones really great at sex in general outside a relationship, as everyone likes/dislikes different things

I dont think the fact you haven't done it is your problem, you seem low in self confidence, and maybe hesitant / shy

profitius

OP, if you want to attract women remember that its not what they think that matter its how they feel.

If you make a girl feel great they wouldn't care if you're a virgin or not. They just want more of those good feelings.

And regarding looks, its not that important especially for men. Just take care of yourself and maintain your body and that makes a better impression then someone who doesn't look after themselves.

You're sensitive because you're letting people effect your emotions easily. Most people are like that but you'll notice confident people who goes out to have a good time and if somebody said something negative about/to them it would have no effect. A person with low self esteem would be effected badly.

Women feel good in the presense of masculine men and thats what you should aim to become. Learn the traits of masculine men and get into the habit of becoming one.

Contessa Raven

Hi OP,

Your friends sound like they're uncomfortable talking about sex. That might be because they feel like they're rubbing it in your face or maybe they're just immature.

Anyway, in my experience women don't think guys are losers if they're still virgins. Some might wonder why but I don't think it would put them off. It wouldn't out me or my friends.
I was 20 before I had sex for the first time. It was my boyfriend's first time too. He was 22.

It's never too late. I do think it's your confidence that has been holding you back but you can work on that.

I used to be like you. I'd tell a guy I liked him and would be devastated when he didn't reciprocate. But I managed to work on my confidence and once I did that, I met someone! I know many people don't know how to work on confidence but I have found that the only way to be confident is to fake it.

After a while faking becomes reality and before you know it, you actually feel confident. You have to believe in yourself. If you don't think much of yourself then that shows and other people won't think much of you either. I honestly think that if you became more secure in yourself then you will find that the ladies will be more receptive to you.

I hope that helped a bit.

Good luck!

strobe

Contessa Raven wrote: »

I know many people don't know how to work on confidence but I have found that the only way to be confident is to fake it.

After a while faking becomes reality and before you know it, you actually feel confident.

Probably the best bit of advice you're going to get OP.

Black Swan

We are all born virgins. Just because someone has experienced sex does not mean it was fulfilling and meaningful; then again, it may have been wonderful at times. In essence, each of us are unique in our personalities and views of relationships, so there is no such generalised and wide-sweeping "Do women think..." as they are all individuals (as are men).

So rather than getting uptight about what "women think," chill-out and really get to know someone in depth as an individual, learn to care about them, and not worry about being "experienced;" then let nature take its course.

And if it doesn't work out, not to worry, as there are probably a half-billion eligible women for you to chose from on this planet, presenting you with almost infinite opportunities for discovery.