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The Wrong Way Round..

  • 16-03-2010 5:20pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi Guys,

    This is abit of a strange situation for me and I'd really appreciate some advice even though I think the answer is staring me in the face (walk away you idiot!!)

    I broke up with my bf of 4 years about 3 months ago because we had a fight one night and he aggresively shook me, slapped me across the face and called me some unbelieveable names (slut, ****, bitch to name a few). We had been in the pub and he was drinking whiskey. During the night I was hit on by quite a few men but I politely told them all I was taken. I always knew my bf was jealous but I didn't ever think he'd hit me.

    The next day he was full of remorse but I was having none of it. I ended it then and there and told him not to contact me. He did email me once or twice to say he still loves me but i ignored him. I was so angry and hurt.

    The anger has now faded and been replaced by a longing fo rhim. I miss him so much even though I know it's a dead end relationship. I can't trust him not to hit me again and I can't live with that fear.

    Anyway, I caved today and emailed him just saying that I miss him and hope he's keeping well. He replied and said that he's doing fine but thinks we shouldn't be in touch. He said it's over now and he's happy to move on so for me not to contact him again.

    I was very surprised by this. I thought he'd be thrilled to hear from me, so glad I missed him and that I was kind enough to give him a chance to even be friends...hah...not at all!
    I said to him have you met someone else and he said no, I promise that I haven't but I've accepted it's over and even though I love you I have let go..


    Suddenly I feel devastated. When I ended it I was fine because I was in control but now I'm just shocked at his lack or remorse and his acceptance etc. He seemed fine.

    What the hell is going on???

    I'm not even sure what I'm asking here, i guess I just feel hard done by or something?!

    Maybe I just needed to vent:(


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I think breaking up with him did both you and him a favour. You were right to walk away when the argument happened, and it looks like your ex is re-evaluating himself and his actions, and can't handle a relationship at the moment.

    Don't contact him again, get on with your life and be thankful that you were able to walk away. A lot of people find it difficult to walk away from violent relationships.

    Good luck


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