Forgetting the pill

LegacyUser

Hi
Wee question
Im 44 and my gf is 43...we're only together about 8 months but a wee problem has arisen....she keeps forgetting the pill..
I have now asked her to forget about it and we'll just use condoms but she is adamant..even though she is constantly forgetting it and today I think she has to get a morning after pill as she remembered pill after sex yesterday...too late though....it's driving me mad...
BTW a baby / pregnancy would be a disaster ...especially at our age
So how common is it for ladies to forget the pill?

LegacyUser

It's fairly common. Could you suggest that she sets a reminder on the mobile to go off at the same time each day.

Lux23

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It's fairly common. Could you suggest that she sets a reminder on the mobile to go off at the same time each day.

I used to do that. It worked so well that I didn't need to use it after a while.

How Strange

Is it possible that on a subconscious level she would like to get pregnant?

I used to be obsessed with birth control and as I warmed to the idea of having a baby I've been quite haphazard.

barleybooley

I've been taking it for around 18 months and I can honestly say I've never forgotten to take it. Maybe it would be better to look into getting the implant or some other form of contraception that meant she didn't have to remember it everyday? If she's against that then it's possible she wants a child. Sit down and talk all options through thoroughly because clearly this method isn't working.

Honestly, I don't think it's that hard to remember. I got in a routine of taking it every morning, and never forgot one. When I went to Asia, I adjusted the time I took it so it wouldn't be 'late' and it was an awkward time in the middle of the afternoon, so I just set reminders on my phone.

LegacyUser

I would forget if it wasnt for the reminder I set on my phone. Once that's set up you definitely cant forget it.

Miss Fluff

If she REALLY didn't want to get pregnant then she REALLY wouldn't forget to take it.

If pregnancy is such a massive no-no for you then I recommend you use condoms as at least you will then have control over the situation....

LittleBook

What is she "adamant" about? That she won't use condoms? Or that she continues on the pill?

It might be that she wants to continue taking the pill to keep control over her periods but she could be open to another form of contraception as well.

Having said that, I believe some women have no trouble remembering while others do. I used to take it in the morning but that really didn't work for me, the evening is better.

BUT I find it odd that she remembered AFTER you had sex. I've been known to forget but the mere whiff of a roll in the hay would be enough to trigger a mental reminder.

LegacyUser

Hi all, OP here.
Thank you for comments..

She is adamant that she doesnt want condoms yet we end up using them half the time anyhow

I agree with the posts (and its worrying..) that if she REALLY didnt want to get pregnant she would remember to take it..

I have always said, to her and others, that communication is the key in any relationship..she agrees..yet I am simply NOT ALLOWED talk about this..it appears all I am doing is nagging or annoying her...for the record I said NOTHING yesterday and just mentioned it in passing this morning...and was told not to talk about it...

So yes - now I'm concerned...especially LittleBook's comment about remembering it after sex..and it was immediately afterwards..she couldnt even find it...>Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh


Some straight talking needed methinks...thanks all

SarahSassy

But if she was trying to trick you she would not be telling you she forgot to take the pill and then using condoms. She would be pretending she was on it and having unprotected sex with you.

At 43, she the odds of getting pregnant by missing the odd pill must be fairly low. have you considered getting the snip? It woul solve the problem if you are sure you dont ever want kids

KnocKnocKnock

Can she get the contraceptive injection or a similar long term method?