Bunny boilers, do guys want them?

mut

Question for the guys out there, do ye secretly want bunnyboilers? You know the girls that text you 50 times a day and go nuts if you don't reply immediately, demand to know where you are all time, drop their friends and hobbies to be with you at your beck and call, go nuts if they see you talking to a girl etc?? I know girls who are like this and no end of guys lining up to stick around and take it, WTF????

minidazzler

I could be all PC and say, well, I'm sure some guys do, but TBH my real answer is FCUK NO.

I can't think of any reason anyone would want a person who compulsively calls them, gets extremely jealous....and well, is kinda psychotic!

I mean, I like girls who are a little out there but a Bunny Boiler is a no-no!!

Silverfish

mut wrote: »

Question for the guys out there, do ye secretly want bunnyboilers? You know the girls that text you 50 times a day and go nuts if you don't reply immediately, demand to know where you are all time, drop their friends and hobbies to be with you at your beck and call, go nuts if they see you talking to a girl etc?? I know girls who are like this and no end of guys lining up to stick around and take it, WTF????

OP, how is this a personal issue for you?

krudler

Hell no, been there done that bought the shirt, its hell. Stupidly oversensitive women who look at any sort of interaction with another female with ludicrous jealousy are best stayed away from.

StillWaters

minidazzler wrote: »

I could be all PC and say, well, I'm sure some guys do, but TBH my real answer is FCUK NO.

But some guys do, like some girls want controlling boyfriends. But it is incredibly dysfunctional, and the people who want this tend to be too damaged to conduct a real relationship.

Dudess

I'd imagine any who do are in a tiny, tiny minority. It might give those with extremely poor self esteem a sense of being wanted and special.

I know a couple of guys who like this behaviour, and they're equally immature and headwrecking. Birds of a feather flock together, IMO.

Agent J

No.A thousand times no.

Some of us might have a blindspot though and not realise the truth for a while though.

AnonoBoy

No of course guys don't want them.

mut

I suppose its a personal issue as made single recently (yet again)and just came up in conversation with a friend of mine and guess was just wondering if this is where I am going wrong, that I'm too relaxed about these things (the said ex thought it was great as previous gf had him on a tight leash)and should be more bunny boiler like!! I know stupid or what.

Taltos

sunflower27 wrote: »

The only guy that would accept that is someone with insecurity issues himself that needs to feel wanted. Yeuch!

Agreed.
And guys like that actually love themselves much more than they will ever love the other person. Makes them feel wanted - hunted more like...

so

NOPE....

prinz

Taltos wrote: »

And guys like that actually love themselves much more than they will ever love the other person. Makes them feel wanted - hunted more like...

So accurate it's scary. . OP I only know one guy who goes for girls like that and what Taltos said above fits him 100%.

Danniboo

I'll find you!!!!!!:D:D:D

No seriously I am a female and cringe with embarrassment when I see girls carrying on like this. I once lived with a girl who tried the whole "fake pregnancy" thing. Scary. I can't imagine why any well balanced man would want to be with someone like that.

Sanjuro

mut wrote: »

Question for the guys out there, do ye secretly want bunnyboilers? You know the girls that text you 50 times a day and go nuts if you don't reply immediately, demand to know where you are all time, drop their friends and hobbies to be with you at your beck and call, go nuts if they see you talking to a girl etc?? I know girls who are like this and no end of guys lining up to stick around and take it, WTF????

Absolutely not. I dated someone who made me the centre of their entire universe and it was a complete disaster. She was absolutely paranoid about every single thing I did, and when things came to a head and I broke up with her, she was impossible to get rid of, and tried everything, even threatening self-harm if I didn't hang onto her.
Independence is very attractive. It's a sign of a person who is sensible, well-adjusted and confident. I cant think of anything less attractive than being somebody's crutch.

legend365

I always thought a bunny-boiler was someone who doesn't let you get any

..but yea these girls obviously start off with attractive qualities and then unleash the bunny from within O_o

Agent J

Sanjuro wrote: »

Absolutely not. I dated someone who made me the centre of their entire universe and it was a complete disaster. She was absolutely paranoid about every single thing I did, and when things came to a head and I broke up with her, she was impossible to get rid of, and tried everything, even threatening self-harm if I didn't hang onto her.
Independence is very attractive. It's a sign of a person who is sensible, well-adjusted and confident. I cant think of anything less attractive than being somebody's crutch.

Agreed.

And you sound like you are talking about one of my exs......

Tail Wagger

mut wrote: »

Question for the guys out there, do ye secretly want bunnyboilers? You know the girls that text you 50 times a day and go nuts if you don't reply immediately, demand to know where you are all time, drop their friends and hobbies to be with you at your beck and call, go nuts if they see you talking to a girl etc?? I know girls who are like this and no end of guys lining up to stick around and take it, WTF????

Sounds exactly like the ex-wife, or her mother. A right pair of bunny boilers.

Tail Wagger

Silverfish wrote: »

OP, how is this a personal issue for you?

He's just looking for one of them?

magneticimpulse

I can relate to the OP. When I started dating my ex, for about the 1st 6 months, I really didnt care what he did. I was extremely happy, I went away for weekends with my friends and he went away for weekends with his friends. It was long distance, so he would tell me about house parties, show me photos of lots of girls at the parties, tell me that some girl had made him cake at work and invited him to have tea break....all this I thought grand. Absolutely didnt batter an eyelid. I thought, if he likes me we are together, if something happens and we are not right for each other...then well we will break up.

Then he started looking through my private emails, text, laptop, photos. At parties, he would complain I was dancing all night with the girls and left him alone with the lads. He said i was horrible and rude to do that, and that I didnt kiss him enough at the party!! Like I was ashamed to be there with him. I was like WTF? Does he want me to be a bunny boiler?

Then I started to show more of an interest in him...and yeah he started to tell me I was a bunny boiler and to get lost. I felt I had been set up by him. Like he wanted all the attention and me chasing after him. Looking back I would have been quite happy if we just ended things after the party, when he said I showed him no interest.

Yes there are men that want you to fall at their feet. Just move on in life, get someone mature and doesnt have these personal problems that they feel the need to be "wanted". Im sure normal guys must exist. Seriously people like that will just wreck your head and give you low confidence to make them feel good about themselves.

LegacyUser

Hi

I can also relate to this. It happened with one of my Exs. Guys who call women bunny boilers etc... are actualy the ones with the issues. My Ex was very needy, clingy, sulked and threw tantrums when he didn't get enough attention. I agree with the above poster. Avoid anyone who rants about their Exs being bunny boilers, it only indicates what they themselves are like.