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Telling her how i feel

  • 14-03-2010 3:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Not long out of a 2 year relationship, Just at the end of that relationship i became v. friendly with a girl i met at work, we got fairly close over the last few months and hang out quite a bit.

    I have had a bit of a thing for this girl from day one, i never acted on it because originally i was with my x, then even after that there was all ways something else in the way, in the last few weeks we have become such good friends i was hesitant to jeopardize that by doing something stupid.

    Last week we were out drinking ended up in a nightclub everyone was drunk, one of my other friends that has never met her was there and they ended up kissing each other, I seen this and it was obvious by my reaction that i wasn't happy, i didn't do anything stupid but wasn't in good form after that.

    Ive seen her be with other people before and it hasn't bothered me i think it was just because it was a friend, i am a good looking confident guy and have no problem getting girls normally but it seems so much harder with her because i actually like her.

    So i will be seeing her later tonight, do i tell her how i feel, she probly suspects it from my reaction to her kissing my friend a few nights ago, im thinking of just getting her alone to night and coming clean that i have feelings for her, im just worried she will say she doesn't like me that way and ill ruin or friendship as well. any advice?


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  • #2
    dammitjanet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 711 ✭✭✭dammitjanet


    Firstly, that wasn't cool from your friend, did he know you like her? No respect for guy code there!
    However, there is a slight chance she did it to get you jelous/find out if you're into her i know i've used that tactic before for guys i like (granted that was when i was a wee little thing!)

    It seems like a silly thing but have you ever considered a few little throw away comments in jest like "we should get married one day" or "when we've kids we're raising them catholic" just to see what her reaction is like? My OH did this on me (not to my knowledge) and he said my reactions of blusing and mummbling told him everything he needed to make the first move.

    Anywho, just do not go in there was a bunndle of nerves if you can help it. If you don't tell her tonight, there's always tomorrow. Just keep it comfortable

    And if you get together and it feels wierd, it's okay. It'll only be a problem if you let it! Hell I was so paranoid after i kissed my OH for the first time that if it didn't work out we wouldn't be friends anymore that i made a joke right after (I told him he kisses like his Ma). We were 3 years together last month :D


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