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Unbeliveable

  • 12-03-2010 2:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My Mam was diagnosed with cancer on Tuesday it was a huge shock to us all and we were very upset.

    Then last night my BF of two years told me he wasnt happy and hasnt been for awhile. And wants to be friends. WTF. I was very calm and just said nothing ended up falling asleep in each others arms crying. I am just broken today and dont know what part of me hurts more.

    I dont know what to do.


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  • #2
    She Devil
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,032 ✭✭✭She Devil


    Oh my god you poor thing, your BF is probably overwhelmed with it all. You need to be there for your mom!! I wish I could help, I don't have much words of wisdom but couldn't read and not reply! :(

    Try to talk it through with your BF, maybe you could work on whats wrong?


  • #3
    JonathanAnon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,718 ✭✭✭✭JonathanAnon


    In shock wrote: »
    Then last night my BF of two years told me he wasnt happy and hasnt been for awhile. I dont know what to do.

    Sorry about you bad news. Am I right in thinking that you told your boyfriend about your mother and then he told you he wasnt happy. Or were they two independent events?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Op here no he knew about my Mam we were told that on Tues. And last night he gave dealt me this blow.

    Havent heard from him at all today apart from when he left this morning and not sure if I want to.


  • #5
    WindSock
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,239 ✭✭✭✭WindSock


    Sorry to hear about your bad news, OP. Regarding your boyfriend situation, he said he wanted to break up for a while, I guess his timing is off. Do you think for your sake he should have left it a while longer?


  • #6
    pookie82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,217 ✭✭✭pookie82


    Incredibly bad timing OP and completely out of line. I don't care how desperate he is, this is not the kind of thing you drop on someone who has just been devestated by bad news.

    I would leave him to his own devices for a while. Concentrate on yourself and your family and friends that will be there for you. His putting you through this at such a time is pretty despicable. But don't waste time on thinking about that - focus your energy on being there for your mum and thinking positive.

    I hope she comes through it.


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  • #7
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    OP I'm so sorry to hear your bad news.
    I'd say your boyfriend was having doubts and your mam getting sick just spurred him into action as he knew he would have to be a rock for the next few months/years for you and he wasn't up to the challenge.

    I would just focus on your mom for now. Spend lots of time with her and as a family you will all get through this.


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