Its only going down hill

LegacyUser

Right heres the problem,
I got let go last august and haven't been able to find work since. In the mean time my girlfriend has been supporting us. Between rent and food bills etc. I have a couple of loans and cc's and buy the time i pay these with my social. I have all but nothing left to provide for us. Ive noticed she starting to miss payments on her phone bill easy pass among other things. Now ill be honest i love her to bits but i cant help thinking that im on a slippery slope to no where and im bring those who i love down with me. Should i walk away for the benifit of her? Ive looked for jobs tiredlessly and have got no where..
Any help appreciated.....

seamus

+1 Talk to her about it

If the situation was reversed, would you want her to leave you or would you spend every penny you had supporting the two of you until she got back on her feet?

I'm sure it's putting a strain on the relationship, but only if it goes unsaid.

Maybe start looking for part-time work outside of your chosen field? Anything at all, no matter how mundane, just to get a bit of cash coming in?

Remember that this is only temporary. You're not going to be out of work for the rest of your life or even for the next ten years. It's a blip which needs getting over and having debts is not the be-all and end-all.

daveo90

aw sad story but it sounds like you have a great partner there,

Ah **** life does be hard, don't leave as the other commenter said what if she couldn't work im sure you'd support for for awhile.

I'm in a relationship and I really don't care about given money if its needed ..as long as they are happy and it makes them feel better and they can survive . i guess thats what matters.

LegacyUser

That was hard luck being let go from your job OP.

As other posters have said, your girlfriend would probably be devastated if you walked away. Yes money is tight, but you'll both make it. I'm sure your girlfriend would rather have her caring boyfriend and some money worries (which will be sorted out), than all her bills paid off but no-one to share the good times with!

Talk to her and tell her that you've noticed that some bills have gone unpaid. Then ask her if she's finding it difficult to support the two of you on one wage. Then the two of you can discuss ways of earning extra money to pay off some debts. You won't find the solution to your problem overnight, but the important thing is there is a solution that doesn't involve you thinking you're a burden.

Good luck

LegacyUser

Hi Op,

I am in your gf position in a way! My bf was out of work for awhile and has had to move abroad to find work. He doesnt earn a massive amount and with loans & credit card repayments + the cost of living in a different country, he often falls short.

Whilst I earn very little I am always happy to pay for a credit card repayment here and there as I know whenever he has a good week he will pay me back/pay for my next flight to him.

I have on occassion sacrificed paying my CC early, nights out if I know he'll need my help. He hates asking for it and on numerous occasions esp if I give him the money off my cc he HATES it. But I love him and he loves me and therefore we work together.

Talk to you girlfriend, tell her hate putting her in a position and while you are realistic that you need her help you want to help in every way that she isn't getting herself into debt.

You will get a job and you will repay her so until then just be open and support her in everyway, as she seems to do for you

Best of luck xxxx