Called out Wrong name in Bed

LegacyUser

Made a big slipup last night. I was having sex with my new girlfriend, who I've been seeing for only a few weeks. I was doing her from behind, and as I was coming, I accidentally said the wrong name.
To make matters worse, I said probably the last person's name I should have, her best friend's.

Not only does her best friend look an awful lot like her, but I dated for a little bit a few months ago, before I started going out with my current girlfriend.

So, of course she took this really badly. Just blanked me, when i tried to explain it meant nothing. Wouldn't speak to me afterwards. This morning by the time I'd woken up, she already left.

So what do I do now? I am really sorry, and it meant nothing. Despite what she thinks now, I have no feelings at all for her friend.
I wasn't even thinking about her in bed, it just somehow slipped out.

Trying to explain this just made her more upset. I feel terrible. Anyone ever been in this situation before? What should I do to show her that I care about her, and not her friend?

Cheap Thrills!

Thats one big fcuk up there buddy.

I've accidentally called my current BF (who I adore) by my exes name (who I despise) but never in bed. So I know there is such a thing as a brain fart but this is bad.

You called out her friends name who you used to go out with who looks like her?

Are you sure it was just a brain fart?

You can meet her and try to grovel but it wont be easy.

LegacyUser

themarmadas wrote: »

I was doing her from behind, and as I was coming, I accidentally said the wrong name.

I think you should give her some space first of all and don't go ringing her and sending her loads of text messages trying to explain yourself. If you have already tried to explain yourself then you are best to wait until she is ready to listen to you, at the moment shes not and probably quite hurt at this point.

Kiera

If it had been a random name or an ex she didnt know about you'd be ok (we've all done that) but her mate? Thats gotta hurt!

You have a lot of making up to do i'm afraid. Best of luck.

LegacyUser

Heya,

I've called my current bf my ex's name a couple of times, once when I was half asleep and it was in sexually charged/slightly argumentative sentence, he freaked I was in the dog house the next day! The next time was when we were nearly in a crash and I shouted the ex's name. Thankfully this worked to my advantage as he realised I only said it cause I associated a crash with the ex because he was a crappy driver!

Things slip out, and esp at the start of a relationship because you may talk about past relationships etc! He called me his ex's name a couple of times but it was always in heightened situations when it just slipped out! It annoyed me but due to my past slips I couldn't blame him.

Give her reassurance and make sure she knows it was totally random rather than you wanting it to be the other girl. Your OH will have noticed they look alike etc and therefore may have some doubts as to your reasoning behind it. Grovel and make her see she's the one for you and you'l be grand

Good Luck!