Man-engagement rings - Diamonds...unmanly?

Supercell

I would quite like a nice platinum band. But maybe a little sparkle would be nice too if I'm not immediately branded a closeted ghey by anyone that sees me..

This looks ok'sish to me :-



What do you reckon, should men stick to a plain white or gold band or is there a place for a little subtle bling?

antiskeptic

Supercell wrote: »

I would quite like a nice platinum band. But maybe a little sparkle would be nice too if I'm not immediately branded a closeted ghey by anyone that sees me..

This looks ok'sish to me :-



What do you reckon, should men stick to a plain white or gold band or is there a place for a little subtle bling?

A man engagement ring? Of any type? Sounds like a marketing ploy to me.

Supercell

Supercell wrote: »

What do you reckon, should men stick to a plain white or gold band or is there a place for a little subtle bling?

I think it looks nice.

Zaph

Dear god, that's horrific, both the ring and the concept of an engagement ring for men. Sounds like the jewellers' equivalent of a "Hallmark holiday".

bigbadcon

Im dreading even wearing the wedding ring.

I hate rings.

Why dont you get a nice diamond earring instead ...sorry

If you like it go for it..

seamus

Supercell wrote: »

What do you reckon, should men stick to a plain white or gold band or is there a place for a little subtle bling?

It's personal preference, but I think that any kind of jewels on male rings looks tacky, like you're trying to be gangsta or something.

My wife wanted to buy me an engagement ring and was pointing out stuff with diamonds in it which I was totally rejecting. Turns out that she just felt guilty about the cost of her ring and wanted to buy something fairly costly for me in return.

In the end, I just got a white gold ring to replace another ring I had which was a little less "grown up" than I am

Clareman

When I turned 21 I got a ring from my parents, I wore that until I got married, I used to wear the wedding ring around the house when I was on my own to get used to it, now I don't notice, it's actually easier to wear a ring on the left hand for some reason.

I don't think men should wear engagement rings, definitely don't think they should wear diamond rings

Toots

If you want to get diamonds in your wedding ring, I'd say go for it. That particular ring wouldn't be my taste, but each to their own. I think 'Man engagement' rings is a marketing ploy though.

Supercell

Ok, so diamonds are out then!
I do want a simple platinum band. I've waited a long time (i'm 39) to find someone crazy enough to want to marry me , i want to shout out to the world that i'm taken and happy to be so.

Lillylilly

I don't understand how a male engagement ring is any more a marketing ploy than a female engagement ring. My partner and I have agreed on him wearing an engagement ring when we get engaged for the same reason I will wear one- as a symbol to each other and everyone else that we have made a promise to get married and spend our lives together.

I agree that a lot of rings, including the one pictured above (no offence, OP) are a bit "bling" for men. We haven't yet found a ring that suits my boy- he's kind of hippie/ Celticy and does not like girly rings! There are a few cool titanium rings out there with the smallest of diamonds that could look funky!!

http://www.justtitanium.com/product_info.php?cPath=61&products_id=902

http://www.tirings.com/designer-wedding-rings-64/hip-to-be-square-288787.html

http://www.titanium-jewelry.com/r706b-d.html

uberwolf

Zaph wrote: »

Dear god, that's horrific, both the ring and the concept of an engagement ring for men. Sounds like the jewellers' equivalent of a "Hallmark holiday".

the cynic in me see's diamonds as an invention of the jewellery industry

seamus wrote: »

My wife wanted to buy me an engagement ring and was pointing out stuff with diamonds in it which I was totally rejecting. Turns out that she just felt guilty about the cost of her ring and wanted to buy something fairly costly for me in return.

A watch. Although I'm struggling to shop for one, because I can't fathom that cost sitting on my wrist when I have so many other things I need, want and like. Girls have had a lifetime to come to terms with the idea!

antiskeptic

Supercell wrote: »

Ok, so diamonds are out then!
I do want a simple platinum band. I've waited a long time (i'm 39) to find someone crazy enough to want to marry me , i want to shout out to the world that i'm taken and happy to be so.

But blokes just don't wear engagement rings so you'll be making no statement. If you wear a platinum band on your wedding ring finger it'll be taken that it's a wedding ring.

(you might consider palladium instead of platinum btw. The two metals look identical - both much harder wearing than white goad - but palladium prices happen to be low at the moment so there's better value to be had.)

Congratulations on your find too.

Toots

+1 on the palladium, to look at it you'd never know it's not platinum. My h2bs wedding ring is palladium, and when we were looking for the rings there was an identical one in platinum. The only difference was the palladium one was about €500 cheaper.

Owen

Diamonds are a girls best friend. And a male engagement ring? Dear lord what next.

antiskeptic

PaintDoctor wrote: »

Diamonds are a girls best friend. And a male engagement ring? Dear lord what next.

Invent diamond based engagement rings to consume stocks of diamonds. Invent eternity rings to consume even more diamonds. Invent diamond based "push-presents" to signify yet another significant "love-event": the birth of children. Then start showing the Stars showing off their diamond encrusted wedding rings...

When you start reaching the limit of what you can convince women to buy/be bought you have to shift to new, fertile ground.

It's be interesting to see whether men take up the bit.

antiskeptic

Toots* wrote: »

+1 on the palladium, to look at it you'd never know it's not platinum. My h2bs wedding ring is palladium, and when we were looking for the rings there was an identical one in platinum. The only difference was the palladium one was about €500 cheaper.

I'd a friend in the trade make up mine and he was pointing out that there are times when the price of Palladium is higher than Platinum and it's only at present that the swing is the way it is.

I was just thinking to myself that I was immune from the (unspoken) idea that one should spend money for moneys sake - in my not plumping for the more expensive Platinum.

...until I realised that there's virtually no difference between a Palladium ring (after 6 months use the shine is thoroughly gone) - and stainless steel. Yet I'd balk at wearing a stainless steel wedding ring.

PinkLady001

antiskeptic wrote: »

...until I realised that there's virtually no difference between a Palladium ring (after 6 months use the shine is thoroughly gone) - and stainless steel. Yet I'd balk at wearing a stainless steel wedding ring.

That's funny, we were looking at wedding rings recently and the jeweller was selling a stainless steel wedding ring for men, €35!!
he said they were becoming so popular as they are so hardwearing and that by just looking at it most people were unable to tell them apart from platinum.
my oh loved the idea.

tfak85

uberwolf wrote: »

A watch.

how about something like a watch? or something you wouldn't buy yourself...
my OH is getting an engagement bass guitar, it's one he's wanted for a long time and costs just under the price of the ring...

my brother in law has diamonds in his wedding ring but they are in the side of the band, it is a fairly similar shape to the one you put up OP only you can only see the diamonds if they are pointed out to you, it's nice....

fozzle

Lillylilly wrote: »

I don't understand how a male engagement ring is any more a marketing ploy than a female engagement ring. My partner and I have agreed on him wearing an engagement ring when we get engaged for the same reason I will wear one- as a symbol to each other and everyone else that we have made a promise to get married and spend our lives together.

Smart girl. First off, supercongratulations Supercell! Secondly I really don't understand why so many people here are freaking out about a guy wearing an engagement ring - sod 'em. The thing you need to think about with it is how it will look with your wedding ring - if you're getting a plain wedding band are you better getting an engagement ring with a pattern or some stones just so it doesn't look like you're wearing two wedding rings

You obviously have your heart set on an engagement ring so I'd say try a bunch on until you find the right one. And remember to try them on with a wedding band to give you a better idea of how it'll look long term. A friend of mine has diamonds on his wedding ring (set in like the one in your first post) and they don't look like bling (it's the only jewellery he wears - he's not gangsta or anything!).

Get your diamonds, to hell with this lot! Being different is a good thing - don't think like a teen that has to conform!

Good luck!

antiskeptic

fozzle wrote: »

Smart girl. First off, supercongratulations Supercell! Secondly I really don't understand why so many people here are freaking out about a guy wearing an engagement ring - sod 'em.

I don't suppose anyone has anything against it per se.

I think folk suspect that man-engagement rings are a marketing ploy by vested interests (just as the idea of putting a diamond in a girls engagment ring was a marketing ploy by vested interests that has taken such a firm hold that folk now think there is something genuinely traditional about it(just look at the engagment ring sticky thread) and see a man going down that route as being a patsy to a vested interest.

It's not that anyone has much objection to men being a patsy to a vested interest (given that men are frequently patsies to flash car advertising telling them how manly spending vast sums on ... transport ... is). It's just that there is something unseemly about being a patsy to a traditionally 'girly' vested interest.

It's a bit like the recent-years push to flog male skin care products. Slightly "eeky" and cringy. But hell, if you push for long enough and hard enough, eventually you'll fabricate a "norm" out of anything you like

Ain't advertising a bitch..

biko

No way, and not only because of the strife blah blah in Africa blah but also because it looks silly, in my opinion.
How about the classic Claddagh ring?

Toots

Magnus wrote: »

No way, and not only because of the strife blah blah in Africa blah but also because it looks silly, in my opinion.
How about the classic Claddagh ring?

Ooh, that's a nice idea, you could get a nice Claddagh and wear that on your ring finger until you get married.

Supercell

We have decided that there will be just a switching of fingers reather than buying of extra rings. So our engagement rings will be our wedding rings.
I'm leaning towards a palladium ring/band at this point (without the diamonds!).

We will be spending a romantic weekend in Hong Kong before we get married and are going to pick out the rings then

tfak85

Supercell wrote: »

We have decided that there will be just a switching of fingers reather than buying of extra rings. So our engagement rings will be our wedding rings.
I'm leaning towards a palladium ring/band at this point (without the diamonds!).

i really love the idea of just having one ring and just switching hands, it gives me fuzzy feelings and old school vibes, i think it's great. my OH REALLY wanted the engagement guitar so i am therefore having two rings....

Toots

Supercell wrote: »

We will be spending a romantic weekend in Hong Kong before we get married and are going to pick out the rings then

I'm so jealous!!!!! Wanna go there for my honeymoon, but given the time of year we're getting married it would work out very very expensive. Hope you have a fabulous time!!