Is it ok to be a loner?

LickLickLick

I don't have any friends, plenty of acquaintences and am in a year long relationship at the moment. People find it strange that I'm happy without friends. I don't like clubbing, drinking that much.
I'm 19 btw. I just kinda fear i'll forget how to make friends but I do like my own company.

What's everyones thoughts? Do you like your own company? Do I Have to have friends?

Emme

LickLickLick wrote: »

I don't have any friends, plenty of acquaintences and am in a year long relationship at the moment. People find it strange that I'm happy without friends. I don't like clubbing, drinking that much.
I'm 19 btw. I just kinda fear i'll forget how to make friends but I do like my own company.

What's everyones thoughts? Do you like your own company? Do I Have to have friends?

You don't have to do anything but surely it's better to have good friends? OK, you're in a relationship now, but what would happen if the relationship ended.

Not everyone likes clubbing or drinking. Would you be interested in sports clubs or hillwalking? That might be a good way to meet people who aren't into clubbing or drinking.

i-digress

LickLickLick wrote: »

I don't have any friends, plenty of acquaintences and am in a year long relationship at the moment. People find it strange that I'm happy without friends. I don't like clubbing, drinking that much.
I'm 19 btw. I just kinda fear i'll forget how to make friends but I do like my own company.

What's everyones thoughts? Do you like your own company? Do I Have to have friends?

I was the same as you at nineteen, and still am. I'm really not into the whole clubbing and drinking scene.

You say you have acquaintances. Does that mean you only see them occasionally, or that you find it hard to connect with them?

LickLickLick

i-digress wrote: »

You say you have acquaintances. Does that mean you only see them occasionally, or that you find it hard to connect with them?

I see them in college etc we chat, laugh, get on well, have breaks together and all that but they're all mature students really so I dont see a deep friendship starting..

kjl

its okay, but not ideal.

I understand that you don't like clubbing or the drinking scene, but there are a lot more things to do in college than drink. You could go to debates or join a sport. The point is you don't have to be a recluse.

Your other half wont be too happy either thinking that they are your only company, trust me, it will be come an issue before long.

LickLickLick

kjl wrote: »

Your other half wont be too happy either thinking that they are your only company, trust me, it will be come an issue before long.

i dont think so as he wants to constantly spend time with me whereas I like some time apart

Denerick

This might be controversial, but being in a relationship would imply that you are not a natural loner. As long as you are happy in your own company, then it's OK. But more importantly, who decides whether it's ok or not? Who cares if people think it isn't? You're not causing harm on anyone else.

lcrcboy

Im not trying to be smart here but I find it diffuclt o believe there are no students your own age at the college, take a look around often you will find the very large groups of people who live in student housing and go to college togethor and you will always find smaller groups dotted around in lecture halls just strike up a conersation with them if your sitting close by preferbally something about class or the lecture.
there is nothing wrong with being on your own but some times its nice to hve a small group of friends besides your OH

WindSock

If you're not lonely then it's fine. But you are in a relationship, so you do have someone to talk to everyday.

tommykp

I was in a very similar situation as yourself, up until about a week ago when my girlfrind broke up with me. This was probably one of the main reasons for the breakup. Now I'm completely alone, and am trying to force myself to try and make new friends, somehow. I rekon that if you are worried about this enough to post about it here, then you probably do need to try and make some friends outside of your relationship. It's easy to tell yourself that you don't need or want to, but if you may end up in a situation like mine if you don't - and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Make an effort.

LickLickLick

lcrcboy wrote: »

Im not trying to be smart here but I find it diffuclt o believe there are no students your own age at the college, take a look around often you will find the very large groups of people who live in student housing and go to college togethor and you will always find smaller groups dotted around in lecture halls just strike up a conersation with them if your sitting close by preferbally something about class or the lecture.
there is nothing wrong with being on your own but some times its nice to hve a small group of friends besides your OH

Of course there are people my own age in the whole of my college. but in my course everyone one is 22 or over (mostly much older people who have families etc) I dont sit alone in class etc i get on with everybody.



Thanks for everyones response! xo