Guys what you think!?

LegacyUser

First Hi to all,

Gonna try to do a quick post...Got to chat someone through facebook and we kinda click and and chat for over a week then he asked me out so we met last saturday in town and had a blast...got along great and all he even kissed me so bingo! then by the time we ended the night, late of course as we did a round of pubs, he asked if i would want to meet again, so course i said yes...

So my question is, as I know hes out a relationship for past 5 months i dont want to pressure him, we exchanged few texts on monday, light ones, initiated by me I figured im not into the games of waiting around but now im thinking would it be wise to wait for him now to contact me??? i mean, i know its only weds and we only had one date but I think me texting first after our date shows that im interested enough so in my mind I think maybe now its his turn....what do you guys think??
should he have not giving me some signs too...i mean yes he did asked if i wanted to meet again but we had been drinking so im not sure now if it was on the moment like the typical line.."i'll call you" and it never happens!!

Please, i know im rushing in my thinking but i have been out of the loop of dating in a while so its like new all over for me to have a crush like that!

Guys opinion or experience welcome!!

thanks!

hertz

you mentioned you exchanged light texts at the start of this week. That sounds like he is still interested. If he wasn't interested to take it further he wouldn't respond to your texts, in my opinion.

peter p

trust me he's a man, he's interested! try not to read too much into light text/should i/will he etc, because he wont be reading it like that. if anything he probably just playin it cool(thats wat id do)
Why not ring him up and ask him is he free the w/e? make the move you wont regret it!
good luck

stephen_n

As a guy I would have no problem with you texting me if things went as you described. suppose it depends on the guy though and how busy he is during the week. Just send him an open text and see if he replies!

LegacyUser

OP here,

Thanks guys, thanks a lot for the opinions, seems tho that im in the grey zone, he might or not play it cool but i already show some interest by text him, he did text me btw when he got hom to say he had a great night....i wanna contact him you guys have no idea but the fear of rejectino is absolutely killing me, to look like im chasing him is like an invisible barrier!

how long did you guys ever wait to contact a girl after a date?? bet most guys would say 2 or 3 days at most!

this is torture to wait but on the other hand i will feel just as bad to contact him and wait to hear back! or chit chat on the phone and have it awkward!

Jimmy.Joe

If I was going for a 2nd date I wouldn't leave a girl waiting for more than 1/2 a week. especially if I was really interested. Unfortunately work lives can get in the way so sometimes it takes longer, don't let the fear of rejection turn you crazy.....it can happen to the best of us. I think things sound good from what you describe.

LegacyUser

thanks jimmy.joe, i get what you saying ...

on the other hand, without sounding pessimistic, we were in brief touch last monday night, its now what, pretty much friday and no hear or sign from him even busy at work it seems pretty bad news from where i stand, which makes me even less courageous for texting or giving him a call now!

my close circle of friends go on about how i have to wait for the guy to make the move next and wait for him to contact etc..drives me mental, in the end tho, you got to admit that its week with no contact, comparse to last week we were texting every other day or so, so yes, makes me wonder...

Ha how i wish things were so much simpler in dating!! would of prefer he never asked me after the date if i wanted to meet up again, cos that way i wouldnt have been happy thinking he meant it!! nothing said is a better statement!!