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shoes34

Hi,

I recently joined one of the on-line dating websites and have been mailing a guy back and forth. All pretty straight forward e-mailing, he seems like a nice guy he spends three days down the country near where i live and the rest in a different part of the country.

I haven't met him yet and don't really know how to approach the subject of meeting, maybe he doesn't want to meet. I have only today put a picture of myself up on the profile and he said now he can put a face to the name.

Any advice appreciated.

mobilecore

Just ask him does he want to meet up for a coffee sometime.
There really isnt a lot of thinking involved on this one

Heck, asking someone out behind your keyboard is 100 times easier than in real life you know - lol. Take comfort in that and ask him.

shoes34

True and he did say he was coming down this way tomorrow - I'll said it to him and the rest I guess it up to him, you're right it is easier behind a keyboard.:)

thanks.

shoes34

Took your advice mobilecore and asked him if he fancied meeting for a coffee sometime, and he didn't reply, he's been on the site a few times at the same time as me and feel like a bit of a prat for asking him as it took a lot for me to do it.

Have also been conversing with another guy and he asked me out for coffee and meeting him this evening and to be honest I am a little nervous. Its the first date since my break up a few months ago, this is my first time on a dating site and guess just a little worried as I don't really know anything about this person. My ex was my brother's friend and I knew him.

LegacyUser

Shoes,

I just wanted to wish you well with your coffee date later.
Some people can take all this in their stride but for others it can make them a little anxious.

My advice would be to treat the coffee meeting, as just that. Purely coffee, seeing how things go but no expectations at all. Stay an hour. Dont make it a whole evening thing. Don't drink too much alcohol! Don't put too much pressure on yourself, or have pressure put on you.
Then take a day or two to really assess how you think it went and see whether you feel there's reason for a second meeting. There's lots more people to meet.

I hope you enjoy meeting up. And remember the old saying about toads and princes!

Miss Fluff

Good luck with the date this evening! You'll be fine. Just make sure to tell a friend where you are going/who you are meeting/give them his number. Be yourself, relax and just enjoy. Don't get drunk/talk about how much you hate your ex. Just be interested and interesting. Let us know how you get on!

shoes34

Thanks Miss Fluff, have told my friend where I am going and going to be driving so no drink so definately won't be bad mouthing the ex - I leave till I'm with the girls! Oh i wouldn't have thought of giving his number but you're probably right, thanks.

Miss Fluff

You'll have a great time. And if you don't? Chalk it down to experience. Just don't expect too much, and go with an open mind. I think online dating is a great way of meeting people, lots of people are doing it nowadays, and it's fun.:)

Lone Stone

Hello, Well i consider my self a veteran of the online dating !! sad i know but anyway. Good luck dont go expecting anything but coffee tho its always best that way then second time if there is one is when you pounce rawr.

Also this may sound morbid but i seriously recomend being safe going to meet someone of the internet, the site i was on i read about a guy going around meeting women of it and stalking etc so mace <- buy it

shoes34

Hi,

I went on the date on Tuesday night, just drank ballygowan as was driving. Was glad I went cause at least I have the first one over with. It was weird, I did find him easy to talk to but then again I'm quiet a chatty person anyway. But it was also a little weird, he kept saying he had booked a room, now the first time I just laugh and thought he was being funny but he said it 3 times, and then I was getting a bit creeped out.

He has being on line dating for a while he said and told me that really you need to meet up with a few people and I said of course that's what I planned on doing. He then said that wasn't what I was suppose to say I should have said no now that I've met you I'll just stick with you!

I did make a terrible mistake as I don't like to hurt peoples feelings but he said he would love to meet me again and I said of course now I have no intention of meeting him again and will just have to pluck up the courage to tell him.

He leaned in for the kiss when he walked me back to my car and I thought this only happened in movies where the girl moves her head and he ends up kissing her cheek well that is exactly what I did.

But at least I went and have a story to tell from it.