Should we get checked for STDs??

LegacyUser

Hi just a quick question
Me an my girlfriend have been together for a while and we want to consumate the relationship fairly soon. Pretty much the next chance we get.
It will be both of our first times with anyone, both absolute virgins, never given or received oral or anything like that.
I'm just wondering if we should go and get checked? I don't think theres any point and neither does she, and I know she is definitely not lying about her history.
However to be honest I'm not sure how stds work, is it possible that either of us could be carrying one??
She tells me theres no need to worry as we've never had any sexual contact before but I just want to be sure.
Thanks

Victor

There are some STIs that can be transmitted by other means, e.g. blood-blood contact for HIV/AIDS.

mood

Also be sure you both read up about contraception etc. There was once a man on here in this mid - late 30s who hadn't a clue!

LegacyUser

Hey OP,

Without meaning to sound condescending I think you both educate yourself a bit more on the ins and outs of sexual health etc, before ye "consumate" your relationship. Forearmed is forewarned.

S23

It wouldn't seem that you need to but if it makes you feel all the more relaxed and secure then by all means do. Theres absolutely no harm in getting tested even if it is in all likelihood unnessecary in your case

stephen_n

Unless you are involved in high risk activities like sharing notes while snorting drugs in the case of Hep or have got piercings or tattoos done in studios with questionable hygiene it would be unlikely that you'd be carrying any of the blood to blood Sti's. As for the other stuff I can't see since you are both virgins there would be a high risk there. So if you do want to put your mind at rest and have the money you could go and do it but I'd agree with your girlfriend that it's not needed!

MelanieC

It's not really necessary in your case OP and if anything, all this thought of STI's before you've even done the deed is only going to cause undue nerves and worry which won't help at all!

Relax, it's meant to be a pleasurable experience so let it be. Once you use contraception you really have nothing else to worry about at this stage so just enjoy it! (I do applaud your responsibility tho. Well done you! )

sexdwarf

I wouldn't waste the money getting tested OP, apparently it's very expensive and, if you are both still virgins, the chances of either of you being infected are sooooo remote!

If you don't know how STDs work, it's DEFINITELY worth your while doing a bit of study into it, but don't freak yourselves out, just be sensible!

At this stage I'd say it's more important for the two of you to know all the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of contraception. Best of luck!

LegacyUser

Ok guys thanks very much
I was just worried that it might be possible to carry something and never know about it.
Defo not going to bother.
As per contraception we've been discussing the pill etc and I even bought some condoms the other day just to practice fitting one It went well.
Thanks for putting my mind at ease, now I can just look forward to doing it and enjoying it with a girl I love.

Taltos

OP - glad you are taking the right approach here

Just a few things.
1. education - as one earlier poster mentioned it is worth educating yourself - eg a BJ with a cold sore is a big NO NO - the herpes virus - similarly you are warned that if you get these not to touch any part of your body - incl your eyes....

2. pill vs condom... jeez - the pill is not 100% but neither is the condom. However - both together kept me child free for over 16yrs..... Added to that the condom is a good way of protecting both yourself and your partner... Also the pill can be interferred with by other medication - why take the chance ever - unless you want to have the responsibility of kids.

3. Take it slowly and be prepared - the first time is rarely like the movies - and for your partner can be quite sore. Follow her lead and remember - no pressure - if it does not happen there is always another day (or night).

4. Alcohol on the first date - might settle the nerves and help you relax - but it can relax other things too

5. Make sure you have enough condoms. Oh and did I mention - get more condoms.

6. Loads more you can do than full intercourse - so have fun exploring. And don't forget the condoms...

Blisterman

I'll add to Taltos' excellent advice, Go very very slow with the initial penetration, and get lube if you can. Unless she's used to using a vibrator or something, it's gonna be very tight.

mood

Make sure you both understand full how the pill works or more to the point doesn't work. Some medication can stop the pill working so always check with the doctor or chemist. Also know what to do if she is late taking a pill or misses a pill. Read the booklet fully. The more the two of you know the better.