I feel useless

LegacyUser

i graduated from college in 2008, i recently found out i am the only one from my class who has not found work in the area i studied.....i feel so useless, met someone from my class and they asked me what i was up to, I told them how I'm working in a shop and the person was like...oh....

Its just getting me really down. I avoid everyone I knew in college cos they make me feel so stupid or something, I suppose it wouldn't bother me if I liked my current job but I don't. I'm still living at home cos I can't afford to move out.

I know people have bigger problems obviously...

Anyone ever feel like this? Sometimes I just feel like my life is going nowhere. I feel like I should just skip the country go to england or somewhere take a risk, problem with that is my boyfriend, I know he would never go with me and well it would mean we would have to break up(he doesn't have much faith in long distance...and neither do i really) we have been going out for 5 years so it would be alot to give up.

not sure why i am writing this, just wondered if anyone else has felt that horrible desperation after college... like its all a big lead up to feel totally inadequate and having old class mates make you feel like sh*t . Id love to hear other peoples after college experiences

Victor

uselessme wrote: »

i recently found out i am the only one from my class who has not found work in the area i studied.

In a recession, I would find this unusual, that 100% of new graduates have jobs and all but one has a relevant job.

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uselessme wrote: »

i graduated from college in 2008, i recently found out i am the only one from my class who has not found work in the area i studied.....i feel so useless, met someone from my class and they asked me what i was up to, I told them how I'm working in a shop and the person was like...oh....

Its just getting me really down. I avoid everyone I knew in college cos they make me feel so stupid or something, I suppose it wouldn't bother me if I liked my current job but I don't. I'm still living at home cos I can't afford to move out.

I know people have bigger problems obviously...

Anyone ever feel like this? Sometimes I just feel like my life is going nowhere. I feel like I should just skip the country go to england or somewhere take a risk, problem with that is my boyfriend, I know he would never go with me and well it would mean we would have to break up(he doesn't have much faith in long distance...and neither do i really) we have been going out for 5 years so it would be alot to give up.

not sure why i am writing this, just wondered if anyone else has felt that horrible desperation after college... like its all a big lead up to feel totally inadequate and having old class mates make you feel like sh*t . Id love to hear other peoples after college experiences

This is very very weird as I am in the exact same boat. I am not sure how many people in my course have work, and to be honest, I couldn't give a damn Don't let your job get in the way of your freindships that you forged in college. College mates are for life

I graduated in 08 also and I have no job. It can be depressing, but at least you have something, right? You have an income and can at least say you work.

For a while I was a bit nervous when people asked me what I am doing, but now I don't mind so much.

I also have girlfriend who won't travel abroad with me, but I have made up my mind to go away by this time next year. That's if all goes well. There are very few jobs in this country, and 450K people fighting for them. I might have a better chance in finding a job outside of Ireland. I wouldn't let anybody hold me back, I don't want to regret not going because my (then ex) held me back while she lived her life. You know?

If you want to head off for a year, then do that. Anyway, don't be ashamed of your job, many people would kill for it

LegacyUser

Try not to let pride get in the way of keeping in touch.

The older you get, the more you realise that it makes no difference what job you do, it's all about the person. I have friends who are directors in companies. I also have friends who fix photocopiers and others who work in coffee shops. I don't judge them on what they do.

I went through something a bit similar when I left school. Friends all went to University while I went to a private college. I felt useless in myself. I hated when people asked where I was studying as I felt at the time that I had to justify it to others.


It's not that "they make" you feel stupid - it's that you think that they think you are stupid. And that would mean that you can know what they are thinking and feeling.

I would imagine that the person who said "oh" to you just felt for you. They weren't looking down on you.

And remember, a job is only one aspect of your life. What areas are you successful at at the moment? Good friends, health, hobbies etc?

Valmont

Join the GIMP club, (Graduates In Menial Positions) I'm sure I'll find something decent eventually and I'm sure you will too. It's not as if you're at home all day on the dole!

mood

Don't feel bad. They are a lot of people unemployed now, people with degrees (and more) and loads of experience.

Also by keeping in touch with college friends you may hear about jobs available in they companies.

LegacyUser

Hi
I graduated from college back in '02. For a few months after I couldn't get any job, then I got a job that wasn't to do with what I studied. I used to go back to the city where I went to college and met up with friends. They all got jobs to do with our degree. I felt down about it but in time I got into a totally different sector altogether that I had never even considered and I've never been happier. Lots of people don't end up in jobs to do with their qualifications. Of the few who did get jobs to do with their qualifications they weren't happy, it wasn't how they thought it would be and were jealous of me doing something totally different (this isnt about jealousy though) It's just everything seems to be going great for them but what they won't let on is how unhappy they may be in their job, they might hate it but are putting on brave front and you feel bad
You are not a failure!!!!!! You have a job and as another poster said, your job is only one aspect of your life. take care

LegacyUser

Hey there,

I graduated in 2008 and I think that the majority of my field haven't gotten a job in their field.

I've been on the dole but have gotten alot of good experience in the mean time. Have you considered helping out a charity- there are always charities who desperately need people to help them.

I got a bit of bitchiness from a small number of people who work full-time but I just have to not let me get it down. I'm just taking it easy and knowing that my day will come!!!