Back to work nerves

LegacyUser

Hi there,

28y/o male here. Shy guy always been shy especially with new people.

Ive been unemployed for 15 months , recession and all that, I start a new job Tuesday with quite a large company, Im having all sorts of nerves at the minute, new people nerves and will I have forgotten how to do the simple stuff in my role nerves, to be honest Im bricking it. I often get shakey hands also when Im nervous, so dreading lunch time, Im really self conscious and despite being a normal bloke Im pretty sure it shows and people think Im an oddball.

Any tips at all on trying to curb this a bit for tueday?? Im very happy to have the new job but at the minute the nerves are killing it and Ive not even started yet

wylo

Ive been there man, its not nice, and its more common than you think, everybody dreads the first day of a job, some more than others.
And often by the end of the first day you will be walking out in a good mood wondering what the big deal was.
It may not be your thing, but you could try some meditation tonight to clear the head, it helps alot even just the one session might slightly help you realize there's nothing to be nervous about. Obviously thats someting that reqiures practice over a long time but the one off session might help a bit.

Also , I know its easier said that done, but just keep reminding yourself that within a matter of weeks you'll be in and out of there like its second nature, as you'll be so used to the job.

dan_d

EVeryone dreads that. You are definitely not the only one. I come across fairly friendly, but I am so shy. The best you can do is be as friendly as possible. And definitely go to the canteen for lunch, because if you don't it kind of makes it even more awkward! Even though I know it feels like you want the ground to just open up and swallow you most of the time, like there's a massive light shining on your head!

Anyway, best of luck OP, and don't worry, you are not the only one to feel like that.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the responses guys.

I am quite frendly, itl just be awkward. Praying to god it wont be as herrendous as I have it built up to be in my head.
Just at my last job, day 1 was horrible. I got thrown it at the deepend totally didnt know what I was doing and my manager was a horrible bich, she kept asking me awkward questions about my personal life, and nobody invited me on lunch it was so horrible!

cafecolour

That's how a new job always is. I think it takes a good 6 months for me to calm down in a job and not be on edge all the time. It's sort of a good thing for me honestly, since it makes me work harder to compensate at the beginning and so I make a better first impression. Only when it's too late do they find out what a lazy git I really am

Whoops, didn't read your response before posting - I didn't mean not getting invited to lunch and a nasty manager is how a new job always is Not inviting the new guy to lunch is def poor form!

Firetrap

Firstly, Congratulations on your new job

And secondly, try not to get stressed out about the first day. If your new employers are any way decent at all, they will make an effort to make you feel at home. If you're nervous, just smile and say hello. A handshake is so quick that even if your hand is shaking it will be over and done with.

As for the canteen, chances are you'll be invited along by one of your new workmates. I can't think of any place I've worked where I've not been brought along to the canteen or out to lunch by the people I'll be working alongside.

Walls

No one expects you to be liked by everyone, the only normal expectation is that you're civil enough to let others do their job.

No one expects you to know everything on your first day or days, you will be granted time to learn the ropes. You don't have to know anything, really, merely work hard.

Don't expect too much of yourself, or of anyone else, for the moment. Easy does it.

supremenovice

Ive worked for ten different companies so far and first day never gets any easier.
I usually spend the whole day before clock watching counting the hours till I have to go in. Then get maybe 3hrs sleep too.
When you get there, you feel everyone is watching you when in actual fact they couldnt give a flying hoo-ha about youbecause they are so caught up in what they are doing themselves.
I dont have much advice for you pal accept maybe this quote:

It is the trouble that never comes that causes the loss of sleep.[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]
Chas. Austin Bates[/FONT]

tbh

Mr Nerves wrote: »

Thanks for the responses guys.

I am quite frendly, itl just be awkward. Praying to god it wont be as herrendous as I have it built up to be in my head.
Just at my last job, day 1 was horrible. I got thrown it at the deepend totally didnt know what I was doing and my manager was a horrible bich, she kept asking me awkward questions about my personal life, and nobody invited me on lunch it was so horrible!

firstly, we all remember what it's like on your first day in a new job, so people will probably go out of their way to welcome you.

secondly, there's nothing you can do to avoid feeling nervous. You're afraid of the unknown, and the only thing that can make the unknown, known, is to actually do.

So, feel the fear and do it anway By the end of your first day, you'll know what the building is like, what your desk is like, where the tea and coffee is, what the people are like and what your job is like. It won't feel so scary once you know those things, and there's nothing you can do to accelerate that process.
so try and relax, but recognise the fear for what it is - transitory.