How soon is too soon?

LegacyUser

Guys, just curious to know, how soon into a relationship would you consider moving in with your GF?? If things were going really well etc. spend lots of time together anyways and she's the one with the house, lives alone etc whilst you were at home with parents?

Wipperspammer

I'd give it at least 6 -12 months but that's just from experience i.e. when I saw the cracks begin to show. You need to know what you're signing up for before taking the leap. I would be more concerned with it being her place you're moving into. Cohabitation is hard enough but she may feel a little territorial as it was her place first. One thing I will say though, if/when you do move in RULE #1.... Tidy up after yourself. The floor is not a wardrobe (as I soon learned). Good luck.

Khannie

I moved in with my wife over time. We both had our own place but I ended up staying over in hers more and more often. It started very early in the relationship though. Like within a month I was staying over regularly (3 or more times a week). I was conscious that she might not want that so I always assumed I was going and stayed if she asked and I felt like it. My place was a dump compared to hers mind you.

I would say if you're happy and she's happy then (probably) go for it (see question below). It's worked out well and worked out badly for me. Either way I feel it was worth going with my gut.

How long have you been together?

krudler

6 months? jaysus me and the gf are going out nearly 3 years and we havent moved in together yet, I know people that have jumped right in and wound up hating living with the other person due to incompatiblity, or even worse, becoming complacent towards each other due to seeing each other all the time.

irlirishkev

It was 4 years before I moved into the gf's place. I took some convincing though as I was incredibly fond of living on my own, and having my own space. It's nearly a year on though and I haven't looked back..

It's entirely down to the individual really I think..

Tefral

Being honest here, I was with a girl for 4 years and we didnt live together.

I finished it with her and i met another girl, long story short i asked her to move in with me after a month. we live together for nearly 4 years now.

I knew i wanted her to move in and it worked out.

This isnt going to be much help, but: "you know when you know"

Suppose its like all other decisions though, theres Pros and Cons to everything, if the pros outweight the cons you've got your answer.

One point to make though is, you never truely know somone till you live with them. Whether that be a friend or a girlfriend!

Snowie

if it feels right then do it if you feel unsure about it dont.....

Gillo

There's a hell of a lot of variable or questions, but if you have doubts take your time, I think Slow-monkey summed it up best TBH.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I guess if they're "the one" or whatever anytime is fine.

I think having seperate rooms would do a lot of good for relationships. Wouldn't have to sleep seperately but think its good to have your own "refuge" even if you're sharing a house.

Maple

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

I think having seperate rooms would do a lot of good for relationships. Wouldn't have to sleep seperately but think its good to have your own "refuge" even if you're sharing a house.

This was a stipulation of mine when discussing moving in with my ex.

I'd just need my own space, not to hide away from him but just to gather my own thoughts and have some quiet time for myself.

He thought I was bonkers.

krudler

maple wrote: »

This was a stipulation of mine when discussing moving in with my ex.

I'd just need my own space, not to hide away from him but just to gather my own thoughts and have some quiet time for myself.

He thought I was bonkers.

Thats a genius idea, if I wind up living with my gf in my current house, its 3 bedrooms, all doubles so we'd naturally have the ensuite, but we can have one other room each for ourselves, mine for dvds and games consoles, her for clothes and makeup, why didnt I think of this before?!

sqlpod

OP, the question should not be how soon but when!!!.
WHEN being defined as
WHEN will enjoy soap's.
WHEN will you do the toilet seat ritual.
WHEN will you forgo a night out with the lads for a bottle of wine and a steel magnolias DVD.
WHEN will you stop leaving your jocks on the bedroom floor for 2 days.
WHEN will you stop belching and farting out loud.
WHEN will you look at the woman you fell in love with underneath the green sludge she has on her face.
Dude you will know WHEN is WHEN, and if it feels right now, then go for it and if it does not work out well thats life and mark it down, you will know next time...

Stheno

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

I think having seperate rooms would do a lot of good for relationships. Wouldn't have to sleep seperately but think its good to have your own "refuge" even if you're sharing a house.

I'm the same, it's nice to have your own space that's respected as that so that you can go and do your own thing/cool off after a row etc.

And sometimes it's just nice to have your own space, no way would I ever share a one bed apt with a partner