Do you give a gift if..

Gone Drinking · 04-03-2010 3:39pm #1

you're only invited to the afters? I mean, we usually give a card with myself and the birds money in it, when we've been invited to the whole wedding, dinner etc..

But there's one in a few weeks that we've only been invited to the afters of (just drinks really)

Do you give a gift/card with money then?

Ickle Magoo · 04-03-2010 4:01pm

I give a gift to anyone I know & like that's getting married, whether I am going to their wedding, the afters, or not at all.

I don't get the whole - they must have paid X for dinner before we give them X for a gift.

If they aren't very close friends/family, perhaps just get them something small? Do they have a wedding list?

tatli_lokma · 04-03-2010 5:30pm

i wouldn't give as much to an afters as I would to a day invite - without being crass about it its because generally if you are invited to the afters only it is usually because you are not as close to the couple as others. In which case I would give less.
having said that, as I have said MANY times as a bride I would prefer that people come and enjoy themselves and give no gift than stay at home and give a gift.
Give what you feel comfortable with and can afford. If you feel happy to give a small gift instead, something as a keepsake. One evening guest got us a silver scroll holder for our marriage cert, which was lovely as I now actually know where to find the damn thing when I need it and it looks pretty!

BC · 04-03-2010 7:19pm

As a bride to be i wouldn't expect anyone coming to the afters to give a gift. If you want to then i'd get them something small.

dollybird2 · 04-03-2010 8:44pm

We generally put half in for the afters what we do for the day time so 50 or 75 euros. I wouldn't turn up empty handed! Or perhaps a nice gift?

Do you give a gift if..

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