Rebound handling!

LegacyUser

Ok so first hello everyone,

i met this guy out, very brief but we exchanged number, really cool and get along very well

Now he texted me the next day and we chit-chat nicely, and yesterday, as he has been the one initiating the texts since we met last friday, i texted him a quick hello and he replied hello back and asked me out.;)

Im very excited if you could only see the smile on my face no wonder its sunny today!!
ah well all would be perfect except for one thing and that is where ou guys come in...in the few texted we exchanged getting to know a little bout each other we briefly flew over past relationship, briefly i want to make that point, that hes only breaking up from his ex few months, dont know exactly and didnt want to ask nor do i care BUT he mentioned that hes on now "on the road to recovery" ...mmm so does that means im gonna have that nice tag on my front head that says rebound!!?

quick details, he mentioned that at first they kept in touch, hanging out and movies etc and he relalized now that it wasnt a good idea. shes from London so shes moving back there and looks like they were together 2 and half years...
told him subject was closed and to look forward (my little way to say we wont be chating the ex factor anymore!)

it could just me being typical girl paranoid but hes in early 30s so not sure if that counts
and i guess my question is pretty much how do i handle the situation, is rebound most likely or and if so does this means its doomed to work in case things keep going well.

my!im really thinking on this dont i!! ;-D well anyway, any stories or advises anyone would have would be nice and very much appreciated.

thank you!

gavney1

I'll give you my own (guy's) perspective:


personally, after I've broken up with long-term gfs, it takes a few months before I'll even consider another girl. Even when I've met girls that I really like, in the immediate aftermath I'm just not interested. And I don't go around looking for a ONS just to help me get over it - I feel that would just make me feel worse

But it sounds like he's interested, but I would still tread carefully. He's had a few months to heal, but I doubt he's fully over her yet (it takes time, be patient). Give him the benefit of the doubt, but don't come on too strong would be my advice.

I met a girl a while ago that I really liked. I found out that she'd recently broken up with a bf. After a few dates she gave me the boot. In hindsight I came on too strong, and forgot how difficult it is to get over someone. Maybe there was nothing I could have done, and maybe she wasn't even that into me from the start, but I defo didn't do myself any favours by coming on too strong. Anyway, lesson learned - hopefully you'll learn from my mistake OP!

LegacyUser

Gavney1 you are brilliant!

thanks for your point/suggestions/ history.;) you are right, your point is loud and clear and yes i probably shoudl take it a day at the time and not go over board, pretty hard when you click and first meet someone you like and wanna know, will go at his own pace and giggle on my own about how i think hes deadly!
ahah

Sorry to hear that your best advice came from an unfortunate story for you, guess it always is, thats how we learn!!

will keep you posted and thanks again for your views!

gavney1

missysunny! wrote: »

Gavney1 you are brilliant!

thanks for your point/suggestions/ history.;) you are right, your point is loud and clear and yes i probably shoudl take it a day at the time and not go over board, pretty hard when you click and first meet someone you like and wanna know, will go at his own pace and giggle on my own about how i think hes deadly!
ahah

Sorry to hear that your best advice came from an unfortunate story for you, guess it always is, thats how we learn!!

will keep you posted and thanks again for your views!

Good stuff, best of Luck!