Chronic Masturbation Problem

LegacyUser

I don't know why, maybe I just have a really high sex drive, but for most of my life I have always needed to masturbate between 2 and 3 times a day. Even when I have been in steady relationships I have always still felt the need to release a few everyday.

But its getting to the ridiculous point now, this last few months have just been insane, with me doing it 5 - 7 times a day, I keep getting idea's in my head which make me hard and it wont go away until I do the deed.

I feel pain in my testicals, like a sharp stinging pain. I googled it and think the two are related.

I know the first bit of advice is to see if I can quit for a few days or something, but I really feel like its an addiction at this point. I might be able to go a day, but I would have to make up for the time I lost.

What should I do?

TwoShedsJackson

Google is useless for self-diagnosis, a little knowledge can be a dangerous thing. Go to your GP.

Taltos

Definitely go see your GP.
1. Stinging pain - it might not be related and could be anything.
2. Help for your addiction. You need to get to a point where you know why you are doing this - and your GP should be able to forward you to someone who you can talk to about this. And before it ruins your relationship.

LegacyUser

You said it yourself, the answer is to just stop. But I know when youre so used to masturbating 5-7 times per day(which means youre really doing it 8-10 times per day!)it can be tough to just stop. Less definitely is better though, so if its too big an ask to stop completely try to pear it back down to at most 3 times per day. And then you can take it back to 2, then 1, then 0.
Masturbation is like an ice berg though, theres a lot more going on than just rubbin' one out, theres a lot of issues and feeling going on beneath the surface. Excessive masturbation is about distracting yourself from uncomfortable feelings. But these are feelings youre not even aware are there because you masturbate to cover them up. In order to find out what those feelings are you'll have to stop the behaviour or like I said, pear it back. Only then can you see whats really going on. It could be to do with a lot of things but a common issue with excessive masturbation is the inability to accept loss. And in this case it would be loss of sexual contact. You may see girls you like but theyre not with you or you have no way of making contact with them so you feel a loss. And some people feel this loss more profoundly than others which makes it difficult to accept and uncofortable. So instead of facing the loss of what you dont have you masturbate.
Now I know you said that even when you're in a relationship you masturbate, just not to the same extent. So obviously theres a lot more going on. Like I said, the only way you're going to find out what excatly is behind your masturbating is to tackle the behaviour. Its not going to be easy, its like trying to stop any habit. But like tackling any habit, the difficulty usually comes in the very early stages. You just gotta be tough and hold yourself to the task at hand. Keep telling yourself that youre doing this to find answers. I mean the masturbation is protecting you from loss and feelings at the moment so on one level its a defense mechanism that serves you well. But at the same time the thing thats protecting you is also making you unhappy. So it comes down to a choice and making that choice every time even though its uncomfortable.
On the physical side of things, excessive masturbation will mess around with your equipment. You're johnson will become accostomed to your hand which is a lot stronger than a vagina. Which means when you do have sex with a woman again, you'll find it next to impossible to ejaculate.
Have a read of "In the shadows" by patrick carins. Its about sexual addiction and I think could give you some understanding into this problem.

cafecolour

Can ya take a trip for a few days? Book a ryainair flight somewhere cheap and stay in a hostel. If you've got other things distracting you, you'll be less likely to **** all the time (plus the practicalities of doing so when not at home are more difficult).

smoggy11

While 5-7 times is quite extreme, 2 or 3 is not.

The thing to remember is that masterbation is healthy. It is a release of sexual tension which is perfectly acceptable.

Stopping masterbation for a day would not IMO be a good idea, when you are used to doing it so much going cold turkey would only make it worse. Try paring it down, the hardest part is learning to turn off the urges. Even if you manage to suppress the urge once in the day it would be a start.

Can I ask what your employment status is at the minute? I only ask as my OH had the same thing when he lost his job. It was mostly boredom for him.

Also, being in a relationship does not mean that you can't masterbate! If your sex drives aren't in sync, it is perfectly acceptable to do it yourself

LegacyUser

Are you exposing yourself to a lot of gratuitous images during the course of your day? If you are then this won't help clear the sexy images from your head. You should avoid watching all tv programmes or movies that may have a hint of sexual activity in them. Try listening to some radio instead. Take yourself off to the gym and exercise. This will keep your mind on other things.
This is clearly a mental issue that you have so you have to approach it with care. Good Luck.

billybigunz

I'm a bit concerned for the OP, this is not a healthy pursuit. Maybe cut it down to a 2-3 times a day would be sensible. You could just massage your perineum the odd time as well for a replacement fix.

smoggy11

heavy spuds wrote: »

Are you exposing yourself to a lot of gratuitous images during the course of your day? If you are then this won't help clear the sexy images from your head. You should avoid watching all tv programmes or movies that may have a hint of sexual activity in them. Try listening to some radio instead.

Good luck with this one. Practically everything on TV can link back to sex and you would be hard pushed to find a film with nothing in it. Even the radio would not be totally safe as a lot of lyrics are sex orientated.

We live in a highly sexualised world and it would be impossible to totally avoid sexual images. If nothing else, when the OP did rejoin normal life the images would be even more stimulating after the abstinance. Think of the smell of chips when you're on a diet.

I agree though that finding other things to distract yourself with is a good idea. Even thought association. If you see a sexual image, learn to associate it with something non-sexual. It is difficult though and it will be hard to break the habit.

Best of luck though! But remember, masterbation is normal!!!!

LegacyUser

I'd be a once a day man myself

5-7 sounds like you've nothing else to be doing with your time.

Try some rigorous exercise - it's working for me. Hit the weights in the morning and then maybe a jog or cycle in the afternoon.

Also, do up a list of things you might rather do than ****.

What are the negative aspects of so much ****?

Also, try to live in reality - I presume that you're fantasising when you **** - so try to bring yourself back to the here and now before it gets to the stage where you're starting to touch yourself

prinz

tohorney wrote: »

I know the first bit of advice is to see if I can quit for a few days or something, but I really feel like its an addiction at this point.

It can be an addiction. It sounds to me like you are addicted.

tohorney wrote: »

What should I do?

Willpower and something else to occupy your mind/body. Buy a few interesting books, gym etc.