Pregnant and Confused

LegacyUser

Been seeing a guy for a year and a half, never actually started officially going out but before christmas I fell pregnant by this guy and so far it's been a very difficult pregnancy. I hadn't completely decided what I wanted to do until the other day when I made the decision to keep and raise the baby.

This guy I don't think is happy with my decision whether it be the fact it could have a serious drain on my health or that he just doesn't want the baby which he doesn't. As far as I'm aware he told his parents last night and he refuses to discuss it so I have no idea how they reacted or what he is going through.

I'm just feeling I should leave him alone, I feel like a burden on him and I am so confused about what to do. I'm not looking for an answer really, just people's opinions on what I should do here.

Thanks

Angus Og

Think of your health, and the baby's first. You want to have the child, so there isn't really an argument. Don't let people make you feel guilty. He knew what he was doing when he had sex with you. It's not like you tried to trap him or anything.

First and foremost, look after yourself and the child.

LegacyUser

I'm doing my best to take care of myself but I'm just really stressing out over the situation, we appear to keep arguing over everything now. Everything I say is taken the wrong way

Angus Og

I'm sure other people can give you better advice than me, but I'll try anyway.

Do you live together? If not, I don't think you should be in contact with him. He may cool down, but I don't know. Either way, I doubt all that stress is good for you. If you want to keep the baby, don't let him tell you otherwise.

This site might be able to help:

http://www.cura.ie/

dollybird2

You have made the decision to have the baby so now you have to think about how to deal with the consequences of your decision.
Childcare
Finances
Accommodation

Your life will change in a massive way and judging by the sounds of your partner you may need to consider that you could end up doing it alone.

Either way you will never experience the type of love you will with your child in any other relationship and although there are lots of strains and decisions to make there are plenty of rewards.

Best of luck

LegacyUser

dollybird2 wrote: »

You have made the decision to have the baby so now you have to think about how to deal with the consequences of your decision.
Childcare
Finances
Accommodation

Your life will change in a massive way and judging by the sounds of your partner you may need to consider that you could end up doing it alone.

Either way you will never experience the type of love you will with your child in any other relationship and although there are lots of strains and decisions to make there are plenty of rewards.

Best of luck

Thanks, he's not really my partner although I do love him, he's not forcing me to get rid of the baby but does not want me to go ahead with it either. I know it's going to be hard but I'm in final year at college so I won't be missing out on anything there and I hope to be able to manage alone.

dollybird2

I sincerely hope it works out for you and your baby.
Make sure you have checked out your entitlement to benefits and income support for when you have the baby also.

Sir Ophiuchus

All I can say is best of luck, though it worries me a bit that he won't talk about it with you. Even if you're not together, it's an important part of his life too. Maybe he just needs some time to work through the idea.

I hope, if you've parents available to you, that they're being supportive too.

Hope everything turns out well for you!