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  • 02-03-2010 6:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    this may turn into a bit of a rant so i will apologise in advance but i really need to get advice on this or something.
    i recently got rejected by a friend, in a nice way and things remain ok...for her but im pretty upset but everytime i see her, pretty much everyday, i have to pretend that everything is fine and that this whole thing never happened. i cant do this, im crazy about her but i cant do anything about it. its been ok the last few days and we are acting as nothing was ever said and its all hunky dorey. but now im getting to a stage (already) where im fearing the worst, what happens when she is with someone else, what happens when she has a boyfriend etc etc. now in my head i know im being weird and logically i know she can do what she wants and its tough sh1t on me but i cant help feeling the way i do. i know when this does happen im going to be distraught.

    i cant cut her out of my life, its not that easy but at the same time i am dreading the inevitable.

    am i over reacting or is this just part of the game of love, because if it is its pretty obvious its not the game for me :-(


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  • #2
    Contessa Raven
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 642 ✭✭✭Contessa Raven


    Hi OP,

    It's perfectly understandable that you feel upset over this. However, there isn't very much you can do other than try to move on. This type of thing has happened to everyone at some point and in alot of cases it happens more than once. (I should know, it's happened to me a few times! :o)

    What I usually do is distance myself away from the person a bit. Partly to let them know that the message was understood but mostly to give myself time to get over it and get some space. I know you said you have to see this girl everyday but you don't necessarily have to go out of your way to speak to her. (Unless you guys are in college and doing a project together)

    Maybe you could tell her that you are gonna need a bit of space for a bit?
    This is all part of the love game. However, things do improve. You have to lose a few before you win.

    Hope this helped.

    CR


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP here,
    ye its happened me before too and i seperated myself from her which was so hard to do but i did it and i got over her eventually. however this is a lot harder to do now. in college together. kinda agreed to forget it happened,a drunken(but quiet honest and articulate)text.
    i now have to go in everyday and face her and pretend its grand when im sick to my stomach with pain knowing it'll never happen. she is so amazing.

    do i just put up with it?


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