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Head space!

  • 02-03-2010 10:57am
    #1
    fionab1385
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15 ✭


    Really just want to see is there anyone else out there that lets their head wreck them!!!

    I have an awful habit in relationships of letting my head get the better of me, getting scared and trying to push & hurt the other person (not physically ovviously!, just with a look or words). it's horrible and thank god it doesn't happen often but once is too enough. If i am feeling horrible in myself my confidence is just shot

    I have been really badly hurt in the past and don't want to mess this up as he is the best thing that happened to me, why can't I just chill d beans and stop letting fear get in the way!!!!


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  • #2
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    "I have been really badly hurt in the past"

    That's the reason you can't chill. You've posted here, so you know what the real issue is. What you have to do is remind yourself of that the next time you feel like losing it. Take a deep breath before you react negatively.


  • #3
    DentalPlan!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13 ✭DentalPlan!


    sometimes you just gotta roll with it and over time trust will build up more when the relationship builds up a general routine. e.g. when your with someone long enough to know how you both function and think

    another option would be to pick the right time to open up to your partner about how you feel. let them know you have small insecurities over the past and would appreciate small reassurance from time to time.

    this will also show them that you care and have the best intentions and will be viewed as a positive in their eyes.


  • #4
    fionab1385
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15 ✭fionab1385


    Thanks for your replies guys. You are both so right, it's just out of fear really. I am normally great but there are just times it hits me out of the blue!

    I guess we have been doing a lot of talking about moving in together and stuff like that and it has scared me a bit.

    The problem is that we are both quite sensitive so feed off each other's mood. We have talked about this and how we need to watch it as it is the only thing that could destroy us.

    As for me I am just going to try and keep my head in the here and now and not project! Plus all the deep breaths!!!!!!


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