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Birthday gifts

  • 01-03-2010 6:41pm
    #1
    d1975
    Closed Accounts Posts: 327 ✭✭


    It was my ex birthday couple of weeks ago and I went to the bother of buying her a card and a gift voucher, couple of weeks later (last week) it was my birthday and I never gotten anything from her? we met up few days ago and she said she didn't get me anything didn't give a reason why, we didn't split on bad terms and are on speaking terms via e-mail and facebook, should I say something to why she didn't get me anything? I mean seriously we had a year relationship and yet she got me nothing?


Comments

  • #2
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Eh, she's not your gf anymore - why did you buy her a present? That's very strange.


  • #3
    force majeure
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 387 ✭✭force majeure


    If her B.day was a few weeks back that makes her an AQUARIUS they can be a tad touchy so they can :rolleyes: not to mention you were a bit late with the card so her thinking was... sweet revenge, so she socked it to you. Take no notice and carry on as though your not bothered.:)


  • #4
    d1975
    Closed Accounts Posts: 327 ✭✭d1975


    force majeure wrote: »
    not to mention you were a bit late with the card so her thinking was... sweet revenge, so she socked it to you. Take no notice and carry on as though your not bothered.:)


    I wasn't late with her card she got it on her birthday


  • #5
    Kenno90
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,184 ✭✭✭Kenno90


    To be honest , just forget about it ,

    you were the bigger man and got her something, she on the other decided not to get you anything even though you got her a gift voucher.You two are still on speaking terms but not gift giving terms.

    Just put it behind you and don't make the same mistake next year.


  • #6
    tenchi-fan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    I would have debated buying a card but a gift voucher.... what were you thinking! Oh well, you live and learn.

    I think she's trying to give you a subtle hint by not reciprocating the gifts.
    Having said that... she probably shouldn't have accepted the gift voucher!


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  • #7
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    a small bit strange giving her a gift, but I guess if your just being nice then fair enough, but I wouldnt get too upset about her not reciprocating, its not normal for exes to give each other presents like that, and as someone else said, it might be her way of saying she doesnt wanna do the present thing.


  • #8
    krudler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    shellyboo wrote: »
    Eh, she's not your gf anymore - why did you buy her a present? That's very strange.

    Agreed, thats very odd, unless you've specifically agreed to be good friends?


  • #9
    Victor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,580 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    force majeure wrote: »
    If her B.day was a few weeks back that makes her an AQUARIUS they can be a tad touchy so they can :rolleyes: not to mention you were a bit late with the card so her thinking was... sweet revenge, so she socked it to you. Take no notice and carry on as though your not bothered.:)
    Keep it constructive.


  • #10
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Few things here.

    1. She is an ex.
    2. Nice of you to get her a pressie - v generous (or was it)
    3. So she did not get you a pressie / card - so what.

    So - did you just give her a gift in the hope you would get something in return or was it just you being generous?
    Be careful here now - cause if you say you were just being generous then you would not be posting here....

    So - I am going to stretch here and say that since it was not just you being generous you had in fact ulterior motives.
    1. To get back together
    2. In the hope of getting a present yourself.

    Neither of these are bad motives really - but it does lead to why you might be really upset here.
    1. Now you know you are really not getting back together.
    2. Maybe it stings that you did not get the pressie you were hoping for by giving her a voucher - lot of thought there really...

    Be the bigger person here.
    You gave a present - that should be the reward in itself.
    You did not get one in return - big whop - if you just give presents in the expectation you will get one in return then you really don't get the whole present/gift giving thing. Try it sometime - give someone you barely know something really nice, or donate something to someone else. In this case you know you will not get anything back - but it can really make you feel good about yourself. See in some small way - you may have helped someone you don't know have maybe a bit of a better day than they were having before - surely that is reward enough....


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