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  • 01-03-2010 6:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Was just in with my GP there a few days ago, which prompted me to look for advice, not medical of boardies...

    I have had various issues with my mental health over the last couple of years, primarily depression resulting from witnessing ongoing domestic violence among my parents. Having discussed some of this with my GP, she feels it necessary to involve the social services as I have a younger sibling living at home.

    In recent years, I'm glad to say that things havn't escalated to physical violence, maybe the regular verbal arguement but thats it! I did try to explain this to her but she still feels that someone need to be involved. I however don't want this!

    The problem is for years now, I've seen the verbal agruements as a really traumatic physical event years ago and to this day it terrifies me!

    Is she right to think that an intervention may be needed? I live away from home five days per week, I wouldn't live away if I felt that my sibling was at risk...Like the abuse at home was very much one-sided (my father to my mother) and still is when it's verbal.

    We live in a small town and news travels fast. I don't feel that I have got my message accross to my GP, I've also been going through counselling for a year now and been medicated since then as well.


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  • #2
    Victor
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    Constant arguing can have an effect on anyone, but I imagine more so on children.

    You don't mention it, but was there something that changed the dynamic from violent to verbal abuse? Anyone who has been violent to one person has broken the taboo that you shouldn't be violent to people and will be less hesitant to hit others.

    That said, we need to separate the concept of bad people from bad actions / things.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    Victor wrote: »
    Constant arguing can have an effect on anyone, but I imagine more so on children.

    You don't mention it, but was there something that changed the dynamic from violent to verbal abuse? Anyone who has been violent to one person has broken the taboo that you shouldn't be violent to people and will be less hesitant to hit others.

    That said, we need to separate the concept of bad people from bad actions / things.

    I completely hear what you are saying, but when I talk to my young sister (13), she dosen't seem in the slightest way bothered.

    Honestly, I don't know what changed...possibly alcohol consumption has decreased a little but thats all that I can see. He is more sarcastic now than anything, picking arguements etc.

    I just don't anyone involved that dosen't need to be...


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