More aggressive when drunk

LegacyUser

Hey, I'm a 20 year old female, and I've noticed over the last few months I can sometimes get quite aggressive when I drink, and have a very short fuse.
It mightnt seem like a big deal, but it is quite embarrassing cause generally I dont get angry when Im sober, Im quite good at keeping things in.

Any advice would be great, thanks

WesternNight

The obvious advice is to stop drinking.

Gannicus

How recent has the anger thing developed or have you always been an angry person when you have drink on you. I'm early 20's myself and can relate i had a similar problem about 2 year ago.

LegacyUser

It's only really in the last few months. I wasnt like that before at all!

In general.. theres quite a bit of fighting at home but it has nothing to do with me

Gannicus

WesternNight wrote: »

The obvious advice is to stop drinking.

thats not obvious advice at all. problem have roots find the root kill the problem like weeds

Gannicus

Larca345 wrote: »

It's only really in the last few months. I wasnt like that before at all!

In general.. theres quite a bit of fighting at home but it has nothing to do with me

Have you started drinking something else. what are you general habits for drinking before you go on a night out that ends up with you being aggressive?

WesternNight

Big Steve wrote: »

problem have roots find the root kill the problem like weeds

Absolutely, and in the meantime, it can't possibly hurt to ease off the alcohol.

Gannicus

WesternNight wrote: »

Absolutely, and in the meantime, it can't possibly hurt to ease off the alcohol.

it could be what she's drinking. i used to drink vodka red bull they made me very aggressive so did cider. i don't drink them any more. i go the pub now get off me face with miller or bud and I'm great craic to be around. similarly with Jack Daniels. i know a lot of girls that drink wine then hit the spirits and cocktails and they're aggressive and annoying. but sit down and few bottle of beer they're lovely to be around

dreamer_ire

Larca345 wrote: »

I dont get angry when Im sober, Im quite good at keeping things in.

Any advice would be great, thanks

This is the bit that jumped out at me.... it sounds like, and forgive me if I'm wrong, that when you are angry you deal with it by bottling it up. So when you have a few drinks and your inhibitions are lower that it leads to issues. It sounds to me that you might want to develop an appropriate anger management system. By that I mean rather than keeping things in find a way to express it. If you can really master that you'll also be able to use that system when you have a few drinks.

Good luck

kjl

Big Steve wrote: »

thats not obvious advice at all. problem have roots find the root kill the problem like weeds

sorry do you mean with weed.

Actually I would agree with the first response. If you are not a good drunk, don't drink.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Big Steve wrote: »

it could be what she's drinking. i used to drink vodka red bull they made me very aggressive so did cider. i don't drink them any more. i go the pub now get off me face with miller or bud and I'm great craic to be around. similarly with Jack Daniels. i know a lot of girls that drink wine then hit the spirits and cocktails and they're aggressive and annoying. but sit down and few bottle of beer they're lovely to be around

so basically when they drink a lot they're aggressive and annoying.

ethanol's ethanol, all depends on how much and what speed people take it

Nevyn

Different types of drink can effect people differently but in vino veritas.

Larca345 wrote: »

It mightnt seem like a big deal, but it is quite embarrassing cause generally I dont get angry when Im sober, Im quite good at keeping things in.

Any advice would be great, thanks

I think you get angry drunk or sober but that you are not as good at managing your anger when you have drink taken. I would suggest cutting down or cutting out drinking while you look at why you are so angry and go talk to a professional about it.
I suggest you start with your dr.

stephen_n

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

so basically when they drink a lot they're aggressive and annoying.

ethanol's ethanol, all depends on how much and what speed people take it

and methanol is methanol and different people metabolise different types of alcohol differently!

OP by the sounds of things your anger is there all the time but just surfacing when your inhibitions are down, so you can either address that or try moderating your intake!