childhood abuse

LegacyUser

I am seeking advice. My partner of 10years, has just told me he was abused physically and sexually as a child. he never told me about it because he felt he had dealt with it then. and even though it was reported to the guards. who i must say did nothing about it at the time. My Partner let it go and moved on with his life, Up until recently, he bump into his abuser in a store, and the memories flooded back.
How do i help him? and how much support do we need? I have never dealt with this before in my life. even though we have been though loads of bad luck this is something that is far worst then anything we have been through.
I dont have any real friends, i could talk too or share or seek advice from. All i have is eldery parents, which i know if i spoke to them about it. It would probably kill them, they love my partner if he was their son...
I dont know what to do ? or who to seek advice from? how do i support him?
anyone?

Nevyn

I would suggest that 1 on 4 is contacted.
http://www.oneinfour.org/about/

Our Ethos

One in Four exists to give voice to the experience of people who have experienced sexual abuse and/or sexual violence and to provide a space that by its very existence challenges feelings of shame and self blame. In the often perceived hopelessness and despair of such trauma the possibility of meeting another, one who has undertaken that journey themselves, offers hope and encouragement.

One in Four actively seeks and welcomes at all levels of the organisations work the involvement of people who have experienced sexual violence. The creation of a community that bears witness to the isolating and silenced reality of sexual violence fundamentally changes and moves beyond that reality.

What we do

One in Four provides a unique service to individuals and families, both directly and indirectly. Support is provided directly through individual psychotherapy, group therapy, advocacy/support, and 24 hour support on our online message boards. Support is provided indirectly through campaigning, policy making, in-house research, training and consultancy work with statutory and non statutory agencies.

In responding to the needs of any family or organisation, One in Four liaises with both statutory and non statutory agencies, where necessary – such as child protection agencies, An Garda Siochana and other agencies that may offer further support and assistance to the family.

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redpen222 wrote: »

I am seeking advice. My partner of 10years, has just told me he was abused physically and sexually as a child. he never told me about it because he felt he had dealt with it then. and even though it was reported to the guards. who i must say did nothing about it at the time. My Partner let it go and moved on with his life, Up until recently, he bump into his abuser in a store, and the memories flooded back.
How do i help him? and how much support do we need? I have never dealt with this before in my life. even though we have been though loads of bad luck this is something that is far worst then anything we have been through.
I dont have any real friends, i could talk too or share or seek advice from. All i have is eldery parents, which i know if i spoke to them about it. It would probably kill them, they love my partner if he was their son...
I dont know what to do ? or who to seek advice from? how do i support him?
anyone?

as a adult survivor of child abuse myself i can tell you that most of what hes going through he will have to go through alone, it will be him that needs to make sense of the past and see the damage the abuse has caused him. be there for him do some research on the net about the effects of child abuse on adult survivors so you understand him better but ultimately just be there for him.