Advice on escort

LegacyUser

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

LegacyUser

From your handle OP it is clear that you are "alone", don't let this discourage you! I'm sure you'll meet a nice girl and have a good relationship and loads of sex for free!

Paying for a prostitute is something that I wouldn't recommend for multiple reasons. Your health is very important and prostitutes due to the nature of their work are higher risk for STI's, any contact should be Condom only (including blowjobs). There is also the financial cost as sex isn't cheap, the emotional cost to your self would be hard as eventually you will hate yourself if you did it. There is also the legal implications as Prostitution in Ireland is illegal although defacto tolerated in a gray area. A bad enough Garda could destroy your life with it if he wanted to.

My advice is don't do it but if you are desperate enough don't bring her to yours be discreet, most operate on a basis where the guy visits them and usually don't do outcalls except to hotel rooms etc.

Remember OP there are more things to life than sex!

kjl

I have no experience myself to speak of, but from what I'm told by the lads. You should select the girl carefully. They don't really come to you, you go to them. There are a few websites with a strict review process where you can read feedback from loads of different users.

Most of them are ok, but like anything there are a few doggie ones scattered here and there.

My advice to you would be read the comments and carefully select the right girl, if you are not happy get out of there before cash swaps hands.

Peggypeg

Hey OP,

First of all I think paying someone for sex is disgusting, immoral and really really really pathetic. What I would say to you is think carefully about what you are doing. The sex industry in this country is packed full of girls trafficked here and coerced into the sex industry, it is no better than rape. If you don't believe me, do some research, what I have just said is true. Please stop and think before you use someone like a piece of meat, would it bother you if you found out that the girl you paid for sex was in fact an underage girl forced to come here and have sex with a string of durty old b*stards? I'm going to stop now because this is making me so angry but please stop and reconsider doing this.

Wagon

Peggypeg wrote: »

Hey OP,

First of all I think paying someone for sex is disgusting, immoral and pathetic. What I would say to you is think carefully about what you are doing. The sex industry in this country is packed full of girls trafficked here and coerced into the sex industry, it is no better than rape. If you don't believe me, do some research, what I have just said is true. Please stop and think before you use someone like a piece of meat, would it bother you if you found out that the girl you paid for sex was in fact an underage girl forced to come here and have sex with a string of durty old b*stards? I'm going to stop now because this is making me so angry but please stop and reconsider doing this.

Oh here we go again!! Someone has to post and immediatly made a thread sound like the daily mail. Welcome to fúcking PI :rolleyes:

OP, i have no experience myself with one. As far as i can gather the conversation part would be more inclined to put you at ease about the whole thing. Again as someone said, just excersise caution and use protection.

newmember2

mutantninja wrote: »

From your handle OP it is clear that you are "alone", don't let this discourage you! I'm sure you'll meet a nice girl and have a good relationship and loads of sex for free!

Paying for a prostitute is something that I wouldn't recommend for multiple reasons. Your health is very important and prostitutes due to the nature of their work are higher risk for STI's, any contact should be Condom only (including blowjobs). There is also the financial cost as sex isn't cheap, the emotional cost to your self would be hard as eventually you will hate yourself if you did it. There is also the legal implications as Prostitution in Ireland is illegal although defacto tolerated in a gray area. A bad enough Garda could destroy your life with it if he wanted to.

My advice is don't do it but if you are desperate enough don't bring her to yours be discreet, most operate on a basis where the guy visits them and usually don't do outcalls except to hotel rooms etc.

Remember OP there are more things to life than sex!

What he said..this will seriously leave you feeling worse about yourself.

Jumpy

Bah, post reported peggypeg. There are ways of making your opinion without sounding like a basket-case.

However I do agree that the OP should think twice before doing this, however he didnt ask if he should, he asked what its like.

Peggypeg

Jumpy wrote: »

Bah, post reported peggypeg. There are ways of making your opinion without sounding like a basket-case.

However I do agree that the OP should think twice before doing this, however he didnt ask if he should, he asked what its like.

Report me if you like, I ventured an opinion and please don't call me a basket-case for doing so.

<SNIP>

Emme

aloneguy wrote: »

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

I think some of them work independently but what's wrong with going out there and finding a girl for a one night stand if that's what you want? It shouldn't be a problem for any guy to find a girl for a one night stand if he's in Dublin. There are also websites where you can find somebody for no strings sex. Have you explored those options?

Peggypeg makes a very good point about trafficking and there's STDs to consider as well. Prostitution is not straightforward, try exploring other avenues such as adult websites first - there are more opportunities than ever for people seeking NSA fun. According to some of the posters here plentyoffish is the place to go for a one night stand!:rolleyes:

If you do go down the one night stand route with a web contact or an escort it's best to meet in a hotel to keep it neutral. Save your home and your own bed for girlfriends.

meditraitor

aloneguy wrote: »

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

No experience ourlad, but could you not try the dating sites first. Some are fun only, maybe you could find someone who is just after a quick jump and a bit of company(i'm presuming this is what your after).
Better than paying a hooker, and you might actually meet someone nice

meditraitor

Peggypeg wrote: »

Hey OP,

First of all I think paying someone for sex is disgusting, immoral and really really really pathetic. .

This is a different thread but I think you are taking this too much to heart, I'm not an expert or anything but there are woman out there who do it for the money and not out of nessesity.
Im not saying its right but its not always about eastern european woman being forced to prostitute themselves, if anything this is a very very small minority.

gavney1

I don't think it's fair to report Peggypeg.

In fairness, we are talking about something which is more or less illegal. I know prostitution is technically not illegal but everything surrounding it is.

So, I'd suggest that this thread is bordering on being against boards.ie terms.

Imagine if someone started a thread saying "Hey, I'm really interested in cutting myself, can anyone tell me if it's as much a buzz as it seems?"

Would it be fair to call someone a "basket-case" for trying to deter the person from doing it? (Even IF they didn't actually ask you for your blessing, but were just looking for advice on how to do it)

Miss Fluff

Why don't you use a site like Adult Friend Finder where there are lots of people just looking for NSA encounters?

I should imagine that paying a hooker to spend a whole night would cost a fortune. And if there is a risk that the girl is doing it under duress/has been a victim of trafficking, at least having consensual no-strings safe sex with someone who is actually up for it would be a lot more satisfying no?

meditraitor

gavney1 wrote: »

I don't think it's fair to report Peggypeg.

In fairness, we are talking about something which is more or less illegal. I know prostitution is technically not illegal but everything surrounding it is.

So, I'd suggest that this thread is bordering on being against boards.ie terms.

Peggypeg as well

Without causing the thread to go off topic I would like to suggest to anyone who want to discuss the issue of prostitution that there is already a lenghty thread in Humanities......
The guy wants advise not a lecture,

Taltos

OP - irrespective of how I feel about this please ensure that you really have thought this through. The reason I am encouraging this is a few yrs ago (OK 10+) a close mate of mine took the opportunity to call on these types of services - now where he was it was totally legal. He had many reasons, loneliness, tired of being the eternal virgin etc.

Sound good yes - but when he came home he entrusted this to his best friend. Again all seems fine - but a few months later when the full gang were out for a few drinks this best friend took great pleasure in telling not just us but everyone within earshot that our mate had had to sleep with a prostitute...

Look the outcome was horrific that night, quite a few friendships ended, ones that we had thought could survive almost anything.

If you are intent on going this route then please be careful. I would not recommend using your own house. Why not a hotel - pay in cash or use a fake name? But just be damn careful. That is if you are intent on this route.

Also be prepared for the feelings of guilt or shame that we have all been programmed to feel here, don't underestimate how strong that backlash can be.

If you want suggestions on how to meet other single people or to build friendships then there are loads of threads here with ideas.

Whatever you decide, hope it all works out for you.

dudara

mediatraitor leave the modding to the mods

Posters - no more discussion on the moral aspects of prostitution. You should all have enough sense by now to know that.

dudara

Barracudaincork

aloneguy wrote: »

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

OP, I have no personal experience but i can tell you about experiences others i know have had when they were very much younger, first up Im going to assume you are male and looking for a female. The general concensous after their night of sex is that, they felt like bad boys doing the deed with this "one" (ie they didnt see her as a person) and the girls knew what they were doing.

They said they were sexually satisfied but that is where the satisfaction ended for them. Also they did say that the majority of the girls who would do "anything" you wanted were dogs (there word not mine). In short, most of them consider it an experience they have no wish or desire to repeat but not an experience they regretted.

gavney1

meditraitor wrote: »

Peggypeg as well

Without causing the thread to go off topic I would like to suggest to anyone who want to discuss the issue of prostitution that there is already a lenghty thread in Humanities......
The guy wants advise not a lecture,

Ok, fair enough, I understand that he's not looking for advice on whether or not we think prostitution is morally acceptable.

But I'm just wondering - is this thread not in violation of Boards.ie terms of use?

I'm not looking to argue the moral aspects of this thread, just the legal aspects

I mean, we are talking about something which is more or less illegal, and he's looking for advice on it.

I tried to start a thread recently in the Health Sciences forum, just wondering if it's legal to sell prescription drugs on ebay (just out of interest) and the thread got locked straight away, because they thought that I was looking for advice on how to do something illegal.

I'm not trying to get this thread locked or anything, but I'm just wondering where the line lies...

Xterminator

@peggyleg ... every prostitute is not a being forced, its a choice for them. I accept that there are women who have entered the industry, not by choice, but i believe this is a minority and you seem to ignore the fact that it was chosen as a profession by many others.

@mutantninja, it might leave you feeling bad, but for someone who doesn't share your emotions, emotional cost might not be an issue.

Back on topic, it is illegal (or at best murky), and if you were caught the stigma of a court appearance and conviction may be the last thing you need.

thus if you have other options open to you, i would urge you explore them.

cafecolour

OP, it sounds like you want an 'escort' in the traditional sense - ie someone to converse with, have dinner, etc. and not just the sex. To be blunt, most of the women who say they are 'escorts' are more straight up prostitutes - they'll charge for a hour of sex and be done.

If you just want to pay for sex, you might be better served heading to Amsterdamn - ie it's legal, they girls should be std checked, etc.

If you want more of the escort/companion, well that's gonna be harder to find. Do your research (there appears to be online reviews and such, but I don't know how accurate they are) and be prepared to shell out a lot of money (ie prob at least 800-1000) for an overnight stay or such.

And yes, I'd do it in a hotel and not your house. Honestly very few sane professionals would go to the house of client they didn't know.

As to looking like their pictures - prob not, from the few I've seen (i worked in a hotel at night and sometimes guests/stags would get them).

All in all, I think you might end up disappointed.

miec

rom your handle OP it is clear that you are "alone", don't let this discourage you! I'm sure you'll meet a nice girl and have a good relationship and loads of sex for free!

Paying for a prostitute is something that I wouldn't recommend for multiple reasons. Your health is very important and prostitutes due to the nature of their work are higher risk for STI's, any contact should be Condom only (including blowjobs). There is also the financial cost as sex isn't cheap, the emotional cost to your self would be hard as eventually you will hate yourself if you did it. There is also the legal implications as Prostitution in Ireland is illegal although defacto tolerated in a gray area. A bad enough Garda could destroy your life with it if he wanted to.

My advice is don't do it but if you are desperate enough don't bring her to yours be discreet, most operate on a basis where the guy visits them and usually don't do outcalls except to hotel rooms etc.

Remember OP there are more things to life than sex!

+ 1

I would also pose the following question Op, let's say you do hire an escort, she is clean, pretty and can hold a conversation. You have sex with her and it provides a very brief release for your lonliness/virginity/etc. You need to be aware that the escort is playing a part. If she tells you that you are good, hot, exciting, interesting etc, you need to know that she is pretending, she is moulding herself to suit you because you are a client. In reality she will most likely feel contempt and rage towards you because you are another punter and she is forced to do sex acts she doesn't want to do. Do you really want to sell yourself so short? Do you not deserve love, intimacy, companship, true affection? I don't agree with prostitution as it is damaging to everyone who is involved in it, whether they are the client or the prostitute. I can understand your reasoninig behind your post, lonliness is a killer and sometimes it can drive you to desperate measures but please be kinder to yourself OP, you deserve more than this attempt at pseudo-intimacy.

Nevyn

Paying an adult for sex is not illegal in this country.

Please keep posts helpful to the op and do not rant.
Dicsussions/debates on the moral ills of prostution can be had in the humanites forum.

Paying an escort for an over night is expensive and I would say risky esp in your own home. You need to consider you safety and health.

meditraitor

dudara wrote: »

mediatraitor leave the modding to the mods

Posters - no more discussion on the moral aspects of prostitution. You should all have enough sense by now to know that.

dudara

I should know better, sorry

gavney1

aloneguy wrote: »

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

Now to try and answer your question

I've never ordered a prostitute. But I will share with you a story involving one:

When I was living in London, I knew this Libyan guy. Nice enough chap.

I was in his apartment one night after a night out and he decided to call up a prostitute. It was obvious he had done this a few times before

Anyway, the girl turned up. She was actually quite good looking. I had no intention of getting involved in any way, I was just gonna stay on the couch, cause I lived ages away from his place. But she stayed in the living room for a while to have a drink with both of us. She was a complete Bit** - she insulted both of us at every opportunity. Eventually the Libyan guy and her went into his room. She came out 10mins later laughing her arse off and shouting about how he couldn't get it up.

When she left, he ordered up another 2 girls, one for him and one for me. I wasn't into that and was a little scared by this guy so I just got the hell out of there and never talked to him again

The guy was a good looking guy, confident, intelligent and a fairly successful lawyer, with a nice apartment in London. So, you'd think he didn't "need" to hire a prostitute. He said he had had a really nice long-term gf until recently, who he was mad about. But she dumped him just before the night in question, cause she found out about his previous experiences with prostitutes. He hadn't actually cheated on her while they were together, but she just said she couldn't trust him because of his past.

He told me btw, that he knew who the names of the best looking prostitutes, so he knew who to ask for when he rang

So, in conclusion I can say three things

1. Yes, there ARE good-looking prostitutes out there, if you know your way around

2. Don't expect a "pretty woman" scenario. You might end up having a woman turning up at your door who is a complete bit**. So, if you're really feeling alone and looking for female companionship - you might end up being made feel even worse than you already do.

3. This experience may end up damaging future relationships with women, unless you're prepared to keep it from them

Nevyn

Peggypeg had been given a weeks break from the forum.
Posts in PI are to be helpful and informative they are not to be insulting, inflammatory
and using a thread for moral rants. Tempered posting is expected if a topic infuriates you to possibly flaming please to not post.

gavney1

Btw OP, it cost him GBP 250 for the first girl. But they all have different rates

Re-reading my post, I realise it sounds suspiciously like the Libyan guy is in fact me...........I can assure you it's not

Emme

gavney1 wrote: »

Btw OP, it cost him GBP 250 for the first girl. But they all have different rates

Re-reading my post, I realise it sounds suspiciously like the Libyan guy is in fact me...........I can assure you it's not

I gather that you need to be fairly emotionally robust to do that sort of thing so - pay £250 to get abused and told you couldn't get it up, no wonder he couldn't! But that work can f*ck people's heads up both from the client and escort end of things so her reaction might not be unusual. I don't know .

I really think that the OP should check out relevant websites to meet like-minded people instead of going to the expense of hiring an escort. Some dating websites have sextions for NSA encounters and somebody here mentioned adultfriendfinder. It goes without saying to practise safe sex andit would probably be better to go to a hotel.

LegacyUser

If your reason for doing this is lonliness than I cannot urge you too strongly not to go ahead with this OP. Having sex with a prostitute is a very business like, cynical arrangement. Chances are the girl will half heartedly tell you how good things were, take your money and be off like a shot. Its just a job for her and one she almost certainly hates. When she leaves you'll feel more lonely and alone than ever and probably guilty as well. If you're thick skinned enough to let that wash over you and you're looking for a sexual release then I suppose give it a shot but don't get your hopes up: in my opinion you'll get just as much satisfaction from masturbating, with none of the expense, stress and possible emotional hurt (not meant to be a flippant, smart remark btw, I genuinely mean it).

hope this helps you my friend.

LegacyUser

I live in Amsterdam and you would be amazed at how many men I know fall in love with prossies. Its a very expensive and unrewarding habit.

OP, not all professionals are ugly or horrible as people here would have you believe. Some are beautiful and nice people, though I've never met one thats not a bit unhinged. Just be aware that the experience will not satisfy all your needs. But don't let the righteous indignation on here put you off.

Raekwon

OP I think me saying don't bring an escort to your house would be a huge understatement. If you are going to go through with this then do some proper research and go through some sort of reputable agency (if they even exist in Ireland). Failing that you could always get a cheap flight to some European city (Amsterdam, Prague, etc) and do the deed there?

Emme wrote: »

but what's wrong with going out there and finding a girl for a one night stand if that's what you want? It shouldn't be a problem for any guy to find a girl for a one night stand if he's in Dublin.

If it was that easy why do you think he is looking for an escort in the first place? If you were talking about a girl looking for a one night stand then I'd agree with you, but you're not, it's a totally different ball game IMO.

Emme

Raekwon wrote: »

If it was that easy why do you think he is looking for an escort in the first place? If you were talking about a girl looking for a one night stand then I'd agree with you, but you're not, it's a totally different ball game IMO.

I have no idea why the OP is looking for an escort, only he knows that himself. I don't agree that it's a different ball game for guys. Any average man who goes out and makes half an effort can score if he lives in Dublin. If he isn't in Dublin he can meet women online who are willing to travel for a nights NSA fun.

If a man doesn't want the hassle or expense of going out to a bar or club he can find somebody on an adult dating website or if he wants to go a more roundabout way about it, find somebody on a regular dating website. If the OP can make the effort to post here he can surely make the effort to go to adultfriendfinder or similar and find somebody there.

There might be other more sensitive reasons why he wants to hire an escort and can't score in any of the ways mentioned above but it isn't fair to go into them here.

Raekwon

Emme wrote: »

I have no idea why the OP is looking for an escort, only he knows that himself. I don't agree that it's a different ball game for guys. Any average man who goes out and makes half an effort can score if he lives in Dublin. If he isn't in Dublin he can meet women online who are willing to travel for a nights NSA fun.

It's obvious, he wants sex and not just the ''wham bang thank you ma'am'' sort, he seems to want a more intimate and prolonged experience, hence he was thinking of inviting an escort to his house.

Btw you are obviously a women (and young too!) so how would you know what it's like for a man to score in Dublin, or anywhere else in the country for that matter? Ditto with dating/adult sites. Those sites are notorious for having a very poor men to women ratio and because of this women get flooded with messages while men are lucky to even get a response to any messages that they send.

OP, like I said before, if you find the dating scene in Ireland is frustrating and getting you down to the point that you are willing to pay for sex, then going on a weekend break to any major European city could help remedy your situation......for now. You could try your luck with local girls (Irish accent is always favourable) and if still no joy then maybe get an escort that could possibly be a fraction of the price that you'd pay here???

LegacyUser

OP I would advise you not to go to a hooker/escort. I was foolish enough to do it twice when I was younger.

The first time was when I was in Amsterdam. A couple of the lads had went to them and I was sort of wandering around waiting for them and i passed one of those windows and I fancied the girl so I went in. I'd been drinking but I'm not going to blame it on the booze. While I was drunk, I was still conscious of what I was doing and could have easily just went back to the hotel alone or done something else. So I'm not going to lay the blame at the door of the booze, even though it probably was a factor in reducing my resistance.

Anyway it was ok but I didn't particularly enjoy it. I didn't cum and I was out 100 euro for my efforts. The first time was 50 euro and she kind of asked me to go again and I hadn't came so I threw over another 50. I wasn't really enjoying it and she didn't spend too long doing stuff so I got up and left. That was my first time with a girl too. Needless to say, not something I'm very proud of.

Later that year I was away travelling and got even more twisted drunk and ended up in a strip bar and it was the kind of place you could go have sex with a girl too if you wanted. Sure enough I forked out a ton of money there and did even less. I was so drunk I don't think I was even properly hard. I was all over the place, really really messy.

I beat myself up quite a bit about those two encounters for a long time after. I felt sort of bad that I'd let my first time be with a hooker. I also had this nagging thought in my head about possibly having an STD. I felt fine and didn't have any obvious symptoms, but that's not always a good indicator and there are some STD's where you may have no obvious symptoms. It was at the back of my mind for ages so I finally made an appointment with a specialist doctor and got tested. That was another 150 euro spent, on top of having to pee into a cup, as well as having to drop the jocks and have him fiddle around with my stuff and take swabs, one of which was a little painful.

My results came back clear and I swore to myself, I'd never go through with it again. And I haven't. That was about 8 years ago. I've been tempted on nights out when I'm drunk and horny to do it again, but thankfully haven't.

I recently ended a world record dry spell when it comes to women too. I hadn't been with anyone since those hookers back in 2002 and a few times over the past 6 months or so, I occasionally considered it again when drunk. But I met a girl recently and was seeing her for a while so it was good to do things normally and not feel the shame of having had paid a girl for sex.

I know if you haven't been with a girl for a while, or ever, it really begins to weigh on your mind. I was convinced I'd never be with a girl normally, that I'd always be single and not get so much as a peck on the cheek. But you know what, that has finally changed. There's a load of pressure off my back now. I used to dread someone asking me when the last time I had sex or kissed a girl or whatever as it was heading for the 10 year mark.

My advice is to not go through with it. From what I've seen, the escorts here cost a lot of money. Plus there's the risk of getting an STI. Yes I know that you can get an STI from a normal person too, but I'd like to think if you use protection, the chances are less with a normal person than with a hooker. Plus there are the stories on the news about girls being trafficked etc which is particularly bad also.

I regretted it and beat myself up about it for a long time. I'm past it now but it's something I regret doing. I told one of my friends too and told him to keep it secret and he blabbed it to someone else within about 20 minutes. It wasn't really intentional on his part, but it was stupid of me to tell him as he can't keep a secret to save his life. Which is ironic as I've enough dirt on him to fill a few pages in the News of the World.

So dude, take the money you were going to spend on a hooker and buy yourself something else. New clothes, new flat screen tv, blu-ray player, gym membership, anything at all. Take it from someone who's been there, it's not worth it and you'll just feel crap about yourself. The last thing you want to think about yourself is that the only way you can get a girl to have sex with you is to pay her to. And I'd be concerned that is what you'd start to think too if you went through with it.

All the best.

Emme

Raekwon wrote: »

It's obvious, he wants sex and not just the ''wham bang thank you ma'am'' sort, he seems to want a more intimate and prolonged experience, hence he was thinking of inviting an escort to his house.

Intimacy has to be earned and is usually part of a committed relationship. I don't think that escorts are paid to provide intimacy. A good escort might be able to fake it at the time but when she's gone she's gone and it will all be meaningless.

Raekwon wrote: »

Btw you are obviously a women (and young too!) so how would you know what it's like for a man to score in Dublin, or anywhere else in the country for that matter? Ditto with dating/adult sites. Those sites are notorious for having a very poor men to women ratio and because of this women get flooded with messages while men are lucky to even get a response to any messages that they send.

I am 37 so I am not young in the strict sense of the word. There are more single women than single men in Dublin so it should be easier for a man to score than a woman but I admit that many women (including myself) go out just to have a night out with friends and have no intention of scoring.

I have younger and older male friends who have no problems meeting women for relationships or one night stands, whatever they choose. I have a 50 year old friend who is in an on-off relationship - it's more off than on because he has women hanging on to his every word and it drives his gf mad. He and the others have good personalities but they're not particularly goodlooking or rich. Just regular guys.

I know nothing about adult sites - I honestly thought that the mix would be 50:50. There are probably more guys under 35 on dating sites than women but once you go over 35 there are more women. Many men on dating sites are looking for sex but say they're looking for a date because few women would hook up just for sex.

Maybe your suggestion of a sex mini-break for the OP would do him good, he'd have a change of scene and he might find it easier to get laid. He wouldn't be the first Irish guy to avail of a prostitute abroad.

LegacyUser

OP, here is advice from a guy who regularly visits escorts.

1. It is perfectly legal to pay for sex in Ireland. What is illegal are street prostitution and running a brothel. Watch out: two working girls in an apartment are considered a brothel. Also illegal is coercing someone into prostitution, i.e. pimping. None of this is what you are trying to do, so you are fine from the legal perspective.

2. While escorts do incalls (visiting you at home), I advise against this for many reasons. First of all, it is more expensive. It is also more difficult to convince an escort to visit you at home, especially if she doesn't know you already. It is also more risky bringing a stranger into your home environment. I suggest you visit the escort in her apartment. As a beginner stay away from hotels.

3. Treat an escort like you would treat your girlfriend: with respect. She will respect you in return and you will both have a much better experience.

4. There are lots of escorts in Ireland, especially in Dublin. Most of them really look the same as their pictures. But keep in mind, looks aren't everything. You can't have sex for the whole duration of the appointment and it soon becomes very awkward if there is nothing you can talk about. What would you talk about? Anything. Many men talk to escorts about things they would never tell their girlfriends or wives and the reason is simple: they wouldn't want to loose their girlfriend or wive by getting into a fight about some risky subject.

5. Make sure you read her reviews before you choose. Never visit an escort who has no reviews, even if she looks like Cheryl Cole in the pictures. Reviews will tell you what the service is really like. Some escort provide cold "mechanical" service while other girls will engage with you and provide you GFE (girlfriend experience).

6. Set your expectations before your visit. Are you looking for kissing and hugging? Oral? Sex? Anything more special (anal, etc.)? Check the escorts' profile that she actually provides the services you are looking for. Ask her on the phone.

7. Don't expect too much from your first visit. Even if you are very sexually experienced your first visit will probably be awkward, as you will be nervous. Relax, the girl is there to give you a good time, and trust me, she knows what she is doing...

8. Watch out, visiting escorts is very addictive. If you can't afford it, don't even try.

9. Despite of what some people may want you to believe, most escorts aren't here illegally and aren't forced to do this job. I've met them all: 19 year old daughters of rich parents that want to keep up their lifestyle after their parents stopped funding them, business women who do this because they earn much more then in their job (which they still keep), party girls that like to pick up men in bars but realized they might actually make a business out of it, students that found this to be the easiest way to fund their study.

10. Using a condom is of course mandatory, but if you want to be even safer use one also when she performs oral sex on you. Most escort do take great care of their health, so visiting an escort might actually be safer then having a one night stand with a stranger you picked up in a bar.

11. It is very well possible that you will get emotionally attached to an escort or that an escort will get emotionally attached to you - we are all human after all. No matter what happens, always remember that you are paying for sex and that it might be difficult to distinguish real feelings from faked ones. Enjoy to the fullest while you are there but forget her after you leave.

12. Don't book for the whole night. Book for an hour or even half an hour, which should cost you around €200-€250 for an hour or €100-€150 for half an hour. If you book for the whole night and it turns out the service is crap you will loose a lot of money. Once you know the girl and you are satisfied with her service you can book her for a longer session.

13. Last but not least .... enjoy!

LegacyUser

OP I've no experience of this (female in my late twenties) but I would re-iterate what the majority here have said about not bringing a stranger into your home. OK in one sense it's not any different than bringing home a one night stand but I would be more wary of it, for your own sake.

We obviously don't know much about your personal circumstances but hopefully at some stage in the future - presuming you're not currently - you will be in a committed relationship, if that's what you're after, and personally I'd find it very difficult to be with a man who had slept with a prostitute in the past. Objectively I don't have a problem with men in general sleeping with prostitutes - assuming the women have not been forced into it - but I think a lot of women would see it differently when it comes to man they are dating. I'm sure you'd have no intention of sharing it but these things do sometimes come out with drink or if you're feeling guilty etc.

As far as some of the more judgemental posts here try not to take them to heart, if you've been trying and had no luck on the dating scene, or just feel it's something you want to try then it's your choice and nothing to do with anything else. Just for your own sake do think a lot about it before you go ahead, in case you do feel guilty/dirty about it later as some previous posters have mentioned. Also read the previous posters advice, seems to be pretty detailed and honest in what to look out for.

LegacyUser

OP, I regularly pay for escorts. I have done this for the past few years, even when I have been in relationships. Some of the escorts are absolutely unreal.. Miss Universe standard. 100 quid for 30 minutes with Miss Universe? You better believe it. As for STDs, well, the average girl who started having sex at age 17 will have had 28 partners herself when she is 23, if we conservatively say she has been with 4 guys per year. And she has had one night stands etc. (no girls will genuinely admit their number so no point even going there). Actually, as an aside, my last girlfriend told me she'd been with 10 guys. As she remembered I told her she had forgotten one guy she had a one night stand with, her reply, "Oh that doesn't count, I was drunk" lol, and she was a really sweet, honest, lovely girl. Take it from me OP, you've got more chance of getting an STI from someone you meet in a nightclub or on one of those other adult websites where the girls are looking for it 24/7, than with an escort who ALWAYS uses a condom.

Personally, I love escorts. I have no problem getting women myself, I'm not casanova by any means but I do OK. However, I couldn't do without my escorts. They are your own personal porn stars. Once lads get into the escort punting game, they know what I mean. To an outsider, this will sound creepy probably.

Anyway, my advice OP, go for it. You'll feel great afterwards and it will give you even more confidence to talk to more and more women as you'll know what you are fighting for, so to speak!

Scanlas The 2nd

Your money would be far better spent on a bootcamp with one of the top PUA companies. Then you can learn over time to get sex where the woman actually wants to have sex with you which is much better.

Southsider1

I hired an escort one night in a Dublin hotel. She turned up - booked for an hour @ €150. She was beautiful, intellegent, sexy and clean. We had a shower together first, she gave me a massage. Then a BJ and sex. I enjoyed it immensley! She didn't rush off either. We lay in bed and chatted for about 2 1/2 hours and had sex a couple of more times before she left and she didn't charge extra. She was a great laugh and a great ****. I've only done that once but certainly have no regrets at all. Not sure I'd have one to my house tho. Security?

LegacyUser

that sounds too good to be true southsider. are you with an agency. she spent 2 more hours free? it is easy to be nice and chatty when your getting 150e per hour. thing is she is like that with everyone. cant see an independent doing a free hour and cannot see an agency girl being allowed to. i think they are all agency girls anyway

Exclamation Marc

OP I've no experience in this area, but I'd advise you on a common sense level not to have one over to your home. If anything went missing in your house or got lost, you'd probably freak out and think it was the escort who took it. Also, without being rude, you wouldn't let a stranger into your house if they knocked on the door, so you shouldn't let an escort in.

From TV shows I've seen a lot of escorts are tied to dodgy criminal gangs and pimps etc, so you wouldn't want the risk of anything going awry (obviously not all of them, but the risk of getting the wrong one may not be worth it).

If you really really do want an escort, definitely a hotel room, if you ever feel bad or regretful in the future, you can forget about the hotel room, but you can never change your bedroom.

irishh_bob

Emme wrote: »

I have no idea why the OP is looking for an escort, only he knows that himself. I don't agree that it's a different ball game for guys. Any average man who goes out and makes half an effort can score if he lives in Dublin. If he isn't in Dublin he can meet women online who are willing to travel for a nights NSA fun.

If a man doesn't want the hassle or expense of going out to a bar or club he can find somebody on an adult dating website or if he wants to go a more roundabout way about it, find somebody on a regular dating website. If the OP can make the effort to post here he can surely make the effort to go to adultfriendfinder or similar and find somebody there.

There might be other more sensitive reasons why he wants to hire an escort and can't score in any of the ways mentioned above but it isn't fair to go into them here.

any woman who is celibate , chooses to be , the same is not the case for men , women can get sex ( free ) whenever they wish

Emme

irishh_bob wrote: »

any woman who is celibate , chooses to be , the same is not the case for men , women can get sex ( free ) whenever they wish

That's not always the case but I think that many women would prefer to be celibate than have nothing but meaningless sex. I for one wouldn't like to have sex with a guy who means nothing to me and if I meant nothing to the guy in question.

LegacyUser

Emme wrote: »

That's not always the case but I think that many women would prefer to be celibate than have nothing but meaningless sex. I for one wouldn't like to have sex with a guy who means nothing to me and if I meant nothing to the guy in question.

Yes but have the choice to have sex, don't you? There are a lot of men who don't have that choice. Just because you don't choose something doesn't mean it has no value for anyone else. For all me know the OP is disabled and can't get sex any other way. And even if not, many men can't play the game in bars and clubs.

LegacyUser

Emme wrote: »

That's not always the case but I think that many women would prefer to be celibate than have nothing but meaningless sex.

It is always the case and what many women prefer is hardly relevant

I for one wouldn't like to have sex with a guy who means nothing to me and if I meant nothing to the guy in question.

what you would like is not the issue

LegacyUser

A friend of mine is working as a prostitute for many years and she likes her job, for her it is nothing else than a job. She looks like any other woman, if you would see her youd think shes a secretary and by the way shes in a relationship. Im a girl and could never do this kind of work but im glad there are women doing it.

OP an escort wont make your loneliness go away like a one night stand doesnt either. If your just looking for a night of fun go for it but be careful who you take into your house.

irishh_bob

Emme wrote: »

That's not always the case but I think that many women would prefer to be celibate than have nothing but meaningless sex. I for one wouldn't like to have sex with a guy who means nothing to me and if I meant nothing to the guy in question.

completley agree , ive always believed that women have an altogether different view on sex and while its politically incorrect to say so , i believe they need and want sex less than men , this is of course probabley due to the fact that they ( unlike men ) can get it whenever they want

LegacyUser

First of Emme, I'm going to have to say you are wrong, maybe it doesn't make sense to you but for a lot of men it is not easy to jut go out and score someone. I'm an average enough looking guy, social enough, used to go out regularly and yet I went for years without kissing a girl, and this is the case for more men then you think.

I decided to go see a prostitute whilst abroad where it was legal, I had no false hopes of this being an intimate encounter I knew I was just signing up for sex, But I was 24 and a virgin and I wanted to experience sex, even if I knew it wasn't intimate or romatic in any way.

The experience, I enjoyed it, no denying that. But realistically it could just be compared to a really good w**k. I don't think I'd ever do it again but I don't really have regrets for doing. Yes I regret that I didn't lose my virginity with someone loved but that wouldn't have chaged anyway.

Has it helped me in anyway inprove my confidence with girls. I'm not too sure tbh, I am now more confident than I was but I don't think it was anything to do with that.

So my advice OP is if you really want to, go for it but don't be under any illusion that it is a real intimate experience or anything like a real realtionship. And as others said do not tell anyone. If there is any regrets I have it is this aspect in that I will not be able to be fully truthful to future partners as this is something I plan bringing to my grave.