Advice on escort

LegacyUser

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

LegacyUser

From your handle OP it is clear that you are "alone", don't let this discourage you! I'm sure you'll meet a nice girl and have a good relationship and loads of sex for free!

Paying for a prostitute is something that I wouldn't recommend for multiple reasons. Your health is very important and prostitutes due to the nature of their work are higher risk for STI's, any contact should be Condom only (including blowjobs). There is also the financial cost as sex isn't cheap, the emotional cost to your self would be hard as eventually you will hate yourself if you did it. There is also the legal implications as Prostitution in Ireland is illegal although defacto tolerated in a gray area. A bad enough Garda could destroy your life with it if he wanted to.

My advice is don't do it but if you are desperate enough don't bring her to yours be discreet, most operate on a basis where the guy visits them and usually don't do outcalls except to hotel rooms etc.

Remember OP there are more things to life than sex!

kjl

I have no experience myself to speak of, but from what I'm told by the lads. You should select the girl carefully. They don't really come to you, you go to them. There are a few websites with a strict review process where you can read feedback from loads of different users.

Most of them are ok, but like anything there are a few doggie ones scattered here and there.

My advice to you would be read the comments and carefully select the right girl, if you are not happy get out of there before cash swaps hands.

Peggypeg

Hey OP,

First of all I think paying someone for sex is disgusting, immoral and really really really pathetic. What I would say to you is think carefully about what you are doing. The sex industry in this country is packed full of girls trafficked here and coerced into the sex industry, it is no better than rape. If you don't believe me, do some research, what I have just said is true. Please stop and think before you use someone like a piece of meat, would it bother you if you found out that the girl you paid for sex was in fact an underage girl forced to come here and have sex with a string of durty old b*stards? I'm going to stop now because this is making me so angry but please stop and reconsider doing this.

Wagon

Peggypeg wrote: »

Hey OP,

First of all I think paying someone for sex is disgusting, immoral and pathetic. What I would say to you is think carefully about what you are doing. The sex industry in this country is packed full of girls trafficked here and coerced into the sex industry, it is no better than rape. If you don't believe me, do some research, what I have just said is true. Please stop and think before you use someone like a piece of meat, would it bother you if you found out that the girl you paid for sex was in fact an underage girl forced to come here and have sex with a string of durty old b*stards? I'm going to stop now because this is making me so angry but please stop and reconsider doing this.

Oh here we go again!! Someone has to post and immediatly made a thread sound like the daily mail. Welcome to fúcking PI :rolleyes:

OP, i have no experience myself with one. As far as i can gather the conversation part would be more inclined to put you at ease about the whole thing. Again as someone said, just excersise caution and use protection.

newmember2

mutantninja wrote: »

From your handle OP it is clear that you are "alone", don't let this discourage you! I'm sure you'll meet a nice girl and have a good relationship and loads of sex for free!

Paying for a prostitute is something that I wouldn't recommend for multiple reasons. Your health is very important and prostitutes due to the nature of their work are higher risk for STI's, any contact should be Condom only (including blowjobs). There is also the financial cost as sex isn't cheap, the emotional cost to your self would be hard as eventually you will hate yourself if you did it. There is also the legal implications as Prostitution in Ireland is illegal although defacto tolerated in a gray area. A bad enough Garda could destroy your life with it if he wanted to.

My advice is don't do it but if you are desperate enough don't bring her to yours be discreet, most operate on a basis where the guy visits them and usually don't do outcalls except to hotel rooms etc.

Remember OP there are more things to life than sex!

What he said..this will seriously leave you feeling worse about yourself.

Jumpy

Bah, post reported peggypeg. There are ways of making your opinion without sounding like a basket-case.

However I do agree that the OP should think twice before doing this, however he didnt ask if he should, he asked what its like.

Peggypeg

Jumpy wrote: »

Bah, post reported peggypeg. There are ways of making your opinion without sounding like a basket-case.

However I do agree that the OP should think twice before doing this, however he didnt ask if he should, he asked what its like.

Report me if you like, I ventured an opinion and please don't call me a basket-case for doing so.

<SNIP>

Emme

aloneguy wrote: »

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

I think some of them work independently but what's wrong with going out there and finding a girl for a one night stand if that's what you want? It shouldn't be a problem for any guy to find a girl for a one night stand if he's in Dublin. There are also websites where you can find somebody for no strings sex. Have you explored those options?

Peggypeg makes a very good point about trafficking and there's STDs to consider as well. Prostitution is not straightforward, try exploring other avenues such as adult websites first - there are more opportunities than ever for people seeking NSA fun. According to some of the posters here plentyoffish is the place to go for a one night stand!:rolleyes:

If you do go down the one night stand route with a web contact or an escort it's best to meet in a hotel to keep it neutral. Save your home and your own bed for girlfriends.

meditraitor

aloneguy wrote: »

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

No experience ourlad, but could you not try the dating sites first. Some are fun only, maybe you could find someone who is just after a quick jump and a bit of company(i'm presuming this is what your after).
Better than paying a hooker, and you might actually meet someone nice

meditraitor

Peggypeg wrote: »

Hey OP,

First of all I think paying someone for sex is disgusting, immoral and really really really pathetic. .

This is a different thread but I think you are taking this too much to heart, I'm not an expert or anything but there are woman out there who do it for the money and not out of nessesity.
Im not saying its right but its not always about eastern european woman being forced to prostitute themselves, if anything this is a very very small minority.

gavney1

I don't think it's fair to report Peggypeg.

In fairness, we are talking about something which is more or less illegal. I know prostitution is technically not illegal but everything surrounding it is.

So, I'd suggest that this thread is bordering on being against boards.ie terms.

Imagine if someone started a thread saying "Hey, I'm really interested in cutting myself, can anyone tell me if it's as much a buzz as it seems?"

Would it be fair to call someone a "basket-case" for trying to deter the person from doing it? (Even IF they didn't actually ask you for your blessing, but were just looking for advice on how to do it)

Miss Fluff

Why don't you use a site like Adult Friend Finder where there are lots of people just looking for NSA encounters?

I should imagine that paying a hooker to spend a whole night would cost a fortune. And if there is a risk that the girl is doing it under duress/has been a victim of trafficking, at least having consensual no-strings safe sex with someone who is actually up for it would be a lot more satisfying no?

meditraitor

gavney1 wrote: »

I don't think it's fair to report Peggypeg.

In fairness, we are talking about something which is more or less illegal. I know prostitution is technically not illegal but everything surrounding it is.

So, I'd suggest that this thread is bordering on being against boards.ie terms.

Peggypeg as well

Without causing the thread to go off topic I would like to suggest to anyone who want to discuss the issue of prostitution that there is already a lenghty thread in Humanities......
The guy wants advise not a lecture,

Taltos

OP - irrespective of how I feel about this please ensure that you really have thought this through. The reason I am encouraging this is a few yrs ago (OK 10+) a close mate of mine took the opportunity to call on these types of services - now where he was it was totally legal. He had many reasons, loneliness, tired of being the eternal virgin etc.

Sound good yes - but when he came home he entrusted this to his best friend. Again all seems fine - but a few months later when the full gang were out for a few drinks this best friend took great pleasure in telling not just us but everyone within earshot that our mate had had to sleep with a prostitute...

Look the outcome was horrific that night, quite a few friendships ended, ones that we had thought could survive almost anything.

If you are intent on going this route then please be careful. I would not recommend using your own house. Why not a hotel - pay in cash or use a fake name? But just be damn careful. That is if you are intent on this route.

Also be prepared for the feelings of guilt or shame that we have all been programmed to feel here, don't underestimate how strong that backlash can be.

If you want suggestions on how to meet other single people or to build friendships then there are loads of threads here with ideas.

Whatever you decide, hope it all works out for you.

dudara

mediatraitor leave the modding to the mods

Posters - no more discussion on the moral aspects of prostitution. You should all have enough sense by now to know that.

dudara

Barracudaincork

aloneguy wrote: »

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

OP, I have no personal experience but i can tell you about experiences others i know have had when they were very much younger, first up Im going to assume you are male and looking for a female. The general concensous after their night of sex is that, they felt like bad boys doing the deed with this "one" (ie they didnt see her as a person) and the girls knew what they were doing.

They said they were sexually satisfied but that is where the satisfaction ended for them. Also they did say that the majority of the girls who would do "anything" you wanted were dogs (there word not mine). In short, most of them consider it an experience they have no wish or desire to repeat but not an experience they regretted.

gavney1

meditraitor wrote: »

Peggypeg as well

Without causing the thread to go off topic I would like to suggest to anyone who want to discuss the issue of prostitution that there is already a lenghty thread in Humanities......
The guy wants advise not a lecture,

Ok, fair enough, I understand that he's not looking for advice on whether or not we think prostitution is morally acceptable.

But I'm just wondering - is this thread not in violation of Boards.ie terms of use?

I'm not looking to argue the moral aspects of this thread, just the legal aspects

I mean, we are talking about something which is more or less illegal, and he's looking for advice on it.

I tried to start a thread recently in the Health Sciences forum, just wondering if it's legal to sell prescription drugs on ebay (just out of interest) and the thread got locked straight away, because they thought that I was looking for advice on how to do something illegal.

I'm not trying to get this thread locked or anything, but I'm just wondering where the line lies...

Xterminator

@peggyleg ... every prostitute is not a being forced, its a choice for them. I accept that there are women who have entered the industry, not by choice, but i believe this is a minority and you seem to ignore the fact that it was chosen as a profession by many others.

@mutantninja, it might leave you feeling bad, but for someone who doesn't share your emotions, emotional cost might not be an issue.

Back on topic, it is illegal (or at best murky), and if you were caught the stigma of a court appearance and conviction may be the last thing you need.

thus if you have other options open to you, i would urge you explore them.

cafecolour

OP, it sounds like you want an 'escort' in the traditional sense - ie someone to converse with, have dinner, etc. and not just the sex. To be blunt, most of the women who say they are 'escorts' are more straight up prostitutes - they'll charge for a hour of sex and be done.

If you just want to pay for sex, you might be better served heading to Amsterdamn - ie it's legal, they girls should be std checked, etc.

If you want more of the escort/companion, well that's gonna be harder to find. Do your research (there appears to be online reviews and such, but I don't know how accurate they are) and be prepared to shell out a lot of money (ie prob at least 800-1000) for an overnight stay or such.

And yes, I'd do it in a hotel and not your house. Honestly very few sane professionals would go to the house of client they didn't know.

As to looking like their pictures - prob not, from the few I've seen (i worked in a hotel at night and sometimes guests/stags would get them).

All in all, I think you might end up disappointed.

miec

rom your handle OP it is clear that you are "alone", don't let this discourage you! I'm sure you'll meet a nice girl and have a good relationship and loads of sex for free!

Paying for a prostitute is something that I wouldn't recommend for multiple reasons. Your health is very important and prostitutes due to the nature of their work are higher risk for STI's, any contact should be Condom only (including blowjobs). There is also the financial cost as sex isn't cheap, the emotional cost to your self would be hard as eventually you will hate yourself if you did it. There is also the legal implications as Prostitution in Ireland is illegal although defacto tolerated in a gray area. A bad enough Garda could destroy your life with it if he wanted to.

My advice is don't do it but if you are desperate enough don't bring her to yours be discreet, most operate on a basis where the guy visits them and usually don't do outcalls except to hotel rooms etc.

Remember OP there are more things to life than sex!

+ 1

I would also pose the following question Op, let's say you do hire an escort, she is clean, pretty and can hold a conversation. You have sex with her and it provides a very brief release for your lonliness/virginity/etc. You need to be aware that the escort is playing a part. If she tells you that you are good, hot, exciting, interesting etc, you need to know that she is pretending, she is moulding herself to suit you because you are a client. In reality she will most likely feel contempt and rage towards you because you are another punter and she is forced to do sex acts she doesn't want to do. Do you really want to sell yourself so short? Do you not deserve love, intimacy, companship, true affection? I don't agree with prostitution as it is damaging to everyone who is involved in it, whether they are the client or the prostitute. I can understand your reasoninig behind your post, lonliness is a killer and sometimes it can drive you to desperate measures but please be kinder to yourself OP, you deserve more than this attempt at pseudo-intimacy.

Nevyn

Paying an adult for sex is not illegal in this country.

Please keep posts helpful to the op and do not rant.
Dicsussions/debates on the moral ills of prostution can be had in the humanites forum.

Paying an escort for an over night is expensive and I would say risky esp in your own home. You need to consider you safety and health.

meditraitor

dudara wrote: »

mediatraitor leave the modding to the mods

Posters - no more discussion on the moral aspects of prostitution. You should all have enough sense by now to know that.

dudara

I should know better, sorry

gavney1

aloneguy wrote: »

I am considering hiring an escort to stay over night in my house. Has anyone been with one. Is it all ****e the pictures they put on sites. Also they say they like to have conversation as well and to be interesting. Is that all crap

Now to try and answer your question

I've never ordered a prostitute. But I will share with you a story involving one:

When I was living in London, I knew this Libyan guy. Nice enough chap.

I was in his apartment one night after a night out and he decided to call up a prostitute. It was obvious he had done this a few times before

Anyway, the girl turned up. She was actually quite good looking. I had no intention of getting involved in any way, I was just gonna stay on the couch, cause I lived ages away from his place. But she stayed in the living room for a while to have a drink with both of us. She was a complete Bit** - she insulted both of us at every opportunity. Eventually the Libyan guy and her went into his room. She came out 10mins later laughing her arse off and shouting about how he couldn't get it up.

When she left, he ordered up another 2 girls, one for him and one for me. I wasn't into that and was a little scared by this guy so I just got the hell out of there and never talked to him again

The guy was a good looking guy, confident, intelligent and a fairly successful lawyer, with a nice apartment in London. So, you'd think he didn't "need" to hire a prostitute. He said he had had a really nice long-term gf until recently, who he was mad about. But she dumped him just before the night in question, cause she found out about his previous experiences with prostitutes. He hadn't actually cheated on her while they were together, but she just said she couldn't trust him because of his past.

He told me btw, that he knew who the names of the best looking prostitutes, so he knew who to ask for when he rang

So, in conclusion I can say three things

1. Yes, there ARE good-looking prostitutes out there, if you know your way around

2. Don't expect a "pretty woman" scenario. You might end up having a woman turning up at your door who is a complete bit**. So, if you're really feeling alone and looking for female companionship - you might end up being made feel even worse than you already do.

3. This experience may end up damaging future relationships with women, unless you're prepared to keep it from them

Nevyn

Peggypeg had been given a weeks break from the forum.
Posts in PI are to be helpful and informative they are not to be insulting, inflammatory
and using a thread for moral rants. Tempered posting is expected if a topic infuriates you to possibly flaming please to not post.

gavney1

Btw OP, it cost him GBP 250 for the first girl. But they all have different rates

Re-reading my post, I realise it sounds suspiciously like the Libyan guy is in fact me...........I can assure you it's not

Emme

gavney1 wrote: »

Btw OP, it cost him GBP 250 for the first girl. But they all have different rates

Re-reading my post, I realise it sounds suspiciously like the Libyan guy is in fact me...........I can assure you it's not

I gather that you need to be fairly emotionally robust to do that sort of thing so - pay £250 to get abused and told you couldn't get it up, no wonder he couldn't! But that work can f*ck people's heads up both from the client and escort end of things so her reaction might not be unusual. I don't know .

I really think that the OP should check out relevant websites to meet like-minded people instead of going to the expense of hiring an escort. Some dating websites have sextions for NSA encounters and somebody here mentioned adultfriendfinder. It goes without saying to practise safe sex andit would probably be better to go to a hotel.

LegacyUser

If your reason for doing this is lonliness than I cannot urge you too strongly not to go ahead with this OP. Having sex with a prostitute is a very business like, cynical arrangement. Chances are the girl will half heartedly tell you how good things were, take your money and be off like a shot. Its just a job for her and one she almost certainly hates. When she leaves you'll feel more lonely and alone than ever and probably guilty as well. If you're thick skinned enough to let that wash over you and you're looking for a sexual release then I suppose give it a shot but don't get your hopes up: in my opinion you'll get just as much satisfaction from masturbating, with none of the expense, stress and possible emotional hurt (not meant to be a flippant, smart remark btw, I genuinely mean it).

hope this helps you my friend.

LegacyUser

I live in Amsterdam and you would be amazed at how many men I know fall in love with prossies. Its a very expensive and unrewarding habit.

OP, not all professionals are ugly or horrible as people here would have you believe. Some are beautiful and nice people, though I've never met one thats not a bit unhinged. Just be aware that the experience will not satisfy all your needs. But don't let the righteous indignation on here put you off.

Raekwon

OP I think me saying don't bring an escort to your house would be a huge understatement. If you are going to go through with this then do some proper research and go through some sort of reputable agency (if they even exist in Ireland). Failing that you could always get a cheap flight to some European city (Amsterdam, Prague, etc) and do the deed there?

Emme wrote: »

but what's wrong with going out there and finding a girl for a one night stand if that's what you want? It shouldn't be a problem for any guy to find a girl for a one night stand if he's in Dublin.

If it was that easy why do you think he is looking for an escort in the first place? If you were talking about a girl looking for a one night stand then I'd agree with you, but you're not, it's a totally different ball game IMO.

Emme

Raekwon wrote: »

If it was that easy why do you think he is looking for an escort in the first place? If you were talking about a girl looking for a one night stand then I'd agree with you, but you're not, it's a totally different ball game IMO.

I have no idea why the OP is looking for an escort, only he knows that himself. I don't agree that it's a different ball game for guys. Any average man who goes out and makes half an effort can score if he lives in Dublin. If he isn't in Dublin he can meet women online who are willing to travel for a nights NSA fun.

If a man doesn't want the hassle or expense of going out to a bar or club he can find somebody on an adult dating website or if he wants to go a more roundabout way about it, find somebody on a regular dating website. If the OP can make the effort to post here he can surely make the effort to go to adultfriendfinder or similar and find somebody there.

There might be other more sensitive reasons why he wants to hire an escort and can't score in any of the ways mentioned above but it isn't fair to go into them here.