Getting over "the one"

LegacyUser

Hey me and my girlfriend of 2.5 years are finished recentley. First I broke it off and we got back together now shes done it. I never wanted to lose her like its just Im 20 and wanted to be free and do what I wanted and met new people and all that.

Im in college and I have a great group of mates and you would say Im confident and involved in a lot of different things.My friends would never believe I was coming out with this. But the girl you see now shes gone I can't imagine a better person everyone else is pale in comparison. I can't stop thinking about her. Shes likely to be the most beautiful girl you will ever see(no joke), shes talented and just everything I want. Its important to understand I am not making this up this girl is something else.But its gone and Im heartbroken. I feel like she was the one and it can't get better and even if it could they would never like me anyway. Like I was lucky to be with someone so great in the first place and I ****ed it up.

I feel like I lost the best thing that will ever happen me. I can't stop thinking about her and yes ive told her all this but she said I ****ed it up and I can deal with the consequences basically there is no way back. But what am I supposed to do now? I cant even imagine a better girl in my head . How does one emerge from this? Is there ever going to be somebody else? I always presumed I'd love the single life, basically I've had a girlfriend since I was 16 so Ive always envyed it but its **** and I should of appreciated what I had when it was right in front of me. Im totally in bits here .

opinion guy

Hey OP,
Ok first I don't have time to do justice to your post, but since its been on here for 2 days with no answer I'm posting.

First. There is no "one". There are endless possiblities. So something to stop right now is saying things like "I feel like I lost the best thing that will ever happen me." A gajillion things are going to happen to you, some good, some bad, some indifferent, some so amazing you cannot imagine. don't catastrophise this breakup - it will only make it harder to deal with and make things harder between you both.

Second.

but she said I ****ed it up

Did you ? Did you do something ? Is this a fair statement of her to make ? Or should you reject this statement from your mental thoughts ? Maybe you coudl say more wabout things.

Third. What to do now ? Focus on your self, your mates, sports, college anything. Keep yourself busy, work on yourself.

Fourth.

basically I've had a girlfriend since I was 16 so Ive always envyed it but its **** and I should of appreciated what I had when it was right in front of me.

Thats your lesson from this. Yes you will meet someone else once you let yourself. When next you feel in love - remember to appreciate it and you won't make the same mistake (you mgiht make different ones - but thats for different lessons)

Anyhow - sorry for the curtness of my repsonse but I have no more time. i hope its at least helpful!

LegacyUser

Thanks man I really appreciate your advice.

It is the worst thing in the world. Losing something so perfect

LegacyUser

Yo man, thanks I really appreciate the advice the best Ive heard. The lads arent excactly agony aunts "get over it" is all I hear. Heartbreak is the most underrated thing in the world. There is no hiding from it ..Its there when you wake up and alway on your mind. Its proper tough. I never thought I had feeling this strong inside me.

Shes perfect, how does one get around that?

To answer yes I ****ed up, made the classic mistake of not realising what I had till it was gone. Undervalued her and wanted to focus on being young. Ironically now shes gone I feel old.

opinion guy

Guest12789 wrote: »

Yo man, thanks I really appreciate the advice the best Ive heard. The lads arent excactly agony aunts "get over it" is all I hear. Heartbreak is the most underrated thing in the world. There is no hiding from it ..Its there when you wake up and alway on your mind. Its proper tough. I never thought I had feeling this strong inside me.

Shes perfect, how does one get around that?

To answer yes I ****ed up, made the classic mistake of not realising what I had till it was gone. Undervalued her and wanted to focus on being young. Ironically now shes gone I feel old.

Yes well heartache will age you alright. Well ok you screwed up all you can do is learn from that. As regards her being perfect. You get around that by realising thats not true. Noone is perfect. Everyone has their flaws. Maybe you can't see them right now but at some point either in the past or the future there must have been things about her that were less than perfect to you. You can't see that now because you are in that missing her phase where you idolise her. That will pass in time

legend365

Yea OP, in similiar situation. It sucks but...too late to do anything now.

Best thing to do is become a mass murderer...

..kill as much time as you can. The more you spend idle, the more you think about her. I know it sounds mean and selfish and pig-tastic, but try fill gaps with other women.

...i've still yet to come across another girl i fancey