Lone parents question

simak

So, my husband and I are separating and I am moving home to Ireland with our daughter.
He is American and I am Irish, and we have both decided not to do anything legal until we are both clear our heads.
With that being said, what will I need in order to get lone parents. I will not have his income, or any maintenance as he cannot afford it, so I really need the lone parents to help me get my life together.
Anyway, anyone know what I need to get this? I will not have anything legally saying we are separated.

Thanks!:o

axel rose

I'm genuinely confused.

I will not have his income

he cannot afford it

If he has a job, and it was enough for him to support you and your daughter, why cant he afford maintenance?



Anyway this site should help you...


http://www.citizensinformation.ie/categories/social-welfare/social-welfare-payments/social-welfare-payments-to-families-and-children/one_parent_family_payment


You may also need to prove that you have a long term interest in living in the state. (dunno much about that though)

HTH

Kristopherus

Unless you have some legal proof that you are seperated you will have a long wait for any assistance. Remember from the perspective of the state agencies, anyone can walk into an offuice and claim they are seperated. The most you will get might be Supplementary Welfare. See www.welfare.ie for full info on that. Just remember that you will have to fulfill a lot of conditions in order to be able to claim most types of assistance.

simak

Let me clarify.
My husband has a job and it does not support us. It doesn't even pay the mortgage.
So, what I mean is that yes, he will have an income, but I doubt that it will be enough for him to cover the most basic of his bills.
Also, I do not live in America. We have been trying to work things out for years, and up until now we have been having regular visits. Now, that we have decided to separate, I will be not returning to America and will be focusing on my career.
My parents were willing to help me out while my husband and I were in dire straits, but now that we are both moving on, I am on my own.

Simak, there are certain conditions attached with claiming One Parent Family Allowance in this country, that are unavoidable.

One of them is you must make an effort to seek maintenance from the other parent.

The Department of Social and Family Affairs will expect that you seek maintenance, up to and including taking him to courts if necessary. Also, your husband is liable under the Liability to Maintain Family rule to contribute towards the cost to the Irish Tax Payer of supporting you via One Parent Family Allowance. You will also be expected to make ongoing efforts, as long as you are claiming.

Its not as simple as saying "he can't afford it".

Another point is, if you are legally married, you are not entitled to make a claim for One Parent Family Allowance until you have been seperated (and living at seperate addresses) for three months.

simak

Thank you so much for that info. I greatly appreciate it.

We have not lived together for a couple of years, so that is not a problem. I am going to find out about some court ordered maintanence, but in all honesty, but wont be much. But, anything is better than nothing.

I am hoping that things will get better for him and he will be able afford more down the line, but for the moment, do you know what I may need to make this process easier?

This process is going to be hard, I know that. I dont expect anything to be easy.