forget the girl i love

LegacyUser

we're not goin out, never have, and i don't know if she even considers us friends but whatever the case i need to get over the girl i well and truly love. i know she doesnt feel the same way and while it kills me i need to come to the realisation for my own sake. it would be easy to forget her but we in the same class. how can i just shut off my emotional feelins for her? she's(not her fault) dring me mad, literally she is all that i can think of. when i see her i just wanna say how i feel but i dont want to embarrass myself or her.

why is love so difficult

Angus Og

You could ask her out. If she agrees, good. If she says no, then you will probably find it easier to forget her.

Otherwise you'll just have to keep staring at the floor and try not to let her catch your eye. You're in the same class, so you won't have much more choice than that.

Exclamation Marc

You have to ask yourself whether you will be comfortable never knowing what her response will be. If, as you say, you don't know whether or not she even considers you a friend, it sounds like the relationship you have isn't that of best friends and in that you might not have a lot to lose. The worst response will give you closure, and girls love a guy who has confidence, so she should respect you for being up front.

If you were best mates, I'd warn you that it might harm or make your friendship difficult or awkward, but if you're really unsure if she even considers you a friend, you really have nothing to lose.

Good luck

Taltos

Why not just ask her to hang out.
If you feel this strongly now do you really want to be ten+ yrs down the line still wondering why you never had the guts to ask her out???

Go for it - look the worst that might happen is she tells you that she just doesn't feel that way, and some of your mates might find out and slag you - but if they do it is just because they are jealous that they don't have the guts to man up.

Take it from someone who never asked - yes even someone who went as far as to call but hung up after finding that his voice magically disappeared - ask her or let her know how you feel.

LegacyUser

I can relate kind of to how you feel, worked with a girl before that I was mad into, got on great during work and stuff, thought about her all the time, looked forward to seeing her etc. so I thought maybe there was a chance and having missed plenty opportunities before I said fcuk it and asked her out.......she said no.

She'd recently broken up with someone and wasn't ready, grand says I, six months later after we'd both left, but would still text often enough, I tried again.......another no......they'd gotten back together. While this doesn't illustrate that everything works out happily ever after, I was glad I gave it a shot, you'll always regret the things you don't do rather than those you do and I could say to myself at least I played a hand.

If you're in her company ask her would she like to go for a drink or whatever, if she says no at least you tried, if it's yes then take it from there. If you're anything like me you'll feel less of a loser/reject having asked rather than always wondering what might have been. If you don't get your hopes up too much you can approach it in a more open manner (prepare for the worst, hope for the best). At least you'll have closure either way.

Good luck.