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I feel like my ex is trying to melt my brain!

  • 22-02-2010 8:41pm
    #1
    DangerMouse27
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 699 ✭✭✭


    She was great,this perfect normal person and then after what must have been a full moon,she turned into the female equivalent of an emotional whirly top!

    Timeline:before Xmas..we were split and things were all fine,had the odd bit of sex and the feelings were growing again for her on my side.I still wasnt quite sure where my head was at so i said to her that if she wanted a relationship that badly,just go off and find one...which she did!
    Now at that point i did the decent thing and took a massive step back,to me she didnt seem happy with us and i was mature enough to let her away.She of course wanted me to still text et al which i refused to do on the grounds of it was not fair to him or me...i still had feelings but not enough to hold her back.

    Few weeks went by and she told me she was single so i text her away and one thing led to another and more frisky games! went on for a week and she told me they were still kissing so i was rightly confused.

    Turned out he didnt want much to do with her and gave her the heave ho...now she is telling me she loves me but doesnt know if she wants a relationship with me.I kind of feel used.She texts the odd time followed by lots of contact and needy texts...oh im up here alone,why am i alone! i reply in the positive and its clear she doesnt want me but still comes out with the love bucket! aaarrrgghh..head melty girl


Comments

  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Cut contact with her for both your sakes.


  • #3
    The_Conductor
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 32,286 Mod ✭✭✭✭The_Conductor


    Shes using you as an emotional crutch- you were her fallback when she went after the other guy, and now while she probably knows deep down that its over between you- she is too scared to let go- and is alternating hot and cold as she tries to stand on her own two feet, but then she goes back to using you as her emotional crutch again.

    You have two options- accept that the relationship is going to take an incredible amount of work- and then put the work into it. Alternatively- step totally back- do not be friends with her, do not txt her, do not sleep with her- move on........


  • #4
    DangerMouse27
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 699 ✭✭✭DangerMouse27


    Great advice and its exactly what i am doing..i sensed i was being used as some sort of crutch and i thank God im mature enough now to just leave it be,sometimes the hardest thing to do is in a crux..the easiest


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