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Am I over reacting??

  • 22-02-2010 12:05am
    #1
    sweetie12
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12 ✭


    Hi All!!
    ok so I'm with my boyfriend 5yrs and it turns out he is smoker and he hid it from me for bout 3 yrs i felt completely stupid when i found out he just said i knew u would hate it and i tried to give them up but couldn't. He still smokes and has no intention of giving up any time soon. I'm easy going so i cant believe he didnt tell me????


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  • #2
    lynsalot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 407 ✭✭lynsalot


    Hey sweetie,

    I'm a smoker and my ex hated it too. I know how hard it was to admit I'd taken it up again. To confront the questions and comments about my health. I hid it for a while myself. 3 years is a long time in fairness.

    Talk to him and find out why he's so ashamed. Mostly it's because we know it's not good for us. I only told my own parents a few months ago and I'm smoking years. Maybe he was ashamed and didn't want u to see him in a different light. I wouldn't read too much into it myself but definitely talk about it - he needs to explain this to you properly. Whatever u do don't ask him to quit he needs to do that on his own. Do you live together out of interest? Seems like a lot of work to go to, to hide it if u live together if u know what i mean


  • #3
    sweetie12
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12 ✭sweetie12


    ye i'm pretty reasonable i was away travelling and he came to visit me and i noticed then cos he was wanting to go 4 walks etc alot!!! and sure i could smell it,he told me me he is ashamed of it and i get that. IT's just the hypocracy of it he never stops giving out bout his mam smoking and making herself ill? I'm sure it will work out just wish he just told me upfront,thanks4 your opinion!


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