figthing brother and sister

cooltown

I have a weird problem. My brother who is 28 and sister who is 27 don’t get on. It’s really hurting my mam. It all happened back in june 2006. My bro and sis never really got on but this was the day it when it all went reallty wrong! My brother and sister had a huge fight and both left home. This happened nearly 4 years ago now! The problem is they haven’t stood inside our house since that night! we see them about 3-4 times a year in different places such as shopping centres and hotels etc. This has totally recked my mam and she can’t cope with it. I’m doing my best for her I’m always smiling and doing jobs for her I care so much about her! We haven’t seing them for christmas or easter or at weedings. The only time they were together was at my nan’s funeral! My bro stad at one side of the church and my sis stayed at the other! It is also really hurts my mother that she knows that all the neigbhours are gossiping about us! I’ve tried my best and thats all I can do! My bro and sis can bearly stay in the same room! What should I do? Sorry about splling mistekes!

Ickle Magoo

I wouldn't care about the neighbours gossiping tbh. They are adults, there is no law that states family member must get on or must forgive each other everything, either.

You don't say what they fell out about, so it could be that they will never want to be near each other if it was serious. Can someone call them together and mediate? Perhaps they need to have it out, talk it through with a third party as umpire - sometimes when these arguments roll on for months or years it just gets harder and harder to be the one to "back down" and start the hand-shakes and apologies.

Best of luck.

tenchi-fan

I haven't spoken to my brother in a year.

My mam knows the reason behind it is my brother's fault (he acts just like my dad). I love my mother but I was so close to cutting ties with her too because I don't like the way she stands back and tries to play peacemaker by basically letting the bullies win, and expecting me to act like she does and just take the abuse.

It's hurtful for me when she says "it's awful that you don't speak to each other" instead of "it's awful that your brother is such a despicable human being. I would turn my back on him if he wasn't my son."

Now, I just avoid the house when my brother's there and I don't really speak to my dad. But I was so close to cutting ties with the lot of them. I changed my phone number and everything without telling them. Only for my sister keeping in contact it's possible I wouldn't have set foot in my parent's house again.

Denerick

tenchifan wrote: »

It's hurtful for me when she says "it's awful that you don't speak to each other" instead of "it's awful that your brother is such a despicable human being. I would turn my back on him if he wasn't my son."

Honestly, grow up.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Kinda needs more information as to what the background to the June argument was.

Regardless, I'll assume they both love their mother and this is the point that should be made to both of them: Ok, you don't have to get along with x, but at least stop being selfish and dragging her [and you] into the middle of things.

cooltown

I suppose they never really got on well. That night my brother started touching my sister and this made her un-comfortable and she lashed out and hit him and said that he was a fa**ot and that he was a freak!