I don't understand this

LegacyUser

Ok. I am a girl in her late 20s and I should be getting over this stuff by now but I really don't understand why a person would do this.

I met a guy there a few weeks ago, we were online mates so we decided to meet for a drink as we were both at a loose end. It wasn't meant to be anything but platonic but we ended up kissing and it was quite nice. He had a to get the nitelink home so I walked him to the bus stop and headed off to get a taxi home, I waited at the stop till it came and we kissed the whole time. I didn't know where it was going but we agreed to meet up again at some stage and we texted a few over the next 10 days.

He had agreed to meet me last week but a couple of days before I had some bad news in relation to my job so I text him joking bet your having a better day than I am. He text back saying thats too bad etc etc and I asked was he still on for the night out we had arranged, he said something had come up but would I like to rearrange, I told him I was around the following night and he said he would be back to me within the hour to let me know whats what. That was 9 days ago!! Since then I did text him a couple of times and left a message on his voicemail but I don't think I was overly pushy. Once the week was up I decided to mail him saying I would be happy to meet up again if he wanted to but I understand if he just wasn't interested, I know that he had read this but he never said anything back so i sent him a text yesterday saying I guess that means your not interested, take care.

I have deleted his number and I don't intend to contact him again but I just don't understand why he couldn't even send me a quick message saying, sorry I am not really into this or you. I have been wracking my brain over things I could have done but I was just being my usual self if I like someone I am not going to hide it or play games. Its possible something may have happened to him and he just doesn't feel like talking but how hard is it for him to reply to me. Any thoughts?

kenbrady

Fedup2010 wrote: »

Its possible something may have happened to him and he just doesn't feel like talking

No

He just didn't have the courage or want to experience the awkwardness of telling you he doesn't want to meet up again.

2 text
1 voice mail
1 email
1 text

Next time if you want to contact someone in the same situation. Send they 1 text or call or email. They forget about it. If they don't get back to you it's there loss. The less time you spend on the loosers the more time you have for the winners.

LegacyUser

Seeing as you were caring and thoughtful enough to walk him to his bus stop late at night and wave him off while you had to get your taxi alone late at night, it's not really surprising he didn't have the basic decency to text you back.
Very bad form on his part, he's not worth your care and attention.

LegacyUser

But the thing is he had told he wanted to meet me again and he made specific arrangements. The first week he was texting me a good bit and saying he was very busy in work but that he was hoping to meet up again. I don't see how this is just down to being a coward.

LegacyUser

Perhaps he met someone? Perhaps he already has a girlfriend?

LegacyUser

Fair enough. But why wouldn't he just send me a text, I sent him a mail saying it was ok with me if he wanted to leave things perfect op for him to say thats the case and good bye but he still didn't. I guess some people have a complete lack of respect for other people, what annoyed me the most was I had to miss out a girls weekend away after he had said he was taking me out. Freak!!

newmember2

The more you contact him the more uncomfortable he is and the more desperate you seem to him. He's either totally ignorant or a coward - and not worth the energy you're spending on him.

Barracudaincork

Fedup2010 wrote: »

Fair enough. But why wouldn't he just send me a text, I sent him a mail saying it was ok with me if he wanted to leave things perfect op for him to say thats the case and good bye but he still didn't. I guess some people have a complete lack of respect for other people, what annoyed me the most was I had to miss out a girls weekend away after he had said he was taking me out. Freak!!

Because he is rude and doesnt care, its no reflection on you, it just shows the kind of person he is. Sunflower has hit the nail on the head with this one big time!!!

LegacyUser

Yes I guess you are all right. Well his number is deleted and I am sure I will meet someone in no time at all and he will be totally forgotten. Thanks for your comments.