No job..

Bubbles09

hi all my partner lost his job at the start of the recession that was acceptable as it wasn't his fault but he hasn't worked or looked for work since. He is a gr8 help around the house and we are saving on childcare as I am lucky to have my job but I've told him he'll have to go back to work as I'm expecting out third child and am planning to leave my employment providing he has a job but he hasn't looked for 1 or tried to get 1.. He tries his best with his jobseekers allowance but it's just not enuf and I'm left to pay most of the bills. What to do?

Sleepy

Could it be that he likes being a stay at home dad and doesn't see the point to looking when one of you is going to have to leave work when the third comes along anyway?

pookie82

Why are you planning to leave your employment? Is this permanently? Would it not be best to go with the status quo for the moment and let him remain at home with the kids? If you can afford for one partner to stay at home and he's happy at it and good at running the household why not stay like that until the economy improves.

Have you talked to him about it? Maybe he'd be happy to be the stay at home parent?

mood

Even if he found a job very soon it would be very foolish for you to leave your job as he would not be very secure in his at all. What if he was made redundant again?

On another note it is illegal for him to be claiming dole if he is not available for and looking for work.

shellyboo

There's no way you can reasonably say you want to stop working in this climate. Jobs are damn hard to come by, if you have one, hang onto it with both hands so you can support your family. Let him continue to stay home and mind the kids since it seems to be working for you.

Mozart1986

Tell him to start growing veg and live the good life:p You can both fun being unemployed. I mean, seriously, I love it. You can grow veg and live off benefits:D