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Another Chance?

  • 17-02-2010 10:41am
    #1
    Toodles09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13 ✭


    My ex has recently got back in contact with me and is suggesting that we make another go of things. I am being very cagey with him, he did hurt me and to be honest I don't know if I could let myself be built up again. We broke up because he got cold feet and basically panicked. Now there has never been any doubt in my mind that he would come back because we had a great relationship and I have to admit everything has been positive about the break up even though I felt hurt. There's a small part of me worrying that if we decide to get back together then I'll be worrying he'll panic again. I have said this to him but he says he has got over all that and being apart made him realise he had made a mistake and that he wants to be with me. Should I just bite the bullet and go for it?


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  • #2
    Barracudaincork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 773 ✭✭✭Barracudaincork


    How long a break has it been?


  • #3
    Toodles09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13 ✭Toodles09


    It's been almost five months. We have had a couple of chats in that time too.


  • #4
    Barracudaincork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 773 ✭✭✭Barracudaincork


    5 months is a good length of time apart, it seems like his reaction isnt kneejerk and he very well may have learnt from the time apart.

    I have been in a relationship similiar to yours and to be honest they paniced again when we got back together. Thats said i am the only one of my family and closest friends who that has happened to after a break up like yours. So i guess what im trying to say is that yes it can go belly up again, but its unlikely as he has learnt. If you love him or if you are in like with him, then give it a chance.


  • #5
    Toodles09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13 ✭Toodles09


    I tend to be a bit of a worrier anyway ...but think I'll give it a shot, might only regret it otherwise. Thanks for the reply.


  • #6
    Barracudaincork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 773 ✭✭✭Barracudaincork


    Good, im pleased to hear that and yes you might regret not giving it a try. As for worrying, well there is no need for me to tell you that worrying about something wont change it, but you just need to keep reminding yourself of that when you do worry. Best of luck, although i dont think you guys will need it!!


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  • #7
    kats26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭kats26


    Best of luck - hope there is a happy ending. Its what we all want.


  • #8
    Toodles09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13 ✭Toodles09


    Thanks again guys. Sometimes I think we're too hard on ourselves. I know I can be very hard on myself, whatever I decide to do I'm going to take things slowly. The one thing I do know is that we both still love each other and as the Beatles sang....All You Need is Love.!


  • #9
    Peggypeg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 578 ✭✭✭Peggypeg


    Hey OP,

    I know you've already made your decision but in case it makes you feel better about it, here's what happened to me: Met a guy and went out with him for 2 - 3 months, thought it was going great then out of the blue he breaks it off. That was on a Thursday and on the Saturday he slept with someone else, I was hurt but I go by the rule that once you're not with somene anything goes so I just got on with it. Within a week he was back begging and saying sorry, that he just panicked. Anywho I decided to give him another chance (after another 2 weeks of grovelling :D) and so I gave him another chance. That was 3 & 1/2 years ago and I thank God that I gave him another chance. He definately is the love of my live and we're looking forward to buying our house, getting married, having a family and all that good stuff.

    So yeah, give him another chance, but be honest about it, wipe the slate completely clean and take it from here. I hope it turns out as well for you as it did for me.:)

    Best of luck.


  • #10
    Toodles09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13 ✭Toodles09


    Peggypeg wrote: »
    Hey OP,

    I know you've already made your decision but in case it makes you feel better about it, here's what happened to me: Met a guy and went out with him for 2 - 3 months, thought it was going great then out of the blue he breaks it off. That was on a Thursday and on the Saturday he slept with someone else, I was hurt but I go by the rule that once you're not with somene anything goes so I just got on with it. Within a week he was back begging and saying sorry, that he just panicked. Anywho I decided to give him another chance (after another 2 weeks of grovelling :D) and so I gave him another chance. That was 3 & 1/2 years ago and I thank God that I gave him another chance. He definately is the love of my live and we're looking forward to buying our house, getting married, having a family and all that good stuff.

    So yeah, give him another chance, but be honest about it, wipe the slate completely clean and take it from here. I hope it turns out as well for you as it did for me.:)

    Best of luck.


    Thanks PP. I'm glad everything worked out for you. You sound very happy. And yeah i know it will be like a fresh start, no point stressing or fretting about the past. I will let you all know how things go.


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