how to get back in with my old school friends?

LegacyUser

i really miss them and i want to be their friend again. how can i be their friend again? any advice?

LegacyUser

Can you give some more information about why you aren't friends with them?

John Mason

why are you not friends with them anymore?

i out grew my school friends. moved to england for 3 years, came home and we had nothing in common anymore, they didnt want to leave my home town for anything, didnt want to go to a different pub or sit in different seats in the pub.

sometimes you just move on and there is no way back

LegacyUser

well just kinda drifted away after school, you know how it is.

Angus Og

Social networking sites?

LegacyUser

i have them all has friends on facebook but i mean hang out with them. im only 19 btw.

Angus Og

Have you asked them if they want to hang out? It can't be that long since you were friends.

thedeadp0et

Ask a few of them into town for a drink; you can mention he/she's going and voila - you can take it from there. If you have a good night then perhaps you can make it a regular event. I'm sure many of them are wondering how you are and where you've dissapeared to.

Thats really all there is to it.

Wuggectumondo

I've recently became friend again with childhood friends (we didn't fall out or anything, just drifted apart). Ask them through Facebook if they'd like to meet up some time. If you don't get a reply, just move on and find new friends. People change ALOT since they went to school

6th

Organise a mini reunion. Yu dont have to wait 10 years to do this. (Tho my 15year reunion is coming up!)

seamus

Be honest and upfront: "I miss all you guys and I'd love to get back in touch again. Fancy meeting up for lunch or a few drinks after work?"

Dead easy.

ztoical

rizzothecat wrote: »

well just kinda drifted away after school, you know how it is.

Your going to find this happens alot as you move through life. Some people stay friends for long periods, others your friends with for a time but as your lives change you'll find you drift away from people. Alot of people your friends with because you have something in common [like school] and when that's gone and there isn't anything else you share you find you don't stay close.

I'm not in touch with any friends from secondary school. A few got in touch recently via facebook and we meet up for a drink and that was it...we'd all changed so much since school, done very different things in college, some were married, some had kids, some had traveled, we had careers that were very different. Once we'd caught up on what everyone was doing we didn't really have alot to talk about as we'd all very different interests. It was nice to see what direction everyone had gone after school but we weren't going to start hanging out like we did in school.

OP I assume you've finished school - are you finding it hard to make new friends in college/work/etc?

seamus

ztoical wrote: »

Your going to find this happens alot as you move through life. Some people stay friends for long periods, others your friends with for a time but as your lives change you'll find you drift away from people. Alot of people your friends with because you have something in common [like school] and when that's gone and there isn't anything else you share you find you don't stay close.

You will also find that it's much harder to hold onto friends when you leave school and college.
For most of us, it required no effort - you saw them every day or every other day while you were in school, but now you've gotten a job and moved away and suddenly you actually have to arrange to meet up or you could go months without seeing someone.
This is typically how people lose contact and I'd be the first to admit that I'm terrible for making an effort to keep in touch and have lost touch with a number of friends because of this. But once you recognise that the extra effort is needed, you will make that extra effort.