Confused

ezypzy

I'm going out with my boyfriend for the last 7 years a couple of years ago he hardly ever saw me i'd ask him to meet up and he'd either b too tired or busy with other things. I knew i loved him so much but eventually I started to feel a bit rejected so I started texting another boy - I had no intention of anything happening and nothing ever did happen it was a few texts over a few weeks.

One night he did try it on with me and I told him noway i loved my boyfriend. To cut a long story short I was using this boy to get attention so that I would know I was still desirable etc etc because my boyfriend was always leaving me down anyway I know this is so shallow and mean on the lad I was texting.

The texting stopped and i havent seen him for months and dont ever want to see him. I knew in my heart that I loved my boyfriend and nothing would happen so I forgot about it and in the meantime things are so much better with him I love him to bits and I know he is the one I want for life and we are planning on travelling to Australia together so things r great.

So my problem is I now feel guilty for what i did and I am so confused as to whether I should tell him or not. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Nervous Wreck

Seems to me you did pretty much nothing, OP. A few texts for a bit of attention when your boyfriend has been neglecting you is, though not to be encouraged, certainly not unexpected... Guess it just depends how flirty the texts were and how guilty you're feeling about it. Tbh, it wouldn't bother me were I your bf. I'd have brought it on myself and would be able to see that it wasn't anything anyway....

ezypzy

Thanks for the response...I feel a little bit better now still wish I could turn back the clock and not have done it tho

LegacyUser

I don't think there's any reason for you to tell your bf. Your little text relationship is over and while it might not bother him, it will either change nothing or it will upset/annoy him. It won't accomplish anything positive in my opinion.

You should probably apologise to the other guy for leading him on though, if you haven't already. Just be clear that it's just an apology, not an attempt to strike things up again.

Exclamation Marc

ezypzy wrote: »

Thanks for the response...I feel a little bit better now still wish I could turn back the clock and not have done it tho

Ah we all do silly things we sometimes can't explain, but thankfully you stopped it before it lead to anything or even got close to. And that you rejected the guys advances is something to be happy about, as when the chance came up to wander you stuck by your man which shows that you are committed.

I wouldn't tell the boyfriend, as someone else said it will only hurt him or mean nothing to him, and not to sound selfish, but you nor the relationship have anything to gain from it.

Don't feel guilty, or live with huge regret, if anything it was an experience that showed you that you'd never stray

LegacyUser

you did nothing wrong im a guy and if i was in your situation id have probably cheated you did nothing wrong stop beating yourself up

Peggypeg

Hey OP,

I agree with all of the above, you didn't actually do anything wrong. When you were feeling very low and neglected you could have cheated but didn't, you knew you loved your boyfriend and put a stop to the texting, you had a little slip but copped on before you actually did something wrong. You're human, don't beat yourself up so much, just forget about it. I really wouldn't say it to your OH, it could end up damaging the relationship and at the end of the day there's really nothing to confess.

Cut yourself a break and stop worrying about it. Cool about Australia, have a blast!