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Am I bonkers for feeling like this over someone I dont even know?

  • 13-02-2010 10:00pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I was in a long term relationship for 4 years and we are broken up nearly a year now. Mutual decision to break up. During this time Ive only "met" one person who, so to speak "floats my boat" and unbelivably I have never spoken to him - I dont even know if he knows am alive.

    The sad thing is I used to see him in my local gym and I know this sounds so so sad, in a pathetic kind of way, I didnt know him but I really looked forward to seeing him in the gym. Sadly he hasnt been in since christmas and havent seen him.

    Now before you think anything, am not bonkers. Ive a good education, a job, good social life, friends etc. Isnt it amazing how you can find someone you dont know so attractive? Am kicking myself for not talking to him...then again, if he noticed or was interested I guess he might have spoken to me. To anyone out there reading this, who knows, you might be the token of someone's affection and dont even know it.

    My problem is that I feel so sad for not seeing him...as in a real real sadness. I dont know whats come over me and just need to express this. Has anyone ever felt like this over someone they dont even know? Am I crazy for feeling like this?


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  • #2
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    Some call it lust, others call it love. It's completely normal. Your problem is that you didn't do anything about it when you had the chance. You aren't crazy.

    Try and meet him, or is that an impossibility?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey OP, I wouldnt say you are bonkers at all, but wait, I'm in a somewhat similar situation myself, so maybe we are both bonkers?!! haha. I'd say its pretty normal, once you dont go physco or anything.

    My story is there is a young lady in a local shop whom I have the pleasure of being served by from time to time (for a year or more! lol), we've exchanged a few words, but nothing much really, I dont even know her name, nor she mine. I guess the difference in our situatons is that I still have a chance to do something and from reading your post perhaps its better sooner than later! :-O


  • #4
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,228 ✭✭✭epgc3fyqirnbsx


    Spent the greater part of my 20's been single but usually 'in love' with someone.

    Thing is that when you don't know them, you are in love with the idea of being with them. It's the imagination working in overdrive really

    It's good fun daydreaming like that but you can't buy into this kinda thing because you end up expecting something so perfect that it's impossible

    Enjoy your fantasies, have a look and imagine what it can be like. But under no uncertain circumstances imagine that it will be like that.

    And if you're happy enough to leave it like that then thats ok. But if you really wanna find out what its like then go say hello and wipe your mind clean and let eveyting be new


  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    Cheers for the replies.

    I think one realisation to come out of this is that if you do have the hots for someone, go do something about it or youll regret it.

    Quirky guy, if I were you and Id the chance again Id try and so something about it. The guy in question that Im talking about is no longer about (live in a city so chances of seeing him is slim to none). Havent seen him in nearly 2 months.


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