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Cant let go of her - neither does she

  • 12-02-2010 8:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Im going to make this short.
    I met a girl a few years ago in 08 and since then we hit it off as good friends, after a while we somehow ended up seeing each other alot and had some good intimate times together.
    It was never really official that we were going out with each other, but we both felt that we were.
    Soon though she had to move home back abroad and this did put a dampner on what was becoming a good relationship with each other. When she was home, I never got around to saying to her how I felt and somewhat feel that I may have missed the right time to say it, but she was so rooted in her studies that I didnt want to mention it.
    She recently had to move to another country closer to here where she is studying her final course, when I was over with her I used the time when we were in person to tell her how I felt. I just blurted it out as I couldnt hold it in any longer. Her reaction was that she was confused. She still had a lot on her plate with college. Still didnt seem uncomfortable for the rest of the time there and continued on as if I never asked.
    I left without an answer from her, but she stayed in communication with me. Becasue I still had feelings for her, I felt it would be best to wait and see and use a proper time again.
    Things were taking too long so there was a time when she was on the phone that I said to her again how I felt and that it would be good if I knew how she felt. She used a recent event that happened to say that I wasnt thinking straight.
    I accepted that as a no from her and I said it would be a good thing if we took time appart from each other, as I really missed having her around in person.
    When I seen a recent photo of her, she was amazing, it was the straw that broke the cammels back for me as I couldnt stand seeing her and not being there with her, so I said I was going to take up my advise and take a break from her as I felt I was becoming sticky.
    As this was over IM, I never gave her a chance to reply and she sent many emails pleading that I didnt and she would miss me otherwise I even got a card from her. But I gave in, but only because I couldnt stand ignoring her. I've told her that I want her to know the way I feel before some other guy jumps in and takes her.
    What I really want to know from someone is what I should do? Should I just fight my feelings for her even though I cannot get a straight answer from her?
    Basically try my best to move on?


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  • #2
    wasper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 419 ✭✭wasper


    stillattracted wrote: »
    Im going to make this short.
    I met a girl a few years ago in 08 and since then we hit it off as good friends, after a while we somehow ended up seeing each other alot and had some good intimate times together.
    It was never really official that we were going out with each other, but we both felt that we were.
    Soon though she had to move home back abroad and this did put a dampner on what was becoming a good relationship with each other. When she was home, I never got around to saying to her how I felt and somewhat feel that I may have missed the right time to say it, but she was so rooted in her studies that I didnt want to mention it.
    She recently had to move to another country closer to here where she is studying her final course, when I was over with her I used the time when we were in person to tell her how I felt. I just blurted it out as I couldnt hold it in any longer. Her reaction was that she was confused. She still had a lot on her plate with college. Still didnt seem uncomfortable for the rest of the time there and continued on as if I never asked.
    I left without an answer from her, but she stayed in communication with me. Becasue I still had feelings for her, I felt it would be best to wait and see and use a proper time again.
    Things were taking too long so there was a time when she was on the phone that I said to her again how I felt and that it would be good if I knew how she felt. She used a recent event that happened to say that I wasnt thinking straight.
    I accepted that as a no from her and I said it would be a good thing if we took time appart from each other, as I really missed having her around in person.
    When I seen a recent photo of her, she was amazing, it was the straw that broke the cammels back for me as I couldnt stand seeing her and not being there with her, so I said I was going to take up my advise and take a break from her as I felt I was becoming sticky.
    As this was over IM, I never gave her a chance to reply and she sent many emails pleading that I didnt and she would miss me otherwise I even got a card from her. But I gave in, but only because I couldnt stand ignoring her. I've told her that I want her to know the way I feel before some other guy jumps in and takes her.
    What I really want to know from someone is what I should do? Should I just fight my feelings for her even though I cannot get a straight answer from her?
    Basically try my best to move on?
    I know how you feel because I have been there. She seems to want you around but then she is not forthcoming with her feelings. You had to tell her how you felt. It was like a weight off you shoulder.
    The ball is her court. She might be engrossed in her studies & thinks that you might be a distraction.
    I wish you good luck & hope it turns out for the best.


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