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How to convince a friend that she needs help

  • 12-02-2010 5:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi
    My friend has serious issues with dealing with stress. Her left hand is all cut because when she gets stressed she scratches it like mad.
    I know she has self esteem issues and shes very sensitive, I tried to convince her before to go speak to someone but its like talking to a brick wall. She just says stuff like "I can get through the ****" etc etc.
    She can but what kind of life is that to live?? I bring it up occasionally but its always met with the same response.
    To confound matters, my feelings for this girl have grown stronger (Im a man) and I wont her to be more than a friend. But I'm about to just ditch this whole friendship if I can't get her to see that she needs help, because I care about her and if she doesnt seek help then I will always be worried and I cant do that to myself.

    So I'm going to try one last ditch effort to make her do something about her problems but I'm not sure how to do it.
    Has anyone been in a similar situation?
    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    I suggest that you stop asking her to get help and not mention anything about it whatsoever. This will prove to be a bit of reverse psychology and I think that she'll then be the one to bring it up. When/if she does that, you'll know that she's prepared to talk about it as an adult, instead of hiding behind it by claiming she can handle it.

    Kevin


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